Have you been able to stay friendly with any of your exes?

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I'm just curious as always...

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

My first ex, I'm still friends with but we haven't seen or talked to each other in at least 24 years.
My 2nd ex, I WAS best friends with until she broke it off 8 years ago because I wouldn't give her my last 58c so she could buy cat food to feed a stray cat!! Apparently, cats are worth more than loyal friendships of 36 years!!
My 3rd ex-cheated on me so, I want nothing to do with her.
No idea what's going on with my present ex. She just dropped me a few days ago after our 9-month, VERY loving relationship because I told a sexual joke to someone here. OBVIOUSLY, love and loyalty mean NOTHING to women!! I mean, if they're so readily willing to toss you overboard over absolutely NOTHING then, they OBVIOUSLY never REALLY loved you at all!! Part of a marriage vow asks if you'll take your SO for better or for worse!! If you can't even deal with a dirty joke, what're you gonna be like if a REAL tragedy strikes?
Bottom line: I'm open to being friends if she is!! Take care, my love!! Mwah!! Tell mom I said, hi.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes , my ex and I are still mutual mainly for the kids’ sake , and some of my other exes I am still aquatinted with of if I run into them , but i don’t invest a lot of my time into them , because once she is an ex , she is an ex , some of them tried getting back with me but that doesn’t sit well with me and they don’t have a chance , unless her and I broke up on good terms then maybe I will give her another chance if I am not seeing anyone. Most the times it’s just sex over anything else with an ex because of someone truly loved you they wouldn’t be your ex to begin with is how I look at it

Lucy68 · Accepted Answer

Well this is a funny story (sorta)

So my ex from my sophomore year of highschool (I was a 15 year old sophomore and he was a 17 year old junior) and I stayed friends and well 2 months later after we broke up (we dated in September and broke up in October) I was dating his uncle who was 19 years old senior about to turn 20 and then we broke up and I ended up dating one of his best friends who was also 19 but pushing 20 also (yes he was a senior pushing 20). My high school had an age cut off which was 21 year old. So it wasn't just me a few of my female classmates did date seniors and college freshman it was common

DishLady · Accepted Answer

My first crush and I are still friend-ishly connected bc we have a mutual bff, but that's all there is to it.

And I'm friends with another ex's brothers bc we all grew close thinking we'd ultimately be family... it was a challenging time.

Usually it's best to make a clean break of things so you can start fresh with a new guy.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Staying chummy with an ex? Now there's a spicy topic! Honestly, it’s possible but can be like tightrope walking. Sometimes things end on a good note, and you're able to keep the friendship flame burning without rekindling an old one. The trick? Keep boundaries clear, and make sure you're both ready to be just pals without the past peeping in. Remember, it's okay if it doesn’t work out—some ships are meant to sail away, and that's perfectly fine too! 😊

dynamicyandere · Answer

Kind of. With the exes that are emotionally mature, we’re able to speak to each other, and wish each other well. Though, out of respect for their current relationship and/or my current relationship, communication is kept to a minimum — so we’re more like acquaintances on good terms. At least, with most of them. I’m on speaking terms with all of my exes but one — who painted me in the worst light she could in her mind in order to get over me. It’s a little painful to think about, but if that’s what she needed to heal then I’m just happy she’s doing better.

Simslover92 · Answer

Yes I have. In fact, we've been talking a lot lately.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yes, two of them. I’m not exactly antagonistic with the others. We just didn’t see fit to remain associated and it wasn’t necessitated by overlapping social circles.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don't have children with any of my exes, so why would I want to maintain any relationship at all?

EmmaMary · Answer

@7phoenix7  As strange as it may sound yes I have... I've remained very good friends with all four of my ex's... So much so, that three of them attended my wedding (one was away on business) and likewise I was invited and attended theirs. Perhaps we were just extremely fortunate that our partings were all on such amicable terms and agreements that we've been able to continue our friendships.

Tarifa · Answer

Once a door is closed, I prefer not to open it again. With all of my exes, there have either been feelings left over from a difficult break up, or they still felt something when I was the one moving on. That's not a good basis to build a friendship on.

Being friendly is another thing, it's based on respect for what once was.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

When it is over it is over. Contact/Communications cease. Having lingering exes bugs the hell out of potential new significant others. It isn’t fair to them if was a ‘buddy’ with someone I used to be involved with. I mean they may say they are okay with it, feel secure and whatnot … but people say a lot of things they don’t really mean. It isn’t worth the headache to entertain. Besides, I am fairly certain if an ex is kept around someone is being ‘hopeful’ or giving false hope one towards the other.

So, no.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I've never had a problem staying friendly. I notice most chicks simply stop talking to me like before or make themselves "disappear" from my social media sometimes after they see me with other women. Not all, but I think most of them just don't want to see that or lose interest in me. Others stick around probably because they like to Facebook or Instagram stalk me for all I know. For me, they're just another name and face there that I've stuck my penis in before. I love it when my wife asks about a random woman all jealous like, and I get to tell her, "oh her, I used to stick my penis in her."

Just because we no longer have sex doesn't mean we need to be angry. I mean I have women I've never, and never would want sexually in the loop and on friendly terms too. My kid's teachers and stuff like that.

Have you been able to stay friendly with any of your exes?

Onyyxlexingale · Answer

Friends with virtual cuddle benefits, since we kinda stopped talking out of nowhere in our two years of dating, to him sending me a message when I already moved on to my now boyfriend and me being excited to know that my Ex is fine, as they have DID, Depression and just a bad home life, I was glad to have him as a friend until he asked me for photos of myself, which I denied and glad that he accepted it and apologized as he also struggles with hypersexuality so trying to help I just tell him words of affirmation and give him more emotional support rather than physical or sexual as it's something that has been helping him staying sane.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

That's how things are with my soon to be ex wife. We decided to end the marriage amicably before it could turn toxic and hateful.

We have children, we have a business, and overall are best friends like we've always been. It would make no sense to tear down everything we built simply because our marriage ended its course.

MemeSupreme · Answer

im on okay terms with all of them, but we don't talk that much bc whats the point lol also im not gonna disrespect my partner

sometimes we catch up tho or we'll send the other a meme or reel that'll reference an inside joke

lyrem04 · Answer

Kind of… twas more of a situationship which lasted 3 years and so I told him we should prolly stop being “friends” it wasn’t productive so there we ended all contact a few months ago… It was on good terms.

alli-112 · Answer

Don't really have anyone that truly qualifies as an ex, but of the people I've been involved with, I haven't really stayed in contact with any of them and have sometimes ended on genuinely bad terms. The person I was most involved with ended badly after the fact because he expected me to keep prioritizing him the way I had when we were dating. Obviously I wasn't going to do that :/

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yeah my only real ex, since we knew each other since we were 19 we still get along well. And I can always ask him for help and he will help me, where as I have no other friends I could depend on like that..

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I had only one unpleasant break up.  Despite still being friends with my other exes, I don't make any effort to keep in touch with them as respect to my husband.

strateguy632 · Answer

What! no way! I dumped her for a reason! But... they mostly dump me because i am boring, nothing bad, so later some want a hook up, i am usualy not available but if i am... you know.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Neutral with 3 but not in touch anymore Completely Lost track of 2 Friendly with 2 Banned from 1 Avoiding 1 Maybe I forgot someone lol?

Caroline91 · Answer

I'd say Oh, be sure to add it to the grocery list.

AydenHazor · Answer

I've got a couple exes I'm still friends with, one I would count as a close friend. Just because you didn't work out romantically doesn't mean you don't care about the person or still enjoy being friends with them

abc3643 · Answer

I was, but not anymore which saddens me.
They are civil with me when I reached out to them. So, not a block, but no engagement on their side anymore... not unless they want something - typical of women.
The best relationship I have with an exgirlfriend is the one with the dead exgirlfriend. That said, I am Facebook friends with her adult daughters and they bring a smile to my face.

Lliam · Answer

Yes. I've remained friends with a couple of former girlfriends. No romantic inclinations or desire to get back together, but friendly with no hard feelings.

BadApple69 · Answer

All of my exes! I still message them or them me from time to time. In fact one of my exes birthday is tomorrow. I will be calling her to wish her a happy birthday.

hannamontana · Answer

Well, I never become best friends with them, but there are some people I can say hi to if I bump into them.

beenherebefore · Answer

No, and I’m not interested in being friends with any of my exes. There’s no bad blood or unresolved issues but if I wasn’t good enough to be your girlfriend why would I want to be your friend?

sawno · Answer

Yes, my last ex and me left on an I love you so that should say enough. Sometimes its the right people in the wrong circumstances.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Friendly? Yes, no animosity. But also only infrequent hangouts. They're ex's for a reason. Boundaries are important.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, all of them except one. One of them is one of my dearest friends.

avery58 · Answer

I tried it in the past and it completely backfired. Never again.

Shiprex · Answer

I haven't kept in touch with them as I am not that way. I prefer NC after any sort of breakup.

DonaldDarko · Answer

If you're going to have a stable relationship with anyone long term, don't hang around with your exes at all.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Pretty much just happy birthdays, I don't hang out with any of them, but we still follow each other on social media and there's no animosity

lilBigPotato · Answer

Yes but I don't have much contact with most of them anymore

Phoenix98 · Answer

I can but I typically don't do that anymore.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Every single one. Im not tom Cruise so I've only been with 3.5 woman in my 43 years but all my exes are my best friends other then my best guy friends. I talk to them all daily.

Wiredone · Answer

I am still friends with one of my exes. My wife doesn't have a problem with it

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I could have but why would I want to? They are my ex for a reason. I'd rather close that chapter of my life and start a new one

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes, after 20ish years of not talking to her, she called me out of the blue one day. We are friendly, wish each other happy birthday etc.

MrJMM · Answer

One. We longer hold a grudge but we don't talk anymore.

nawtee_me · Answer

Yes my ex-wife and I are still friends. We talk often….

Massageman · Answer

Still exchange Christmas cards with one.

jahaims · Answer

Staying in contact with and ex isn't healthy

sage2021 · Answer

Yes, all of them!

Jennz6 · Answer

Sure, even having sex with some

exitseven · Answer

I never saw any of them ev er again

RavVid · Answer

Yes we still do things for each other.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Both of mine remain friends

12karen · Answer

No... It's a bit awkward...

Sam1133 · Answer

Yes I'm friendly with my Exs...

wkhan_87 · Answer

Yes , we are so friendly

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have an ex.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope , I haven't

WhitneySnow · Answer

One of them

DJB72 · Answer

Just one

DrPepper12 · Answer

Any? ALL

WonderingManII · Answer

Nope.

dudeinohio · Answer

Just one

Chocolatetwopointtwo · Answer

never had an ex

renodnol32 · Answer

Yes.

Pterodon · Answer

Just one

linguistrosey · Answer

Yeah, only one.

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