How can I date guys if I’m a guarded girl? Is it possible to have a good relationship?

[Anonymous]

My last relationship ended because my guy was very distant and it was hard for me to open up to him. Not because I didn’t try at first, but as soon as I sensed he was kind of a distant guy, I shut down immediately. And was hard to let him in.

I have a hard time trusting people or letting them in because I’m shy/reserved and had a hard childhood, and I don’t usually initiate affection but I’m fine receiving it. But I do make the effort to meet people, go on dates, and put myself out there. That’s the only thing. I’m an interesting person and try my best I just can’t be affectionate so I get beat by these girls who are so bubbly.

The new girl he’s with, she’s affectionate, bubbly, more fashionable than me, young, and touches him almost constantly (had to meet her once) and it just makes me sick, bc I can’t be like that.

How can I date guys if I’m guarded? Do y’all have any advice?

[Berethor]

Some guys prefer shy girls, and as a girl you are not expected to do much.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MenActWomenAre

[Pyrofox]

Best tip is when you find a keeper be the bubbly inside self around him XD.

[Luckycharms12]

Stop holding back let yourself go. You never try you will never know

[random_girl95]

@Luckycharms12 agree with you but if she is says she is guarded how can she overcome her inner self self holding back?

[Luckycharms12]

That's way I see it didn't however say it eloquently as you tho lol