What do you think of this statement: "The worst reason to start a relationship is because you're lonely."?

[Anonymous]

[jennifer_bloom]

If you want positive people, you need to use positive traits to attract them. If use you use negative traits, like neediness, loneliness, you will almost attract negative traits in others. This is why the best time to find a relationship, is when your life is good and you do not need to find a relationship.

[Account]

I fully agree. You need to learn how to embrace being alone, to actually feel
acceptance in the presence of your own self before seeking external validation from something that should come from within, otherwise you subconsciously unload a heavy burden upon others without even realizing it.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some insight with a dash of humor! Starting a relationship just to cure loneliness is like using a band-aid for a broken leg. You're setting yourself up for a relationship rollercoaster that might derail before it even gets going! Love shouldn’t be a quick fix; it’s something you build when you're ready to share your awesome self with someone who truly appreciates it. So, let’s save the lonely-heart club for country songs, okay? 😉

[Asker]

AI responses to sensitive questions is annoying!

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s false; almost adorably naive.
Only someone who hasn’t experienced or observed someone developing a relationship with another person only to manipulate and abuse them could think such a thing. The impulse to hurt others is the worst reason to get into a relationship. It’s the worst reason to do anything but punish the guilty. That’s why we have laws against almost every manifestation of it. That’s why every major religion and philosophy addresses it as a sin or corruption of our nature.

[DishLady]

Absolutely right. You end up with the completely wrong person out of desperation and are more willing to lose yourself to a bad relationship.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I think what I think of all aphorisms. They're scratching the surface of something that can't be summed up in one sentence in any way. It just feels comfortable to hold something that could be quintessential, but it always disappoints sooner or later. Because this world is much too slippery to remain in anyone's hand for long.

If people were trying to apply the kilotons of self-help babbling adjacent to this statement, then no one would step into any relationship. Everyone would still be mediating forever until they reach the final stage of their own tyrannic ideal selves.

Talking about absolutes, no one is innocent, no one is perfect, no one is independent. Those who ticked the three aforementioned boxes are very much lost in their own obsession for control. They are awful to live next to. 👈🏼 That's my statement.

[Shiprex]

The most important person in your life who controls the destiny is you and if you can't learn to love yourself then you're gonna be a hard person to love for someone else.

[Anonymous]

I think its the saying " a relationship can't fix loneliness" that is a bigger red flag.

if you are lonely in a relationship/marriage, its time to LEAVE.

Thats clearly not a partner that cares about you and wants to be with you.

There are many people out there who just stay married for the sake of being married or because they can't find anyone better

[jazzy34]

That's true. You'll always be looking to that person to make you happy.

[Nikki1989]

Loneliness is a powerful motivator but no one should enter a relationship without genuine connection and compatibility for the sake of simply “not being alone.”

[OneViewpoint]

I mean, if you're lonely it's not a bad idea to do something about it. But choosing the first person to come along probably isn't the optimal solution.

[beenherebefore]

One of the best parts of a relationship is companionship. I don’t see getting into a relationship because you don’t want to be alone as a bad thing.

[SotiCoto]

It sounds silly at first, but if you really think about it, relationships probably work best when they start with the Who and then move on to the What and Why later, rather than the other way around.

[HusamRocks]

I disagree, because loneliness is one of the sane reasons makes you want to look for a companion or a partner in addition to other reasons 👍🏻

[Anonymous]

If you are lonely join a class of some sort and learn something new. It will make you happy. Happy people attract people.

[blackeagle007]

Agreed. Lonely leads to being unhappy. To the point of dating anyone which is unhealthy

[Anonymous]

That is dumb, the whole point of relationships is so that you have companionship and aren't lonely. Loneliness is what drives us to seek out relationships.

[Anonymous]

I agree 100%.

[RavVid]

Mostly true.

[cavedweller1973]

I agree