Boyfriend gambled money for the car, how can I deal with this?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone, I just created this account to get this off my chest. I am 6 months pregnant. My partner has been gambling since the beginning of our relationship and before. A few times he told me he would not do it again but you know...

I finally thought it was all improving. Today in the morning he went to buy a car. He spent all day looking at cars. He told me there wasn't any good one. I told him to come home. But he went and gambled all our money away. I called him once during that time but he didn't pick up the phone. And we texted a bit and I asked him what are you doing and he said nothing. And he was rude.

When he finally arrived he was crying so much. It was almost midnight. I just asked him Are me and baby so unimportant to you? And he said no you are important. I will fix everything. I said I don't want anymore fixing I don't want to worry all the time about money and everything. My baby doesn't have anything. And now no car to take me to the hospital. I told him I don't know if we should stay together anymore. He said I thought you loved me. Like I should take care of him now and make him feel better. He turned around and fell asleep and I can't. We are not married, no engament ring, baby has nothing, I have nothing... I feel miserable... I don't know what to do please help

[Screenwriter]

This man has a gambling addiction and you cannot help him. The only thing that is important to him is gambling. Neither you, nor your baby are on his radar because he uses gambling to get himself up, to make him feel better when he's down, to thrill him if he's horny. It is his drug of choice.

You need to get away from this person, as he will promise over and over that he'll stop and he won't. Until he enters a program of his own accord and then follows up such a program with weekly visits to gamblers anonymous, he will not get better.

He also needs to get therapy and he may need medication, so he should see a psychiatrist, then follow that up with a social worker or psychologist.

He has a long way to go to deal with this addiction, and he is doing nothing but feeding it and using you.

You have a child to raise, and need to take care of yourself while you're pregnant. If you have parents or friends you can turn to, get in touch with them and advise them of your situation. They will help you get what you need to have your baby and get the items to start yourself off.

In the meantime, if you're working, start looking for childcare to help you when you return to work, which, it appears, will be shortly after you give birth. Start saving for a deposit for a new place to live, and go to legal aid to find out what you have to do to get child support for this guy and how to protect yourself against him if he becomes belligerant.

This is a hard pill to swallow, but you can succeed on your own, which is the best I can predict for you right now. This is sad, but it appears to be your reality. Addicts lie to themselves and to others because of their addictions. Don't listen to further lies.

The truth is, right now you're on your own. Get help with family and friends and seek out support from local charities to relocate to another address. Don't tell this guy where you're moving to either. Start planning to leave. Change your phone number, if needs be. If he shows up at your workplace, get a restraining order against him.

He needs to know you mean business and you'll see him in court for his visitation rights. Good luck.

[TrueConfection]

Gambling is an addiction. Like any narcotic, you can’t raise a child in that environment. Your boyfriend needs help and you need to protect your baby. Time to get looking for immediate assistance for a way out. Don’t give him any money. When you say yes to him, you are saying no to your baby.

[Finchie40]

Dump him , he has a gambling addiction that sadly will continue , unless he gets serious help for if. you stay with him , don’t think he won’t do it again. Gambling addiction isn’t something that is easy to stop doing period

[Summeroflove]

You don’t have to be with him sounds like he may feel bad but regardless has very little self control. I would be pissed if I was you too. Your baby is more important then his gambling habits. So.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, sweet soul, this situation is tough. Relationships should be a safe haven, especially with a baby on the way. You're clearly dealing with some serious red flags here. 🚩 Your needs and feelings deserve to be a priority. It's crucial that you discuss boundaries and seek professional support. Think about your needs and your baby's future—don’t hesitate to create a stable environment. Remember you’re not alone, and support is out there. Stay strong, for both you and your little one. 💙

[DryGermanGuy]

What did the people advise you here?

5 months pregnant and boyfriend took and gambled away my money. He admited and I was so hurt I can't believe it. What to do?

[Sal_Monella]

The future is grim due to your bad decision making, whether you get out now or not. You need to develop a disengagement plan. Your trusted friends, parents and church can help. Plan now to give up your baby to adoption. You will do him or her the best parenting decision to give your baby a better life. Don't lie to yourself. Plan to get out now.

[Pterodon]

Wow. I’m so sorry. Here’s the cold hard truth. He has a gambling addiction and there’s nothing you can do. It won’t ever change so you have a decision