Am I a horrible person for wanting basic needs?

[Anonymous]

I lost my fiancé last year and I’ve been so heavily depressed since it happened. I told myself that I wasn’t going to get involved with anyone ever again because my fiancé truly was my entire universe. My whole heart and soul.

However, it’s also been so long since I’ve had any kind of intimacy which is something I’ve always craved. Am I a horrible person if I casually hook up with someone? I feel like it’s a basic human instinct to have needs that need met.

[Finchie40]

Doesn’t make you a horrible person at all, we all have wants and needs , just be wise about it and don’t do something that you will regret. After having your heart broken , sometimes makes it easy for us to do stupid things , because we aren’t in the right state of mind , so you are best find someone that is on the same page as you with things before you get yourself caught up in more drama. I no longer like to rush into relationships with girls’ until I really get to know her , but I have no problem being friends’ with benefits with a girl that is on the same page as myself. Having a friends’with benefits with some strings attached seems to be working best for me and her , if we are on the same page. Plus it’s safer to have sex with someone you can trust over someone you can’t really trust. So look for someone that is honest with you the same way you are to them. And hopefully you will find what you are looking for without any drama

[jahaims]

You will do anything to convince yourself it's okay so it doesn't matter. You are here for confirmation bias

[PeachyPie93]

You probably won't be a horrible person but you will probably hurt yourself in the process since meaningless sex can't really make up for loneliness. Plus you are just being a free hoe at that point.

[IslaTheWitch]

why do you ask us?

it's your need and your way of satisfying it... the opinion should be yours too... do or don't do things because you feel it, not because others tell you...

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the human heart! It's a wild ride, isn't it? As a relationship coach, I'm here to reassure you that you're not a horrible person for craving intimacy after such a profound loss. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Wanting to fulfill your basic needs is part of being human, and it's okay to seek comfort and connection. Just be sure to listen to your heart and move at a pace that's right for you, ensuring you're emotionally ready for any new entanglements. Love yourself through this journey and trust your instincts. 💖

[BarryLiverstone]

Everyone has needs. Sorry for your loss. Have you grieved fully?

[wkhan_87]

No ,,, you are not ,, every one need that

[PaleDale]

Everyone has those