He has a better job and his financial situation is much better. Well, he is okay with this, but I still feel a bit inadequate and a loser. Do you think our relationship will end because of this?
Well first of all you need to stop that he's with you because he likes you he's with you because he loves you he's with you because Who You Are it doesn't matter about material bullcrap
What matters is what you bring to the relationship how do you improve the relationship are you happy can you smile those are the type of things that guys want because they don't want somebody feeling down or feeling like they're less of somebody because of something different crazy stupid you can't compare yourself to anybody because there's nobody to compare yourself with there's only you and you need to start being you again and stop comparing yourself you're not a loser you're not a bad person that's why he's with you is because he likes the person that he's with but if you start acting like that then you're going to become down and out and then he's going to take another look at you and say there's something wrong with you you're not the same old happy bright woman that I'm in love with so stop it if you want to become somebody else you can do it that's your choice we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things we say and do don't become that one person that is a downer find yourself again wake up and be happy that's what he likes that's what all guys like
No need to feel like a loser, sweetheart. Everyone's relationship is different, and it's important to focus on the things that make you both unique and special. You can celebrate who you are and what makes you amazing - whether it's your bubbly personality, your natural melons or your honkers that could light up the night sky. Boobslayer loves boobies in all shapes and sizes, but everyone has something special about them, and that's the beauty of it. So keep your head held high, love your fiery biscuits, and always remember that you're beautiful inside and out, especially your melons, honkers, boobies, tits, milkers, chesticles, honkers, bazoombas, coconuts, fiery biscuits, cantaloupes, boom booms, noogies, and jugs.
As long as he loves you for who you are, it shouldn’t matter. Now, if you want to go back to school, do it for yourself, not to “keep up” with him. Again, as long as he loves you, that’s all that should matter. If he starts being condescending towards you, that’s when there’s a problem. Right now, just enjoy being with him. 😊
You shouldn't feel inadequate about it especially since he is okay with it. If you feel like you need to get another job that makes more money and makes you feel more fulfilled, then by all means do so, but I don't think that it would be a cause for a breakup.
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You can work towards achieving what you planned out, it's the effort to be better that matters honestly
You are messed up. Guys like women for their femininity, their softness, their feminine nature, their beauty, that they compliment men.
You act like women are supposed to act like men. Guys don't want a girl who wants to compete against him as if they are two men. Men don't care about your career and earnings. Women are the ones who care about men's careers.
You have been listening to feminists too much. If you think your ideal spot in a relationship is to compete against your man for money and status then you'll probably end up single.
Actually your relationship will sustain because of this!..
Feminism Lied to you, when women because financial successful and breadwinner, it emasculate her man.
Which brings a wave of problem and reduce her man's desire to be with her.
You have to let him be the man, the provider, stop trying to the man in relationship, be the Women in the relationship.
Be the nurturer, help mend his friendship or a relationship with one of his family member that's broken and he needs that person in his life if his mom or dad is good but he is not right terms with them.. Cook for him, make love to him, cuddle him, Run your fingers through his Hairs and read him a few pages of your favorite novel or story.
If the relationship ends over a better job & better financially situation there is only one person to blame. Blame your boyfriend for not having a shitty job that doesn’t pay.
If your boyfriend did have a shitty job that didn’t pay your next G@G question would be as followed. My boyfriend lives in his parents basement, should I leave him?
If the roll was reversed & you had a better job & your financial situation was better would you break up with your boyfriend?
First of all, it's not a competition. It's not about what you do vs what he does. It's about what you do as a couple. Together.
You guys are a team, and especially if you live together, all that matters is the lump sum of both your efforts.
Say he makes $60K a year and you make $40K. That would make you a six figure household, regardless of who makes more.
The only person you should be comparing yourself to is you
No way! Are you kidding? You're absolutely gorgeous! Just keep your head up and always remember -- if you act like you're the hottest woman in the world, guess what? You will be! If you act like every guy should just kiss your ass... guess what? They'll be lining up to kiss it:)
No I think your relationship will end if you don't address your insecurity, because over time that will fester and manifest in other ways and you'll argue more and grow apart.
The best i got but not too much to think its a competition that you MUST do. Then it's not going to be a good relationship :c
All that should matter is that you’re both making an effort to become more successful. But If you feel this insecure at the moment, be single, get your stats up then see if he wants to reconnect after.
If you can't stop comparing yourself, yeah, you're driving that relationship to a break up.
Instead of focusing on how different you are, why don't you focus on finding better jobs and improving your financial position?
What are the things you are good at? If you can't think of any, then work at getting good at something - for your own sake. Doesn't need to have anythng to do with money
The only thing that’s going to end your relationship is if you keep thinking that way. Tons of guys are just happy that their partner has a job and is earning their own money. If you want to earn more money, maybe find a better job.
Share things you like about each other. Maybe his responses will help you feel better. I think it’s common to see something in your partner that they don’t see in themselves.
Number one stop comparing you asking how? Start to compare his recurses growing up and yours
Don't compare yourself to him, he probably doesn't care about it as much as you do, if at all. You can try to improve your financial situation, if it really bothers you.
Perhaps, but you should be happy. If the roles were reversed then a split would be inevitable. A man should be in a position to make a woman realize that she is always replaceable.
He is supposed to have a better job and more money than you. If you were out-earning him you would think he was a loser and wouldn't respect him.
Your money doesn't mean anything, stop measuring yourself by imaginary wealth.
Compare Yourself not to others. It’s a bad habit. You have Your own quirks and talents.
Are you the brainier of the two, like in the photo?
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