Are promise rings stupid?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I want to get each other promise rings instead of getting engaged at the moment because we are both in college and have bills and tuition to pay and neither of us can afford an actual engagement ring or a wedding. My parents think the idea is stupid but they also don't want me to get engaged at the moment. How do you feel about promise rings? What would you do in this case?

[JustPromiseRings]

Promise rings are extremely popular and we find we sell out of certain designs often in our store and hard to keep up with demand - our store specialises in promise rings and we get both guys and girls buying promise rings for themselves or their lovers as a gift, or matching pairs together.

They're still really popular among celebrities too. Eg. Robert Pattinson gave Kristen Stewart a promise ring for her birthday while Kylie Jenner received a promise ring from her boyfriend Tyga.

It really depends on your relationship and if you feel it's right for you. We often get customers who tell us that they just love having a symbol of their lover to carry with them always, and when they look at it they smile, it's special because it's not for anyone else, it's for them. :)

We have promise rings ranging from $20AU all the way to $100+ but most people spend around $50AU. Have a look around if you like at:

Best wishes to you and your partner, hope you a very happy life together :)

[btbc92]

You're parents are wrong. If you want to get married now then do it if that us what you can handle and really want to do. If you two want promise rings then get them. It's nobody else concern what you two decide to do. What matters is that you both do something with your lives and not date just to fool around until your ready to get serious. You two should already be serious. Respect your parents yes, but this is your life and you have to make the call.

[btbc92]

I also don't have much an opinion on promise rings except for one thing. When thag person makes a vow only to break it out of selfishness. In all respect, you two should already feel dedicated enough to not need one. But it is still your choice. I just don't agree with the idea like virginity pledges and the ring to prove something to somebody when that person is using it because they lacked self-discipline and self-control. Only do it because you want to, not because you need it.

[Vesuvius87]

I don't think there is a point in promise rings to be honest. You're already in a relationship and doing things for each other. Besides promises can be broken. I suggest continue with your studies and save money for a real wedding in the future.
A promise ring is a definite way to get a guy more motivated to never propose to you.

[Asker]

I disagree my boyfriend and I are very committed towards each other and we are fully committed to an engagement but we simply cannot afford one. I can save an spend $50 on a promise ring but an actual engagement ring would cost $500+ which is something that right now would cost me more than 3 months rent.

[Vesuvius87]

I would say the female Anonymous poster has good points. There are affortable engagement rings too that don't cost too much.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

A promise ring isn't necessary , but it's a nice gesture for those who are sentimental at heart.

A promise ring is supposed to be a symbol to represent someone's commitment to you , so it's not stupid if that's one of the ways he wants to show he's committed to you. I'd appreciate the gesture

[vincjh]

Well, I bought a promise ring for me and my girlfriend. We're still a bit ways off before getting married so an engagement ring is a bit illogical now. To me, I like it. I love showing off that I managed to promise my girlfriend a future with her. And flaunting off a ring doesn't hurt (; I've never taken it off. I think it's great that you guys wanna do that, go for it!

For guys you'd expect to say like "oh, he's losing all girls attention cause he wears a ring." Trust me, girls find men who manage to promise his love to a girl very attractive as well.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, they are stupid. It's like pretend being engaged for people who aren't engaged.

[Tdieseler]

The rings aren't stupid... its the people giving them out that are. Promise of what? when it comes to relationships... all rings are stupid... and object... meant to "symbolize"...
Fuck that shit... the only symbol that should matter should be the Person... not some stupid object...
YES, its stupid, but not the object, the people.
this is a harsher version of what @Jonquill said... yea.. i know :( my delivery sucks...

[Anonymous]

Promise ring is not a thing. One gets engaged and later gets married. What the heck is a promise ring? Just wait until you can get engaged like the rest of the humanity. What are you even promising? That you eventually get engaged which itself is a promise to get married?
Lol you kids trying to play grownups!

[kilowatt04]

Promises as a whole are pretty stupid. If you love each other, just love each other. :) Marriage can wait until the cost/benefit becomes to where it makes sense. Love does not have to wait.

[JacquelineBuan]

I think it's extremely sweet :) my boyfriend gave me a promise ring because he knew from like day 1 he wanted to marry me but I'm way too young for that so instead of being under pressure to wed we wear promise rings instead :)

[Anonymous]

Dumb. Save the money to put toward an engagement ring. It's a cheap thing to make a girl shut up about getting engaged.

[Asker]

A promise ring though would cost maybe $50 and an engagement ring could cost $500 or more. I can spend $50 but $500+ is something that both of us are completely unable to do. I know you say "just save" but I don't have a lot of money to save.

[Opinion Owner]

If your finances aren't in order. You should not be getting married any way at this time. It's best to be stable before trying to get married. You two are not ready. A promise ring means nothing just like a marriage. It all comes down to being together and keeping your promises to one another. You don't need a ring for that.

[Asker]

While I appreciate your input, you cannot tell me whether my relationship is ready for a marriage or not. Although finances are a large part of a marriage in the end it is about being dedicated to one another which we are. We have both worked extremely hard to get to where we currently are and we are working extremely hard to get to where we need to go. I understand that this is your opinion but knowing absolutely nothing about my relationship or my life you cannot tell me what I am ready and not ready for. Thank you for your opinion but I am going to disagree.

[Vesuvius87]

OP I think you should listen to this Anonymous poster. Why do you need a promise ring to remind you that you're in a committed relationship and that you love each other? That $50 you spend on a promise ring should be saved slowly for the real engagement.

[mattmanyah]

I think the way y'all are doing it is sweet... but I only want to buy 2 sets of rings the wedding and the mission field (engraved wooden ones so whoever I marry never gets mugged over some jewelry)

[fauchelevent]

Ehh, I don't like promise rings, I think they're just kinda stupid. In your case, I'd just wait to get engaged until I was in a more stable position, or I'd just get engaged anyway and not buy a ring.

[lostgirl_searching]

Promise rings are not stupid in my opinion, I still think it's sweet. My boyfriend and I gave each other one, and even if we didn't, I always thought promise rings are sweet.

[lostgirl_searching]

If it means a lot to you both, go for it.

[Jonquill]

A little bit stupid, but not as stupid as purity rings.

Commitment and intention are what is in your heart, not what you wear on your finger.

[Tdieseler]

hahahaha... HAHAHAHA... omg... This made my morning/(night)... you are funny as hell..

[beautifulangel76]

I think it's pointless. Technically I think it's better to have an engagement ring. You can find nice inexpensive rings on eBay.

[someho]

It's cute but that doesn't mean anything. You can still stay together or break up w/o promise rings. It's no longer what it used to be.

[scgurl2016]

promise rings are so weird to me. it's like an engagement ring for an engagement ring. but if you're gonna get engaged anyway, and can't afford nice ones, then go for it

[HaveNoName]

I know the answer you want to hear is No. But in all honesty, yes, they are pointless and borderline stupid. If you want to treat them as a childish gift of love however, fine... go ahead.

[Carley99]

They are stupid and a waste of money your not in high school anymore.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yes... it should be obvious once Disney was pushing it as a thing.

[Anonymous]

They don't really have a traditional purpose or an agreed-upon meaning really, but if you two want to exchange them and it holds meaning to you, then you should do what makes you happy.

[Mikeeboyy]

I did. But I was dumb and bought a $3500 ring now I'm dealing with having to buy a better one

[JustinTheGreat]

If you like the idea, its your relationship so get them if you want

[catelyntje]

No if I had an boyfriend I would want to get an promise ring also I think they are adorable

[Patriot357]

Yeah because promises can always be broke like glass

[behappybabe]

Promise rings are very sweet.

[TheCrimsonPath97]

No. I think it's very sweet.

[JSmuve]

Ya, promise rings are pretty stupid.

[AllThingsQuestioned]

Promise rings don't have to be expensive =)

[Dred1614returns]

I still don't get the point of them.

[Seni505]

I think it's cute

[serious]

Yes, they are.

[Anonymous]

Yes that's childish shit you do in high school.

[Heemus_Christ]

yup. just stupid

[CT_CD]

They're stupid

[Anonymous]

no it is sweet

[Anonymous]

Yes, They're stupid.