"I feel like a loser if I am not in a relationship." Agree or disagree?

[Still-alive]

Is this how you feel when you are not in a relationship?

Strongly agree

Agree

Disagree

Strongly disagree

[nonyabeez-wax]

Nope. Just lonely.

There is nothing wrong with being single and working on yourself.

There is also nothing wrong with recognizing your emotional needs.

If your lonely, a romantic companion can elevate that.

None of that means you're a loser.

Questions you should be asking:

Is this feeling really about being a loser, or am I just lonely?

If it is about being a loser, why do I care about what other people think so much?

If its about being lonely, does having a pet help elevate that? Does this feeling go away with visiting friends and family?

You shouldn't feel like a loser for being single, a lot of men are being single by choice these days. Dating to date, or for a cool factor is only going to get you into a LOT of trouble down the line. Be patient. The right woman will come along given time, and there is nothing wrong with waiting for her.

[dynamicyandere]

Nope, not at all. I know my worth.


Anyone who has built themselves up into a respectable man will know their own worth and not feel like a loser because they can see and recognize their own value. And if they can see that value, others will also. If you become top tier boyfriend material, women will be attracted to you, whether or not you’re single.


And if you’re not experiencing that, either you still need to work on yourself more, or you’re just hanging around the wrong women.

[provokeesmokee]

Ugh that makes me wretch.

Y'know who thinks that? My codependent mother whose codependent husband is absolutely fucked over by her.

My father literally thinks my mother will die if he doesn't stay with her. He is not allowed friends, had to fight for decades to be allowed to see his family, and lost his relationship with his only child because of all of this codependence.

He can't have a healthy relationship with me because my mother has this incessant need to be with him 24/7. Her entire identity is tied to being a married mother, it's disgusting. She isn't a full person on her own and that really fucked up how she raised me.

And now I'm no contact with her because of the way her insecurities and behaviors poisoned our relationship.

It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy if you think that.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Anyone that bases their self worth on a relationship status is a loser- sorry if that offends anyone, but the truth isn't always nice.

I used to feel that way in my teens and 20s, because society and now, social media, make you feel inferior and like an outcast if you're not like everyone else or paired off... even if they're in a relationship yet miserable.

As I got older, I realized I'm doing pretty well, if not great by myself. Nor do I feel like a loser when I'm around couples- not to be that person, but not everyone in a relationship is a "winner," or happy with their lives! It's merely a facade or bandaid to other issues they're dealing with.

[Hulk_kitty]

No one is a loser for been in a relationship. There is such more to life than a relationship. If anything, sometimes relationships can ruin people.

I am not in a relationship, I am having a great time, and I feel i have so much more to achieve and do, and not enough time for a girlfriend.

I feel sorry for people, who need a partner to make them happy, or because they haven't lost their viginity yet. I think these people are losers, just cause of the stupide mindset. There is so much more to life than the opposite sex.

Get a life a virgins, sorry if you haven't lost your cherry yet, sorry if you haven't got a girlfriend. You people have such boring lives.

[Ur1local2bisexual]

Hey that not nice I haven’t did anything sexual irl only online ….

[Ur1local2bisexual]

But i have pleased myself nothing more

[Hulk_kitty]

@Ur1local2bisexual Nothing personal miss, Just saying, there is more to life than the opposite sex, people sometimes just get too carried away about partners. Yes we all we want to meet the special person and have a nice family, and play happy families forever, but the reality is, doesn't alway workout that way. Sometimes its just best to focus on yourself at times, and your enjoy with or without a partner, learn to be happy by with yourself.

[Hulk_kitty]

@Ur1local2bisexual I haven't against virgins either, I am just saying to people, stop making a big deal out of it, they are crying that they are still virgins, or someone else is a virgin. Its not the greatest achievement in the world, As Kobe Bryant said, your not that important, GET OVER YOURSELF.

[XingQi]

Personally speaking, most people in their late 10's and early 20's with this mentality do not hold enough self-worth. The problem is that the person thinks they need somebody to validate them. They gotta learn to validate themselves and be happy on their own first. A relationship isn't a solution to a problem- in fact, a relationship introduces more problems. Why? In a relationship, you have to put up with your partner's worst flaws.

I prefer being single personally. It feels like the girls that crush on me are just looking for a guardian. I'm already busy taking care of myself and my family as is.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Disagree, I think im smart to be so patient waiting for the proper soulmate, there's lots of failure nowadays I've noticed greed and fear of commitment is what causes so much failure, the reality is all I need is to fish out one perfect one, I've noticed many people fish out many and are too greedy to toss them back so while they are with one person they can miss a person perfect for them, I like to read out first, get to know them very well, it's why I ask deep and personal questions all the time when speaking to people and yes it drives many of them away but it works in my favor.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Nope.

The only losers in life are the ones who aren't happy.

I've never been with anyone before and whilst the idea of being in one sounds cool, I simply don't know if it'd make me happy, because happiness is all I want out of life.

It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking someone is perfect because they're hot or seem nice based off of what little you know about them.

[sumhngguy]

WHY? The real ques is, what is YOUR idea of a relationship? I've been married (divorced now). I had the HS girlfriends, the College girlfriend - plus friends. Dated around, met the Ex. Off the hook good times but life throws curve balls. Dating through my late 30's into early 40's. Now I'm with a woman nine years older - who was my original cougar (before I met the ex wife) and we're great friends, have great sex and that's time in a bottle for ya. NEVER think you have to rush something. Time and fate have a way of making you understand - if you let it!

[katiesmuff]

I was in a relationship at 18 which went badly and I could not let me get into another relationship for many years and I was very happy like that. I dated regularly with many different guys which kept me happy and sexually satisfied then out of the blue while on vacation in 2012 with some girlfriends I met this guy who I actually fell in love with, we married and it has been perfect with the addition of two boys.

[petitedollbabee]

If you’d asked me 7 years ago, I would’ve voted strongly agree. For most of my teen years I jumped from temporary relationship to the next. Lack of self esteem and fear of being alone. Thankfully these days that’s not the case at all, and I can be very happy on my own.

[Pudsmucker]

As a man thinketh so is he. Always think positive things. If you're never in a relationship think that you're the luckiest guy in the world that you don't have to put up with a BS from the significant other. They're always crying whining and wanting something. Be strong be positive. Who cares if you're in a relationship you're not a loser.

[menina]

I strongly disagree. Being single is not a weakness and it's also doesn't show your worth.

If I felt like a loser for not being in a relationship, I would be always feeling bad about myself.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I don't ever think or feel that I'm a loser. I only think about that it'd be nice to meet someone else, but I don't know who that person will be.

[Little_Bumblebee]

No, not at all.
I've been single for over 2 years, close to 3 actually.

And sure, I feel like a loser for a bunch of reasons, but being single is just not one of them.

[OfMiceandMen]

I feel the same no matter if I am in a relationship or out of a relationship, I guess I am just content with who I am regardless.

[Ms_Facesitter]

If you need a relationship to be happy, you need a professional. Learn to be happy and thrive on your own first, then look for love.

[HitsyHonesty]

I feel like a single! But not a loser! Nothing wrong with being on your own!

[bolverk]

I'm single by choice, I do not need to be a relationship, what society thinks is of no concern to me. I' quite happy doing my own thing, which when your the eldest in a family is a God send.

[Nikki1989]

For me, it is up there with not having a job.

[shades777]

might be bettee off moving or visiting a country were women care about a mand geart rather than solely his wallet

[shades777]

man's heart*

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. A relationship just for the sake of having one would be unfair to the partner.

[Likes2drive]

Not really like a loser I just feel alone and not like everyone else as if I’m missing out

[whereismyjohnny]

Strongly disagree.