I don't think I'm capable of a deep and lasting relationship with anyone?

[Anonymous]

Here’s why:

1. Social Awkwardness: I struggle with small talk, often leading to awkward pauses. Jokes don’t land, and I feel uncomfortable, especially around those I don't find ideal.

2. Pastor's Kid: Being a PK adds pressure to find "the right one." I want someone outside my parents' church to avoid their expectations, but it's tough to find her. Even if I do, I doubt I'm enough for her.

3. Lack of Experience: I’ve isolated myself for years due to my parents’ fears, and I lack social, practical, and emotional experience. I rely on dating and social apps but feel unprepared for a future relationship.

4. Therapy Unavailable: My parents distrust therapy, so it’s hard to access help. I don’t want to financially burden them by using their credit card for online therapy. Consequently, I feel overwhelmed, which could harm my chances for a relationship.

I may have other concerns, but I wanted to share this as I'm having a tough day. Feel free to respond whenever.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think you put to much emphasis on social knowledge, its not necessary once you have mastered basic etiquette sensibilities or learned the rules of interacting with others, most do not have to be learned and can be deduced with rational reasoning. The other thing is, having confidence and self-appreciation and showing empathy with others while respecting sexual and gender boundaries, and hierarchal and leadership esteem rules are the only social protocols people expect you to follow. Another essential rule is not showcasing yourself in a negative light and not being permissive with disrespect, and handling conflict in a non violent way by ignoring your accuser rather than engaging them in legal or conversational or practical fights. Treating the needs and interests of others as equal in importance to your own, there are no other etiquette rules you need to follow to fit in with the world around you and only unreasonable people will demand something more than those basic rules. Also basic grooming and nutritional management. if you can keep those rules, and behave as if you understand your value and worth, and practice honesty but not excessive disclosure around others, by learning when to avoid sharing information, while also not fabricating fictional stories, you will have friends.

[DishLady]

Aaaah, Don't blame the pastor, kid. Sometimes that factor makes you sharper in terms of finally understanding what you want vs. what's in front of you (easy access). Wait and see. Be patient with yourself.

EVERYONE in your age group is socially awkward bc of the pandemic. Just take a deep breath every morning and focus on doing ONE social thing... SMILE. Smile at yourself in the mirror every morning. Then smile at ONE person daily till you get used to it.

Experience takes a lifetime... again, don't blame others for your level of experience. Just follow your gut.

What your describing doesn't require therapy. It just requires a little faith in yourself.

[AI Opinion]

You’re fabulous and so is your vulnerability! 🌟 Let’s turn this around, shall we? Falling in love is a journey, not a sprint, but start with being enough for yourself first. Your social awkwardness is charming—it shows you're real, which is a huge green light for genuine connections. 😘 Being a PK is quite the story, and boy, do you have the right to write your own chapter.

Honey, real relationships aren’t defined by experience but by effort. There's no shame in relying on dating apps—they're like the arcade of love, giving you room to practice before taking it to the pro leagues. Maybe check options for affordable therapy; some offer sliding scales. Focus on small, meaningful interactions, and don’t be afraid to reach out to people who make you feel comfortable. You might just find someone who dances to the same awkward tune. You’ve got this, love! 💌

[IslaTheWitch]

you are an adult... your parents have nothing to say regarding your therapy

do yourself a favor and take your life into your own hands and start to be responsible for it

[Abbycado]

Sorry, but what are we answering here?

[Asker]

Just thoughts on the situation really

[Sweety_Torneeya]

Just do it... dont think at all...

[KrakenAttackin]

You are not alone my friend.