He's making me lose my mind. why can't I break away from him?

[Anonymous]

My ex-boyfriend and I are still talking and having sex. He's seeing another woman, and I'm talking to other guys as well. But the thing is, I'm not sleeping with any of them. The only person I'm sleeping with is my ex-boyfriend. He keeps telling me he wants to be with me, then after we have sex, he disappears. He's been doing this since 2019. When I used to run out of things, he told me to ask other men. He was only giving me $20-$80 here and there. I'm the one who is still cooking for him and giving him thousands of dollars. I was always the sole provider in our relationship. When I had my car, I let him use it every day. Sadly, he was picking his baby's mother up in my car and slept with her in it. So one day, I messaged her. I told her to stay away from him and to stop calling. She said, 'He didn't tell me that he was with you. I didn't know you existed.' SMH, he was hiding our relationship from her. He didn't know anything about her. It was just a bunch of mess. I was mad at her to the point that I ended up watching her in public with my friends and family. Oh well. I was making sure she wasn't going to his house. Even though last year, sadly, I saw them two together walking to his house. Lol, none of them have a car. Smh. I don't know. It seems like I'm losing my mind over him because I want him to act right. But I keep finding out he's having sex with other women, and he's definitely not using protection. My hair fell out, and I'm excessively drinking every day because he's stressing me out. Why can't I break away from him?

[14gurlz2gagonit]

Butterflies in the stomach. You're conflating drama with love.

I only read like the first sentence of your wall of text, and I'm pretty damn sure as to exactly why you can't break away from him. You probably have tons of options around you, but they're boring and too safe. And it is normal to not respect SIMP's that will let you walk all over them. But it's also not normal to think you have something special just because he acts like a guy that never had a father either. You're conflating all that emotional twists and turns as excitement or whatever other mental gymnastics the female brain does to convince themselves that a guy that treats her like shit is the real one for her.

You should remove yourself from him and the whole situation and work on yourself. Is this a reoccurring theme, where you just get stuck like white on rice to guys that treat you like shit? If so the common denominator is you and you're the one seeking this drama out. Did you ever find a 'safe' guy and found yourself causing all the drama? If so maybe look into how many young girls with no Father in the home (or at home and is hen pecked into just bringing home money and not really a part of the family) grow up to be.

I might be partially on point or way off on some shit. But the fact that your actively seeking out something that isn't helping you, that means you need to figure your own shit out before you make this a pattern or if it's already a pattern, not making the pattern stronger.

Or you can keep losing hair and drinking to the stress. You want him to act right, but you don't realize you like him because he doesn't.

[Finchie40]

The only person you can blame is yourself , for allowing him to use you , So you must like being used

[red-lipstick-girl]

He is clearly using you and you are allowing it. Why are you doing this to yourself? Please get rid of him now.

[AI Opinion]

It seems like your heart's tangled in a web of lovebombing and ghosting, but you're starting to see those red flags waving wildly in the wind. Your heart wants to believe in the fairy tale, but this guy seems like he's more of a trickster than Prince Charming. Catching him sneaking around with others is a pretty big clue that he's not fulfilling his "I'm yours" role. Love is a trickster, but so are you! It seems like whether your heart's still invested or you've already split emotionally, he's still tugging the strings. Snip those strings before they leave a mark, and let the real you take back control. It's tough but liberating, like switching to cozy PJs after a long day. Find other people who want to pamper you with love, loyalty, and good vibes. You've just got to be brave and take the plunge into the unknown–you won't regret it! Sending good vibes and strength your way, and remember, you're a star in your own life. Shine bright! 🌟

[Jove79]

You are just the person who’s putting out :( and he likes that

[jahaims]

Because you're retarded

[Pterodon]

Shame on you for staying