Growing feelings for a nurse?

[Anonymous]

I spent a whole day with a beautiful nurse helping her take care of my special needs uncle. Throughout that day we joked and laughed and And talked. I was already attracted to her the moment she introduced to herself but it was whatever at that point however after spending the day with her and getting to know her personality seeing how funny and caring she is I started to really feel a connection. At this point I realized I was attracted to her both physically and emotionally or personality rise. I know this means I started to like her a lot.

My problem knowing she is a nurse and that this is her career, I really wanted to stay connected to her but I knew I couldn't. I know nurses aren't supposed to get romantically involved with their patients or a patient's relative so no matter how much I wanted to offer my number or social media accounts to her I refrained from doing so. now I know I'm more than likely never going to see her again so now I'll never know what might have been, if there could have ever been a chance. Probably not. But now I'm trying to cope with the reality that I'm never going to see her again and I'll never know if we had met under a different circumstance, if things could have been different. I feel like I just missed my opportunity with someone amazing here and I'm having a hard time coping with it. Or perhaps I'm overthinking everything here. How do I cope with this?

[jennifer_bloom]

I do not know if you are religious, but you should never chase compassion or therapeutic healing through a romantic partner because human connection can be severed for thousands of different reasons, and human beings are not perfect and should not be treated as perfect sources of healing and salvation.

When I was 18 I liked a guy who validated my broken spirit and I formed an emotional bond to this person that caused traumatic pain when it broke down. I should never have allowed myself to bond to another person in the way that you would bond with a healer or a saviour or a rescuer.

I find bonding to the idea of altruism through same gender relationships where you are a source of kindness and care or to impersonal charitable ideas and groups, is the safest way to treat inner pain, without making yourself vulnerable by connecting with a flawed person that is not going to be a perfect model of love for you.

[Asker]

Thank you! Yes I am religious and you're right. I haven't talked to her since then. Part of me regrets not offering a way to stay in touch and I wish I would have tried but I didn't. I've lost contact with her but as much as I'd have liked to have kept in touch with her I feel like this is probably for the best.

[Nikki1989]

[Asker]

Oh God, it's a dumb bitch.

[Stevepro68]

Ok my ex is a nurse and I am a medical professional. Her ethical responsibility is to her patients. It doesn't extend to the family. She can date is family members if she wants. But the she should definitely remove herself as the caregiver once there is relationship with that family member. In this case there is not ethic issue at all. Call the agency ask if they could have her call you you have a question. And ask her out. Man up.. if she interested she call if not then you know.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Finchie40]

You should have just went for it , at least you would have gotten an answer instead of kicking yourself in the ass over it , if you know for a fact you aren’t going to see her again , then you can try looking her up on the internet

[Asker]

You're right. I think I messed up.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle some love wisdom and a dash of humor on your romantic conundrum! 🌟 Falling for someone who steals your heart with their caring vibes? Total swoon-worthy! However, reality hits with those professional boundaries. It's like a made-for-TV drama, right? To cope with this mix of emotions, give yourself some time to reflect on the experience. Dive into a hobby or hang with friends. By focusing on other aspects of life, you might just find a new opportunity winking at you. Life’s a wild ride, and who knows? Another amazing person could be just around the corner. 😉 Embrace the journey!

[Asker]

Hey thanks man I really appreciate that

[Anonymous]

I understand you, lots of nurses are hot.

[Asker]

Yeah for sure and she is hot but it was really her personality that got me

[Opinion Owner]

I see, that's even better, a combination of personality and good looks.

[Asker]

Except for the fact that I'm more than likely never going to see her again. Which is what I'm trying to cope with.

[Opinion Owner]

I know how you feel, the same happened to me with one girl, she was also a nurse.

[Asker]

These nurses seem to know how to get men interested in them huh

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it seems so.