What do I do now?

[Alxve]

So I had my breakup on 12th Feb, I will explain what happened. So my ex was completely a mean person like verbally abusive. So I was feeling very upset about that I didn't had any friends that time. I only had a contact of my other ex. So I contacted her (I know I did wrong) and then asked for help and she did. And my ex got to know that I contacted my other ex. But before all this happened, my ex had a friendship with a another boy. And then started playing with him and spending 70% of her time with him only. And rarely used to care about me only. And that really hurted me and I told her about this but she rarely cared about it. And only cared when the last time came. Like when it came to the end of the relationship. So, after that all friendship... she never really cared about my feelings about that boy. I am not controlling but I felt that I was not listened or respected. Then, At one day she really badly made me upset that I really needed a hold or support of somebody. I didn't had friends so I asked my other ex to help me out. I never had any kind of contact and I never talked to my other ex behind my ex's back. I only chose to talk during that day only for 1 day and not even 1 day but less than 10 hours. So my ex broke up with me for that simple reason of can't even trust me. Days past by... I saw that my ex still plays with that guy and they are soon going to date. And I felt so heartbroken. It took me more time to move on. And I dont know whos fault is this? Is it me who trusted her friends? Or Is it her who broke up to be with the new guy? Plus my ex was used to message other boys behind my back. And still sayed sorry and still did it. And today I honestly make videos on my youtube channel and my ex comments on my videos stuff like "Move on from past... My new guy is so caring..." (Other stuff to just hurt me). Someone any help?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, this whole situation sounds super messy and painful. I can understand why you'd be so hurt and confused. A few things:

- Your ex clearly had some issues with the relationship long before you reached out to your other ex for support. Reacting that strongly to one brief conversation seems like an overreaction, like she was looking for a "reason" to end it.

- Her openly flirting with that other guy while you were together is super disrespectful and not cool at all. No one deserves to be in a relationship where they're not fully valued and respected by their partner.

- You reaching out to a past connection during a painful time is understandable given the lack of other support. Maybe not the best choice in hindsight, but it doesn't seem like real "betrayal" to me based on the short time frame and needing comfort.

- Her comments rubbing your face in her new relationship seem really mean-spirited and immature. Not the actions of someone truly "over" you and the past.

My advice would be not to get stuck feeling guilty or blaming yourself over this. Focus on moving forward in a healthy way - spend time with real friends, pick up a fun hobby, hit the gym, etc. Her actions say way more about her than you. Try to get to the point where her comments don't still hurt you - that's real healing. You'll find an empathetic partner one day who treats you right!

[Amy10223]

Don’t be sad that you broke up with your ex. Be happy, because she is a mean, disloyal person. Find someone who is good for you. There are many out there who would like to be with you. But be more strong too. You sound sensitive and easy to get hurt.

[jennifer_bloom]

Your poor logic shows you have the early formations of a brain injury. You aren’t able to pivot any dramatic and time justified point and haggle between ambiguous neutralities and subtle unknowns. Your meagre composition would land you a C or D.

[Alxve]

Well I dont know what your talking about...
But, I dont know where I lacked to give a logical information...

[Anonymous]

You both are toxic equally. You both are responsible for this fucked up relationship of yours. You both are to be blamed equally.

[Alxve]

Ohh well can you maybe point out my fault?
So that I understand myself better and improve you know.
Thank you very much!

[Opinion Owner]

If you are not satisfied with your current relationship, or if you have problems, struggles still it's a rule of a relationship to not go to our ex. And if it's clearly not allowed/ not acceptable by your partner then it's more unacceptable to go to your ex. No matter she is your friend and you have no feelings for them still this is rule of relationship.

In relationship whatever makes our partner feel insecure we should not be doing it without using logic etc. That was your part of fault.

Her part of fault was that instead of making this relationship work she went to some other guy being in relationship. Like she was waiting for this. If we are in a relationship we are not allowed to do anything what could be responsible to harm the relationship. So that was her fault.

So you both are equally responsible.

[Opinion Owner]

Even if you go to someone else for getting comfort when it is required, no matter that person is not your friend but that person is someone who makes your partner feels insecure even that is not allowed.

But going to ex... It's a big insecurity for anyone. So it's complete no no situation.

[Alxve]

Oh okay thank you very much!
I learned my lesson I hope I get someone better and loyal and not someone who leaves me for someone else. Its hard to find loyalty.