Girls, if your boyfriend cried in front of you, would it change your perception of him?

[Julie4]

I was talking with a guy, and he told me that if a man cried in front of his girlfriend, she would consider him weak. I didn't agree with him, but for him it's feminine hypocrisy to pretend otherwise.

[Zack-Bann]

I think it’s more a matter of of balance than it is a binary situation.


A man can be vulnerable to the point of tears on certain occasions if he’s also strong and capable and unfazed on others.


No one likes a crybaby. That’s just a basic fact


So if a man is constantly up in his emotions and breaking into tears every time life isn’t going perfectly well he will quickly become annoying and unattractive.


That being said I don’t think that men should bottle their emotions when true tragedy strikes, it anything that also is a weakness


So it’s all in the balance, like most things

[RavVid]

On one site a woman said she could no longer see a male actor the same way after his role required him to cry.

I was privileged to know a WW2 bomber pilot in his 80's. I made the mistake of asking him a question once. Tears welled up in his eyes. I don't know what he was remembering - smashed up, ripped apart bodies I guess. This was a man that when he went to work, he was shot at and sometimes the memories were clearly highly traumatic.

The female side of his family called him a crybaby and disrespected him.

So I do think it changes a woman's perception despite what might be said.

[midnightmoon05]

Depends what he is crying about lol…say if he broke and glass 😂 or if his closed grandma died… I would hope he cries in front of me

I would love him more when he can cry in fron to me.
thus tells me he trusts me 💯. And no one else. Wouldn’t want a man cry with another woman.

if I am to have a forever relationship with him…. And him with me…we are transparent, supportive towards good and bad times.

any couple where the man is not able to be vulnerable …. to me…it’s kinda fake.
i know some who can fight like crazy… but can’t be loving from the deepest of their heart. It’s sad.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Not in the slightest. I think it takes more of a man to be able to show emotion than one who stays emotionally distant from me.

[AviatorTom]

I would hope it would depend on why he's crying. If he's crying because his parents just died, that's perfectly normal, and his girlfriend should be supportive. If he's crying because someone ate the last cookie, that's another story. 😐

[TheRealPepperPotts]

It depends entirely on the situation.

[OneViewpoint]

If a man shows any weakness in front of a woman, her opinion goes from romantic prospect to friend material immediately. No matter what women claim to the contrary.

Suck it up guys. Hold it in and march on like men have been doing for thousands of years. Take that shit to your grave.

[OneViewpoint]

The truth is that women are not the loving caring nurturing creatures society pretends them to be when it comes to their men.

Men are judged on what they can provide tomorrow. Emotional control and physical security is #1 on every woman’s list. She will dump an emotional guy like yesterdays trash.

[hahahmm]

From a male POV women change their minds a lot. Depending on mood/feelings/random dreams. But sure, from your POV you may be/believe 100% in what you say today.

There IS a reason why for eons men haven't shared emotions like women do. We're not built the same. What works for women doesn't work for men. The guys who express more like women always have less self-control too which is way more dangerous in women then in men.

[abc3643]

Numerous times women on this site have said that they've seen their boyfriends cry and they immediately got turned-off and "could never see him the same way again" meaning permanently turned-off.

We may not like this, but, for many women, this is reality which is why men are evolved (after all, mate selection is really done mostly by women) to not express themselves like that.

[NathanDavis]

he's not man yet... that's why he's that obtuse

but also, depends on what you're crying for you know...

if you start shedding a couple of tears because Aaron Rodgers just signed with your NFL team as a quarterback, then yes... it is absolutely understandable why a man would cry, THAT, IS, TRULY, ROUGH!!

[Cormac995]

Don't forget Boramire and Theodens deaths in lord of the rings. Also, the death of Christopher Lee would be acceptable.

[NathanDavis]

@Cormac995 I always heard of that movie "Rudy" which, would make grown men cry...

I've not seen it myself, though

[Cormac995]

same

[Cormac995]

By the way if you watch the Anime "Angle Beats" and you don't cry you have no soul.

[NathanDavis]

@Cormac995 I know of few who get in the feels with Naruto...

[Cormac995]

I never really watched Naruto in my opinion most anime is below average trash but "Angle Beats" was a fucking emotional roller-coaster and the ending hit so freaking hard. It's one of my favorite amines and I never want to watch it again and somehow that's a deep compliment. "Spice and wolf" Is also a great Anime and the Manga is even better it's not as emotional though it's more of a slice of life with a subtle romance. One of the things that's cool about it is they actually go into a lot of detail about medieval economics, and I think most of it is historically accurate based on my own research.

[PeachyPie93]

No I stayed with a guy for 9 more years because he cried.. I don't like hurting people, like that lol.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women destroy men who cry. I remember reading about a woman who divorced her husband after he cried at his mother's funeral. They had two kids and that one moment of weakness "gave her the ick", and she destroyed their marriage and children.

[alice55]

Depend for what he cry and how he cry, if he's full on sobbing yes I would consider it badly but if he try to hold it and cry without noise for a real reason then I would be ok.

[danielle872024]

I dealt with men crying all my life no they are not weak they are human when they do I hold them as they cry

[serious]

I think it is fine if it happens once or twice but not on a regular basis. Otherwise a woman sees the man as weak and lose respect for him

[glennos89]

The sad thing is that a lot of woman pretend to be emotionally supportive for their guy but in reality turn out to be the exact opposite of being supportive

[exitseven]

I think that most girls will say that if their boyfriends cried the would not change their perception of him. However I bet a lot of them would think he was a wimp.

[msc545]

I cry in films and music concerts all the time, specifically for sad scenes and beautiful music. I am far from being a wimp but I do have a soul.

[exitseven]

@msc545 I cried at the end on Avengers Endgame.

[msc545]

Ok...

[DJB72]

It's an exclusively Western society issue. Crying physically releases stress. It's healthy to release certain things through tears.

[John_Cobretti]

I don't know, I've heard so many men online and offline say that their wife/girlfriend have used their vulnerabilities against them in arguments.

[Nikki1989]

I would be more concerned if he never cried.

[RyanEC]

I’m not a girl but I’ll give my opinion and say I don’t think so.

[princeofromance]

I would hope not, I have cried in front of my girl in the past.

[UknowJT93]

for few times 2 or 3 maybe okay... after that same mistake never accepted

[chrissykerdock]

real men don't cry

[dustybiker2]

Human emotions are nothing to fear.

[chocolatetwopointo]

no, i dont think id care