How this guy I love keeps running away from a relationship, but won't let me go?

[Anonymous]

We have found ourselves in a circle of problems and commitment issues so many times. I feel that he wants me be can't be in a relationship. I couldn't understand that in the last 2 years of being together. I kept running away from him because I was afraid of getting hurt, but he wouldn't let me go, and every time he promised he would try to change things between us because he was aware of the things he was doing, the issue is that I know that everyone would say he doesn't love me or want anything serious with me, but I have never felt something so strong inside of me telling me he does love me but something is standing in between. He was always beside me when I needed him, he always made sure we keep talking and fix our problems, it is that feeling you get from someone you know that won't hurt you. I was so confused and I told myself that if he loved he'd say so and will take the relationship seriously, and I started making problems and ending everything with him every chance that I get by blocking him. I have convinced myself it is for the best to stay away from him even though I have never forgotten about him, and he was the first to reach out after several breakups I caused just because I thought he wasn't committing enough. we would argue 5 times a month because I am thinking he doesn't love me and I want to run away from him. A few days ago we had to argue again (a toxic one I know) he finally spoke and told me that he was trying to have a normal relationship but every time I cause an argument he steps back thinking he is not right for a relationship and we''ll end up being hurt if we have something too serious and it ends because of a small problem. that is why he was afraid at the first place. he committed he felt just the way I did, and how much he is not ready to lose me. I understand that I might be so demanding or that I let go of him easily but I do Love him. what shall I do?

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I think you both need some couple counselling.

He seems afraid of commitment, and you seem to be afraid of getting hurt.

It's a on and off relationship that's messing everything up and getting kinda toxic.

So, who am I to say what u should do with ur own life, right?

But I think professionals might help a lot, if you still want to give this situationship a chance.

[Asker]

yes, it is so toxic and in the last couple of weeks I had to think of walking away from this and I did just that. It was a hard decision but it is the right thing to do

[Opinion Owner]

Yeahh. I'm glad to know you've made the right decision. As Ariana Grande says.. : "Thank you, next" 😅

Jokes aside, it must have been a really hard decision for u. Hope you'll find someone that really cares and respects you soon.

[Asker]

Hahah Exactly, the song is so perfect for this situation.

But thank you anyways, it was helpful reading your reply

[Opinion Owner]

You're most welcome, I'm glad my reply was of any help ☺

[Anonymous]

He's afraid of commitment, but won't admit it. So he's trying hang onto you anyway he can.

[Asker]

Well, he should ask himself if it's me who he really wants. because he seems so unsure

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with you.

[Asker]

Thank youuu, it was nice getting an answer