Has your significant other's ex spouse contacted you about crazy stuff they did?

[Anonymous]

This whole thing has honestly been killing my mental health.

This guy I am with has been incredible to me for a couple months. Then said he needed space because he was overwhelmed with being a full time single dad, working even more, and his mental health declining. I just let it be because I got stuff too. He still would talk to me, etc.. we just wouldn't hang out too. I started to emotionally detatch myself because I was hurt.

His ex wife called me randomly and asked if we were talking. I told her we were. She said that he has been trying to get back with her for the past month.. She also said he was drinking a lot, and has been taking their kids to sleep over at another woman's house (he'd sleep over too." She also said that he has a history of beating her. I was CRUSHED

I confronted him, and he said she's crazy and just runs her mouth. He said that when he was asleep, she came over, snuck in, and looked though his phone. He said that she hit him in the back of the head and bit him when she found out about me. Then he says I am very important to him and that I am beautiful.

Honestly, a big part of me believes her.. but I am so delusional wanting him to be right because of how happy he made me before all of this happened. Quotations in "made" because now it's hard to trust anything he says, even though i want his so badly to be right. I second guess everything he says. I am also confused because I wonder, would a man really be that evil and selfish to tell another girl she's special while still trying to get with his wife amd lie? Does she just want him so bad that she'll do anything to ruin a relationship he has? Am I a placeholder? Probably. He says I'm not, but its not convincing. Both him and her have serious accusations against eachother. My trust issues are through the roof. I am dead on the inside, and I feel like I give all I can to someone but still get let down. The connection went away because I'm not mentally there and my heart is broken.

[AI Opinion]

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[PeachyPie93]

Luckily I only dated 2 virgins so never had to deal with this mess.. But I don't know he pulled away so I kind of believe the woman more since why would she sneak in the house and check his phone if they are exes? But they both seem crazy, I would let it go.

[lightbulb27]

I don't know I'm just glad I'm not in that mess.

There will have to be full openness, of phone, where he's at etc.. to build trust.