Husband goes round to another woman’s house, she doesn’t come round to ours?

[Anonymous]

This is getting on my nerves a little. My husband is studying for an exam. He knows a woman who is also studying for it. He goes to her house every week. She never comes to ours. Her home is bigger than ours however ours is still comfortable and has been newly decorated.

Am I in the wrong to feel a little offended/ uncomfortable with this?

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s shady and he is more than likely being up to no good with that girl , sounds like he is doing more than just studying with her , he is more than likely exploring her body as well , but before you jump to conclusions , best thing for you to do is wait for him to come home from her house , and act like you want to give him a blow job and Do some sniff tests on him , without him knowing you are , if he pushes you away and tells you he isn’t in the mood , you have your answer that he is fucking around on you and you are best to end things with him right then and there , Never let a cheater know you are onto them , they will cover their tracks even more, making it harder for you to bust them red handed. If he smells like he just got a shower when he gets home , that’s an indication that he showered at her house after he fucked her. Once you yell at him and call him a POS , demand you look at his phone , as well, if he does t hand over his phone , and he looks like a deer in headlights , you have your answer to end things with him immediately

[Asker]

That’s a good idea. I actually sniff him quite abit anyway, so if I did it casually I don’t think he’d be very aware. I’ll make sure to sniff after he’s come back from hers

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry you are going through this , I went through the same shit with my ex wife as well that was pulling shit like this on me out of no where. So if you ever need some advice and someone to talk to please feel free to inbox me and I can give ya some pointers on how to bust cheaters , I pretty much became pretty good at doing so sadly to say. But I will be happy to help you

[Makeushiver]

It depends on a lot of things most of which would require lots more of an explanation. You know more about these two any one on this site, I would imagine. Take away everything but what you know- not what you expect or catastrophize. If so, think of a couple of logical reasons why it makes you feel uncomfortable. Actually just srtick tothose type of questions such as ,"When you spend so much tome over there it , makes me a little scared that you are getrting something from there or her that you wish you were getting from me? If you keep away from accusations and justt stick to sentences that start with, "You make me feel", or, better yet, I feel such and such when you spend so much time anymore I don't get to see you and it makes me feel disrepested. AS long as you keep to phrases that begin with "this males me feel uncomfortable" he can't tell you that you're imagining things because you aren't accusing him of anything and sticking to statements about how it makes you feel. That's undeniable and he can't run the discussion off the tracks. Once you feel one way or the other about this, think of what your next steps should be even if he vehemently denies it. You aren't planning anything yet but it doesn't hurt to go through scenarios in your head. If it does happen you probably won't be thinking clearly and to have the first 72 hours planned, you don't need to worry about it.

[Screenwriter]

Uncomfortable with it is reasonable. Call her and invite her to study at your house. OR, better yet, go to her house WITH your husband and meet her and invite her in person.

I'm not suspicious of her. But something's awkward. It might solely be her. But you raise the bar. Shove your hand in her face, smile and tell her next time you two will study at OUR house! Can't wait to see you there!

Problem solved!

[Ariesman81]

Possessive... I like it!

[Kelly6]

@Screenwriter
Totally agree

[PeachyPie93]

Start hanging out with men and going to their houses alone, see how he reacts.. then set boundaries you are okay with..

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to help you navigate this stormy sea of emotions. Feeling uneasy when your husband visits another woman’s house regularly? Totally understandable, darling! 🎭 Consider a heart-to-heart chat with him about your feelings, without pointing fingers. Communication is your secret weapon! Who knows, maybe he hasn't realized how this is hitting your vibe. Remember, feeling like a love detective is no fun. 🕵️‍♀️ Keep it light and lovely, and you might just find that his trips to Love Study Central become less mysterious! 🌟💕

[ohsheeT]

Well you would think that he would turn it around just to understand how you do feel about it
and it's not right that he doesn't put himself in your shoes

because we both know if the table was turned.

He might be going to the same type of anxiety and I mean he has to understand that respect that

Have you said anything to him about it

[EmmaMary]

Perhaps he's going around for more than just studying for exams... Simples.

[strawberrybaby3]

No you’re not. He doesn’t know another man who’s studying for the exam? Something is definitely off.

[Alex-Snow]

He may think that she is uncomfortable around you? Do you trust him or do you thnk there is some cheating going on?

[exitseven]

No, if the studying is going good where he is maybe he is compartmentalizing it.

[Radiate143]

Yes. That's a boundary I wouldn't want crossed

[Staximus]

Two people getting married when they are still young and in college is stupid

[Raaj4you]

I think your husband is sleeping with that woman.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, that is suspicious.

[Jmmmfi4]

TELL THEM TO GO TO A LIBRARY

[Texaskid1]

Sharing is caring.

[elifbrn]

You feel definitely right

[Crazzyyworld]

All men hate their own life

[sindibella12]

congratulations, you were be cheated

[spartan55]

No you are not.

[Anonymous]

Are you interested in a 3some?