Was it ok to be honest about seeing promise rings as immaturity and pointless?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 2 years (I'm 26 and he's 32) asked what I thought of a promise ring. He wanted my opinion and so I gave him my honest answer.

I pointed out that unless we would've met in HS and were minors or recent HS graduates in our first year of college it's really childless and overall pointless. I've also explained that teens and adults make promises differently and how there is an age for certain things. Teens can do the promise rings of supposely promising to settle down one day once older, out of college and both financially stable. Meanwhiles for adults, there are no such things as promise rings, it's an actually engagement ring.

Honestly I would not accept it and would translate it as a sign of Peter Pan syndrome for a 32 year-old man and an attempt to string me along. He thanked me for my opinion but it didn't sound like that's the answer he would've wanted to hear. Though if you're going to ask for someone's opinion, I guess you shouldn't be surprised if that's not the answer you wanted.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, because that is precisely what they are.

[Asker]

Exactly. In the adult world (when you're no longer a HS teen), it's either an engagement ring or no ring at all if he isn't going to propose.

[princeofromance]

Yes, because they are pointless and immature.

[Asker]

Exactly. Only a foolish woman would accept that past age 20. In my mind, I don't really understand promise rings, promise to what... I don't get it.

[princeofromance]

I never understood that hog wash either. There's a better way to show a person that you care about them.

[slatyb]

I completely agree. What exactly is he promising?

[Asker]

Indeed. I don't understand why some adults over age 20 are still into that.