This girl told me that she has such an attachment syndrome, which may make her feel triggered by various situations, such as emotional intimacy, losing control of their emotions, criticism, and feeling suffocated or dependent. Is it possible to be in a relationship with such a person who has an avoidant attachment style?
You're wondering about being in a relationship with someone who has an avoidant attachment style. People with avoidant attachment often value their independence and self-sufficiency highly. They might seem a bit distant or as if they're guarding their emotions. It's not that they don't have feelings or care about the relationship; it's more like they're not super comfortable with being too emotionally dependent or vulnerable.
Here's the kicker: communication and understanding are key. If you're with someone who has an avoidant attachment style, it helps to understand where they're coming from. They might need more space than others, and pushing them too hard for emotional closeness can backfire.
For the avoidant person, it might mean gradually learning to open up and trust more. For their partner, it could be about respecting their need for space while gently encouraging emotional closeness.
I've seen relationships where one person had an avoidant style and the other didn't, and they worked out great. It took a lot of patience, communication, and sometimes a bit of compromise. On the flip side, I've also seen situations where it just didn't work out because the emotional needs were too different.
So yeah, it's totally possible, but like any relationship, it requires effort, understanding, and a bit of patience. At first, you might step on each other's toes, but with practice, you can create something really harmonious.
Usually when someone is showing you something about them, that makes them upset, avoidant, distance, whatever symptoms or character traits they showing. It’s because there is something that triggered it, they are protecting a part about themselves. It’s because there is something missing, something is not being communicated.
On your part of you wish to have a relationship with them, starts with Patients, communication, understanding. The minutes you change your perspective and not taking that on the person, and the results you see on the surface, and you search for the roots causes and understand, you’re on your way for a solution with that person with your intended objective.
You would be on high alert at all timesnever knowing when she's going to go off, or blow up.
Unless you are addicted to negative excitement, I would have to say No! It is not possible.
I've never heard of a mental condition referred to as a "Style". Attachment style huh? Hum - I would look it up and study that "style".
u Do you really want to ask "is it POSSIBLE?" The answer to that question is "yes, it is possible, but. . ."
Shouldn't the real question be "can I have an enjoyable and satisfying relationship with a girl like this?" It's unlikely. Eventually you will encounter the problems she is describing and it will frustrate you tremendously.
If y'all can communicate and be self-aware about your reactions then you can make it work. Avoidant attachment is something that can be worked on and healed, so making the effort to work on it and take accountability is as much a sign of commitment as anything else from an avoidantly attached partner.
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I had this problem and it’s tricky and very difficult.
These people are often hypersensitive and got burned very badly by somebody (ies) in their past. They put up walls out of fear to avoid dealing with same hellish experience again. They WANT to fully and completely trust someone unconditionally. But they have concluded to themselves that is impossible.
It wouldn't be on your shopping list but I guess you could deal with it. Did the girl self diagnose. Self justification syndrome might be the underlying cause. Most girls suffer from that.
You can but you will always feel like they don't actually want you.. and it will probably be a stressful relationship..
I didn't even know that was a thing, but it sounds kinda like me... and the longest I've managed to stay in a relationship for was about 2 years... and it got really toxic. So maybe not.
What about physical intimacy. If the Answer is no as well she is interested in something material
Ugh why would you want to? That sounds horribly exhausting.
Nah, move on. The reason she has this attachment style is having been run through by Chad Thundercock.
Yes but it won't be easy
impossible
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