My boyfriend said I had a little bit of a belly, is that a red flag?

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he tells me im beautiful all the time, and he doesn't seem to mind the little pooch, but i feel rinda hurt

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

If he had a REAL problem with it, you'd know it. He was probably just giving you a gentle push to pay attention to it. It doesn't sound like he was mean about it or anything.

I'm sure you have pointed out things to your boyfriend that were similar - maybe he needed to take a shower, or some other personal thing. And even if you weren't mean about it, it can be easy to feel offended or hurt, even when the thing is true. But you have to give each other a bit of grace, and appreciate that he communicates honestly with you. It would be far worse if he was really bothered by it, but lied to you for a while, and then suddenly broke things off out of nowhere with no warning. Some people do that sort of thing, because they can't or won't communicate honestly with their partner, and that always ends up much worse.

14gurlz2gagonit · Accepted Answer

It's a red flag that you're getting to fat. Do something about it already. Sure he still loves you... I say that to whamen all the time, but I loved them better before they start packing on the gut.

So make your choice, lip service or his actual raw desire. Be lazy af and get your lip service, or make everything raw and real.

Like, do you even realize the reason your brain is clicking about it at all is because you care? You don't like it either, I can tell, and trust me bro, because I have no proof.

Sort your shit out.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My man always comments on how short I am, especially when I have to climb on a step ladder to reach cupboards he can easily reach. As annoying as it is I'm short and if you are fat then you are fat. You could always do something your jelly belly, I can't.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What’s the context of that conversation? Did he just randomly made such a comment?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim here is to help you navigate relationship waters like a pro. 🎯 It sounds like he loves you for the beautiful person you are, but his comment might've felt like a splash of icy water, ouch! It's not necessarily a red flag, more like a yellow light that suggests a chat on sensitivity is due. Let him know how it made you feel, and if he truly cares, he'll watch his words next time. Remember, communication is key, sweetheart! 💬💕

AviatorTom · Answer

Sounds like a polite hint to lose some weight.

Apple1996 · Answer

Any smart man would not say that to a woman

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That doesn't sound like a red flag to me at all. That actually sounds like a green flag. Unless there's some additional information that would make the comment more toxic.

Because it sounds like he's expressing concern for you in a gentle and loving way, while also reinforcing the idea that he's still very much by your side and in a relationship WITH you.

McLlovin · Answer

He’s not afraid of telling you the truth. Thats a green flag. Little lies turn into big lies. Someone who cares about will let you know whats wrong. With tact, although sometimes you might need that tough love. Nevertheless its good intentions.

FriendlySteve · Answer

Well if he said that then you must have one.

But women are oversensitive to comments like that.

The reality is that to experienced men a bit of a belly is quite nice both to look at and to feel.

If you are a little inventive get some olive oil and get him over to you and lie on your back and get him to pour some oil on your belly and slowly rub it in.

Then if he enjoys the slippery feel of it get him to lie on top of you and rub his belly on yours. I am sure he would enjoy the feel of that.

Cormac995 · Answer

This isn't a big deal if anything it means he feels comfortable around you because he freely spoke his mind. Besides that's not an insult it's a statement at least in his mind or he wouldn't phrase it that way. He made a stupid mistake and didn't give a white lie when he did that and he didn't mean anything by it.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

Look at Artistic Representations of Nude women from the period of Michelangelo forward. An abdominal pooch seems to be usual. Actually it was sought after, as it indicated an ability to produce offspring. Six pack abs are a recent interest for men and women.

Jove79 · Answer

The term red flag is used too loosely these days. that’s not what a red flag is in my opinion.. a red flag is usually weird suspicious behavior.. or certain negative traits that a person might have. him saying you have a bit of a belly is telling you, you are packing on some pounds, and he noticed. It’s nothing bad

Fireguy17 · Answer

get over it, lose the weight and then you will feel self-conscious about something else.
No one is perfect, we all have flaws, and you even admitted that you have a bit of a belly, so he wasn't saying anything that wasn't true.

Anonymous · Answer

Just ask him not to mention it me and my husband joke about his little bit of weight he's gain in five years from my baking I call it my cinnamon rolls but maybe your man doesn't know you don't like talking about it

glennos89 · Answer

No that means you could go to the gym and do some workout. Or not that's really up to you but you might feel better if you work out a little bit and see the results when you look into the mirror. It's also very healthy to do

Nikki1989 · Answer

How was it said?  Was his tone kind and gentle, or was it dismissive or rude?

RingOfFire · Answer

Maybe you should take a pregnancy test? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ You need a new boyfriend because every real man knows that the answer to "Honey does this dress make me look fat?," is  ALWAYS  "NOOOOOOOOO!!!"

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t see this as a red flag depending on the circumstance / build up.

Maybe tell him it hurt your feelings a bit, he’ll apologize / make you feel better which will reassure you he is the man you fell in love with.

MrChinaski · Answer

So lose the belly. If your partner thinks you are ugly, you have few if any outside options. Or at least the options you have are worse. Take up a sport.

Communicationisking · Answer

Tell him his penis is small and you fake every orgasm you have ever had with him. Or you could just discuss it like a normal couple would

beenherebefore · Answer

This is a very sensitive topic for women. Is not a red flag unless he starts shaming you for having a little pooch.

supercutebutt · Answer

I 100% agree with Love Doctor Brad's advice: Give him some buttsex tonight.

Jeefgoold · Answer

I dont think so. Me and my partners usually point out when one of us is getting the chubs lol.

WhiteThought · Answer

If you have a belly, and he tells you that you have a belly, then why is that a red flag? that's just your own insecurity

Alex-Snow · Answer

He should not have said that. Just be yourself, eat healthy and stay active. Maybe he does not deserve you! How is your sex life with him?

Falcon265 · Answer

I don’t know, the pooch is natural every girl has it because that is where the uterus is so never feel self conscious about that

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Only if you want it to be Remember you can't control what others do or think, you can only control how you choose to react

Professor-college · Answer

It depends I mean I do a lot of exercise but I don't mind going out with that chubby woman in fact some of them can be very attractive and sexy... I guess it depends on the guy the way he said it

Wise4myage · Answer

Well, unless you mentioned it, then yes, it is rude.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know your boyfriend, so I don't know what he thinks, but I believe it could be a red flag.

Sluttt · Answer

My sugar daddy said that so I lost it and he is so happy

onedarkcloud · Answer

You can tell him he has a bit of a small dick. See how he likes it

PaleDale · Answer

Lol it's a red flag for a guy who says that, dump him

hello4433 · Answer

From when did being honest started to become a red flag?

Godihateyou · Answer

It's a hint you need to run a couple miles after dinner fatty

Panthero80 · Answer

I wouldn't call it a red flag, but I understand your hurt.

PlantDaddy · Answer

Well how did he say it what was the context? Also would you prefer he lied and or not said anything?

chrissykerdock · Answer

make his life hell for saying that

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s not a red flag if he doesn’t mind it

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Objectively speaking, do you?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

its a red flag to be offended by honesty.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

That depends if you HAVE a bit of a bely or not.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Yes, you should start losing weight.

dudeinohio · Answer

Not a red flag. A bit of tummy can be a turn on.

V1ka5h · Answer

Nope, he doesn't mean to hurt you

jahaims · Answer

You're sensitive because you're stupid

Ironic_Method · Answer

Why are you hurt?

BobbyLee789 · Answer

Yeah

Pterodon · Answer

You’re overthinking

In_Trance · Answer

Apparently so

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