What do I do now?

[Anonymous]

This girl and i have been in a weird connection for almost ten years and i can’t handle it anymore.

We both liked eachother as lovers in the beginning, then friends then lovers and it kept going on and off but never at a time which worked but we were always around. Now i lost track of what we are, we have never been in a relationship but last weekend i think she wanted me to kiss her, if it were any other girl i would’ve but because i am so unsure about where we stand I didn’t.

And the thing is right now I am having such strong feelings for her. And in a way i think we never really stopped liking eachother. Anyone that had a similar experience, i need some advice from girls because i have had so many male insights. People often think we are together already or that we hook up. But nothing ever happened, but last weekend i was convinced she wanted it to. And suddenly she asks if i am seeing anyone or am into anyone. So i guess she wants it? I don't know. Because sometimes she is like a sister but sometimes she is like a girlfriend.

[lightbulb27]

Best to be very clear with your communication and feelings and see if anything goes in the direction you want it. a little patience as you discuss which is difficult given the hormonal and emotional rages.

and move on if it's not there.

those whom are patient and persistent but clear are probably more effective. it's sales...

[Asker]

I’ve been patient and hadn’t felt this for her for years but given how she acted lately i’ve been catapulted back into those feelings

[lightbulb27]

early life mating hormones. the feelings are to a large extrent... projection from childhood. examine how you relate to her emotionally from your childhood. in that is the freedom.
feelings... projected... but blended with the desires.
point is, I doubt you know each other enough to love the real person there but rather your image of her. Love is choosing to love that person when you find out they are a human, seeing their greater good.
you really need to get your inner strength back to approach her/this situation. if she's got you beaten down, may not be good. she could be doing anything, dating anyone, who knows.
get some external perspectives. abby below is right...10 years, this is long in the tooth and a lot in your head. convert it into reality together or move on.

[Asker]

Yeah thanks, we truly know eachother though. The wordt things, the best things eachothers flaws, strengths.

Yeah it had been long but I feel like there is a shift happening

[Asker]

The things is we hadn't seen eachother in two years, we are back in touch for like 6 months.
And thingd matched jusy as well ad they used to

[lightbulb27]

I wasted 10yrs on someone kinda like that, where you aren't getting anything nor moving forward. I lost the prime time of my life to make my own family. don't make the same mistake.
get it moving forward or take the pain and move on.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Abbycado]

If it’s been almost ten years and you two are like this, it’s never going to happen. Smh

[Asker]

Things are stronger than ever from both sides (both available now too)

[chrissykerdock]

i immediately am thinking eat her pussy a very special kind of a kiss and the best kind

[Asker]

Hahaha why is that

[chrissykerdock]

you want her to like you brcause it feels so good

[Asker]

True, but i think she feels the same given she liked me too and nothing really changed from when she was into me so maybe still is

[chrissykerdock]

would you wear a dress for her

[Asker]

Bro what

[chrissykerdock]

wrong person she'll love you if you eat her pussy

[Asker]

So how does that happen, if she can’t admit liking me nothing happens either

[chrissykerdock]

tell her to wear a short dress and take her to the park and eat her pussy all afternoon very romantic

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the rollercoaster of love! 🌪️ It sounds like you're caught in a whirlwind of confusion and emotions. When intense feelings keep popping up after all these years, it's a sign that there's something real between you two. Sometimes you need to go with the flow and take a leap of faith. Why not talk to her? Let her know about your feelings and the mixed signals. Tell her about those magical moments where the sparks flew! Trust me, there's nothing like clear communication to unveil the next chapter in a "will they, won't they" saga! 😊✌️

[Selene1600000]

It sounds like both of you have been stuck in years of mixed signals and unspoken feelings, which is why everything feels confusing now. If this has been going on for almost ten years, the only real way forward is an honest conversation instead of trying to read signs and hints forever. Ask her directly how she sees you and what she actually wants, because staying in this in between situation will probably keep hurting you.