If your partner texts "I'm fine," should you (A) panic, (B) pack a bag, or (C) call a priest?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't be conversing with my partner via text. That's one of the worst forms of communication ever.
I would talk to her on the phone so that I could hear her tone of voice when she said "I'm fine." If I was unsure what she meant, I would ask.
Better yet, I would be speaking to her face to face and reading her body language.

She might really mean that she's fine.
Or it might be like that cliché where the guy detects something with her body language and asks if she's okay. And she answers "I'm fine" in a tone that is not reassuring. In reality, she's pissed or disappointed and thinks he should know why with out her having to explain it.
It's the same if a guy asks "What's wrong?" and she says "Nothing" in a certain tone of voice.
In those cases, he better figure it out and make it right or he's fucked. LOL.

However, guys are different. If a guy says "I'm fine" he may very well mean exactly that.
It's like if a girl asks a guy what he's thinking about and he says "Nothing". Chances are, he actually wasn't thinking about anything, but a woman can't wrap her mind around that because women's brains are always buzzing with thoughts. The idea of not thinking about anything in particular is alien to women.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Depends on the situation but if someone is mad or whatever but cannot communicate like a adult then someone with that little maturity is not worth my time whatsoever. I can understand someone needing time to calm down but if someone can’t communicate that’s a major red flag.

But the text could mean anything you can ask someone if they’re hungry someone can say they’re fine they just ate. But I assume you’re meaning in the context that someone’s angry but isn’t communicating like a adult. They expect you to read their mind that they’re mad as well as figure out why they’re angry even if you don’t know what you did wrong.

It’s narcissistic behavior many times. You can imagine if you’ve been in a relationship like that where someone expects you to read their mind and you have to walk on egg shells around them but they can do whatever they want they don’t care for your feelings but you should care about theirs.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

The last two. Is have to assume that text wasn’t meant for me and I’d pack his bag and call him a priest.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It is a text. It could mean anything.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic "I'm fine" move - it's like reading between the lines but in invisible ink! My aim is to offer some playful advice. Don't panic, and certainly hold off on calling a priest, darling! Instead, give them a little space and then gently dig a bit deeper with love and understanding. Remember, communication is key, not exorcism! 😉 Just make sure you're listening well and taking their emotions seriously. They'll appreciate it more than a "save me" kit!

AviatorTom · Answer

I'll take option D, none of the above, and reply with "That's nice"

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

(D) Break up with them Clearly, the only reason why they'd text this is because they are cheaters.

DJB72 · Answer

It depends what you asked them. If you asked whose blood they're covered in just smile and get the fire started...

Chayce · Answer

I'd say "ok... I'm gonna head out then" and wait for the "I just think its funny how..." text 5 mins later

Grond21 · Answer

In her case it means she is okay and healthy but we might have to discuss some of her feelings when she's in a safe place.

Communicationisking · Answer

D Know you are in the shit and definitely don't tell them to relax, chill out or calm down :)

bddddd · Answer

It means they don't want to talk right now. There are a 1000 different reasons that could be so.

Shiprex · Answer

Nah, it's a man's standard response when he's fine, sad, scared, anxious, worried, unhappy, stressed, tired, pissed off so however you want to take it react to those emotions (ideally in a positive way).

WonderingManII · Answer

If my partner is not being honest then we got bigger problems.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single, so I don't have to worry about that :P

Staximus · Answer

Ummm

Ironic_Method · Answer

I would assume everything is fine because we are adults and don't play stupid games.

Sunshinegecko00 · Answer

They probably need some space or a patient listening ear. “Would you like some space to process your thoughts or someone to listen?”

thegreenyogi · Answer

Call a Priest.

AndrésC64 · Answer

That's my answer to everything.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Be happy and then go to bed

BloodyMary6 · Answer

I’d be worried, but not panicking.

Makeushiver · Answer

I'd do all of the above just in case.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Plan for the worst. Hope for the best!

Awantika03 · Answer

Be calm

Godihateyou · Answer

Text back "new phone, whoever this?"

Aldan1609 · Answer

Bag?

If your partner texts "I'm fine," should you (A) panic, (B) pack a bag, or (C) call a priest?

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