*Advice Needed* Updated from my question about whether to get attached to someone who only wants to keep things casual, what do to do now?

[Anonymous]

So similar to my last question about getting attached to someone who only wants things casual. We've done quite a bit together (hangout, work, college, sex, etc.)

For an update, we did talk about it and he said he does like me but he doesn't want a relationship or any sort of dating in general. He also doesn't want my family to get the impression that he is using me or leading me on. I don't know if maybe that's his way of letting me down because I like him in a romantic sense and maybe he just likes me enough to sleep with? ( the whole casual thing) As of for right now, I am enjoying what we have going but I just worry that time will end quickly.

I've come to terms that I've gotten some form attachment and who wouldn't with someone they have sex with or talk to 24/7. I just am scared that he'll find another chick and decides a relationship with her or I'll just be left in the dust with no closure. I've had that happen to me before while being in a relationship. And a part of me has a worry of not being good enough.

I just got out of a relationship a bit ago and maybe this is the type of scenario to teach me that I need to just focus on myself and independency and you know casual is a way to do things without having that "commitment", even though as previous statements say, I am quite the opposite of all that and already have a "unsaid commitment" to said guy I've been talking about. 😂

Whether it be insight or advice, it'd be appreciated, or if anyone has dealt with a similar situation I would like to hear how they handled it.

It all seems so silly but hearing other opinions help ease my mind, thanks!

[Fromdusktilldawn]

A lot of young folks nowadays are afraid to attach themselves to another person, they are afraid of binding. Social media is partly to blame. Young folks think: "If I settle down now, I might miss so many other opportunities. There are so many cool things you can do and experience instead of settling down. A relationship will put a break on my freedom, I have no longer 100% control of what happens etc. What if things dont go out well, I dont want another breakup or any other emotional damage"

[Asker]

That is very true, sometimes it's all about that risk to take and whether we truly pursue our wants. I appreciate your response very much.
I know I guess "my guy" understands the whole risk of attachment thing for himself but I guess it isn't enough for a full commitment and maybe I might just be slightly blinded by my own hope but who's to say in the future things won't change, whether it be a couple weeks from now to months, we have no way of telling. It's just bizarre that two people can feel the same things towards each other and yet not give anything a shot, truly crazy.