859 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I wouldn't entertain that person because if I do, he'd think I have no self respect and that I must have been eagerly waiting for him to come back into my life even after rejecting me. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of thinking he can leave and come back into my life whenever he pleases.
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You're so right. I guess I'll leave him in the vault lol
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Yes i have, but you are talking about someone who rejected you romantically and then came back?
I'd be so uninterested in anything romantic with them lol.
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Yep I am. And I kind of am lol
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Ah, the classic case of ghosting turned surprise comeback! Resurfacing can be quite the plot twist, right? If they initially rejected you, itās crucial to evaluate their intentions and your feelings. Maybe they realized your awesomeness or caught a whiff of regret. Just be on the lookout for red flags like lovebombing or breadcrumbing. If entertaining them feels right, just clearly communicate your boundaries until Cupid shows up for a replay. 😉āØ
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4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yes , a girl I went to elementary school with that I havenāt seen in years , that I was friendsā with , the funny thing is her and I didnāt recognize each other at first , she was friendsā with one of my friendsā that I had no clue they even knew each other , so we started talking and flirting with each other and getting to know each other , she told me she use to live in my town but no loved away , when I asked her what school did she go to when she was here, she said my elementary school and told her
Thatās where I went , and then asked how old she was , she said her age and then I asked who her teacher was , and I said holy shit ! Do you remember me and her mouth dropped as well and she wrapped her arms around me then we ended up making out and having sex , she looked gorgeous so thatās why I was flirting with her to begin with lol After a weekend of having spending a bunch of time together she ended up going back home, she was only visiting family , so we ended up staying friends because she lived far away. Plus I found out she had a boyfriend which she cheated on with me. But seeing her again after all those years felt amazing10 ReplyYes more than one but the one I will mention is, a boy I babysat when he was 12 and I was 17 sent me basically a love letter when he was 21 and I was 26 which struck me as cute but also a little creepy.
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Yeah that would have creeped me out too
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A few years ago, a guy started working with my team. He is the brother of a girl I dated back in college. It was interesting to catch up with how she, and he, have been doing all these years.
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Yes, and i did at the time, but i would never again. Fortunately, i learned with age and experience.
10 Reply 969 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yes, I have had a few as a matter of fact, and it was such a surprise each time, but I welcomed them each time.
Ya know, it takes guts and a lot of thinking 🤔 on their part to come to the decision to go back to rekindle a relationship that should have been over.
Some people are unforgettable though and people are sorry that person is no longer in their lives. They miss the person. Sure, they could just let time pass and never contact them again, but then every once in a while there are some people who just want to make things right again with that person.
I had a roommate once who moved out without any notice and didn't pay her half of the rent. Just gone!! About 4 years later she came knocking on my door and by then she was married and had 3 little ones.
She came back to pay me the money she owed me for the rent so many years ago and apologized for doing that to me. She also wanted so badly for me to see her little family she made. All of this was totally unexpected but made me feel so good inside when they left that day. ā„ļø
I have also had two guys that I dated come knocking on my door years after our relationship was over. One of them wrote me the sweetest greeting card and I still have it. That's what we did before cellphones.🙂 They both apologized 😞 for our relationship ending the way it did.
People just don't do that type of thing anymore. I wish they did because it can really mend someone's broken 💔 heart.11 Reply- 1 mo
Wow I'm glad she did that. And as for the 2 guys, that was nice of them.
I have had a few people resurface after years, in most cases I have been insulted that they tried to reconnect.
This one woman, when I was interested in her and made a move. She rejected me, as she was getting attention from the hot bad boy type.
Now here she is out of shape, having medical problems and looking for someone to be by her side and support her. She now looks at me, not because she really feels anything for me. But because I have the stability, that the bad boys she liked do not have.
Another woman tried to reconnect, that when I was interested. She told me she was not interested in a committed relationship, she did not want have a man of her own and that she just wanted a man party with and have casual sex with.
Now here she is having hit the wall, and the guys she is attracted to now looking at younger women and not her. Here she is now wanting a committed relationship, and all the things that when offered to her she rejected and said she did not want.
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I've at a lot of people resurface back into my life.
Not someone whom I've been rejected by tho but now I don't feel that I've been rejected that often, encountered a fair share of people that SHOULD have rejected me but those I have no interest in entertaining, then I've had friends, former kids (work) and even family resurface and some of those I entertain, some I small talk with and then they gone again.
Most recently a ex fling is back in town, apparently I seem taller to him, he asked my man if I had grown taller and doesn't dare saying anything but "davs" with a smile to me. 😭😂 Gotta love customer service.
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Absolutely, but whether I would entertain them coming back into my life and in what capacity would very much depend on what they say / do and my insight into why now.
Personally speaking I donāt have a massive amount of space for people actually in my life given career , close friends , family , interests , etc so that space is precious and defended. If anyone is going to carve out a little home in that space itās a prerequisite that they are there justifiably. I regret to say that I would be very suspicious of anyone seeking to get back into my life after choosing against me so easily , and so I would likely be even more guarded thatās if it was a relative stranger.10 Reply 475 opinions shared on Relationships topic. @Simslover92 My prior wife has contacted me many times, AND recently expressed her regrets for her past life mistakes in marriages, and her regret in the way she left me for another man.
I told her to stop beating herself up for past things that cannot be changed.... and
"We all do things that we feel we need to do when we did them?
I did tell her that I have gone on with my life successfully, and that I harbor no ill will or anger towards her.
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I think it entirely depends on the people and the circumstances. Timing has a lot to do with life choices. Things can and do change. People, not so much, but circumstances change. We grow and learn and reflect... and sometimes go back to revisit something.
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Yes this happened to me! When I was 9 or 10 I had a good friend who was switching schools the next year. We lost contact after she left. Then at age 19 when I enrolled into college I saw that the same friend from my early school days was also taking the same program at the same college! We reunited at college and are still friends to this day. Itās been over a decade since that reunion too.
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I posted a picture of myself on a hike with a girl, and my buddy must've said something, because the next day I randomly got a follow request from another buddy I haven't talked to in ages.
And it's happened with family too before and with some other people too. Usually they only resurface if they need something or want to brag about something.
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Yes. An ex-fiancé 4 years later. That same day of bumping into me she emails suggesting we meet for lunch, catch up, because we used to have great times together. What the? She put me through hell! I could not walk away fast enough when she bumped into me. I told my girlfriend at the time who knew about the hell I went through with that individual. She asked if she could reply ⦠why the heck not? Never heard from the Swamp Witch ever again.
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1 moYes, back in 2016. An ex... fling, pseudo-relationship, not really sure what to call it sent me a friend request on Facebook. I ignored her. That had "terrible idea" written all over it.
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Yes. Previous versions of myself often resurface, they tell me things then they go back whence they came from. They're not annoying. Just saying hi!
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322 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Had my high school crush bump in to me after 15 years and we got on well and had a wee fling for a time. She'd been married and had 2 kids but still lovely.
All in the past now though
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27 dI wish they did!!, but no... I don't think so
10 Reply6.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I really can't think of anyone important suddenly pop up. I have run into former customers or former students.
10 Reply8.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Nope, I still regularly talk to most people I have ever been close to, even exes.
So 95% of people never went away.
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Several times! It's the reason I'm so insistent on trying to resolve conflicts and maintain favorable connections with people whenever I can.
10 Reply For the second question, no it's definitely not worth the time.
Now the first question, yea they tried to slither their way back into my life but I kept slamming the door lmao.10 Reply- 1 mo
Yes, but it was never someone who rejected me
10 Reply - Anonymous(25-29)1 mo
Yeah, my mother. I rejected her, not the reverse. Fb
10 Reply Yes. I ran into my high school crush and Iām glad it didnāt work out.
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Absolutely no time of day to that person but yes itās happened
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Nope, i guess that people who left had left and i don't need them anymore!
10 Reply - Anonymous(36-45)1 mo
Yes, a girl I haven't seen in years, it was a pleasant surprise.
But still, it was just another unrequited love :(
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Never had that happen
10 Reply 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yeah, I gave her the shake
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My biggest hater worked so hard to show up
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Yes but I always shut it down
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Yep. And I am still weary of them.
10 Reply 853 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Nope
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