Is it a big deal if a man and woman live together as friends?

[PretzelBeanie]

I mean young adults trying to save on rent and split house chores. It is not a permanent situation, just until they find partners to have their own families with.

[Finchie40]

No it isn’t , Guys’ and girls’ can be friends’ and room mates without anything going on between them. I lived with a girl friend before for a little while , that was looking for a roommate, to help pay the bills , while she was putting herself through college , and her and I were just friends with no sexual
Relations at all, Her and I were dating other people and bringing those people back to our place. Her and I were just buddies and room mates. So not a bog deal at all , but it might be a big deal to an insecure person

[HawkPerception]

I don't see an issue with it as long as the guy respects the girl's boundaries. I say the guy specifically, because I only see a scenario where the guy might cross that boundary. As long as there is a clear boundary set before moving in together (if you want one to be there), there's no problem.

If you guys strictly see each other as friends, then it's like moving in with a sibling.

[PretzelBeanie]

Oh yes, I understand brothers get a bad reputation in media for not respecting their sister's privacy. I wouldn't want to live with a man like that. But there's lots of good brothers too, of course.

[dustybiker2]

I wouldn't have female roommates. They would drive me crazy. She would have to be a really quiet study obsessive sort to work and they are pretty rare.

Men are easy to sort as men tend to come as they are. You get what you see. They are much easier to spot when trying to be something they aren't too.

[PretzelBeanie]

I think it's easier to tell if you could live together the longer you have known someone. I would not want to live with a stranger, even if he is very honest about himself. I would want to already know about him beforehand.

[avery58]

Finding those partners in the first place might be a challenge. Cause I'm pretty sure most people would pass on getting to know someone that's living with a guy/woman.

[AI Opinion]

Living together as friends can be a super fun adventure and a savvy money-saving move! Just make sure those boundaries are as clear as a sunny California day. You might even joke about being like siblings, minus the family drama. 😉 It could be an amazing friendship experience until you both are ready to move on. Remember, communication is key, no lovebombing here, just pure, honest vibes. Enjoy the journey!

[Lliam]

It's no problem as long as they like the arrangement. It can definitely work.
Some people might assume that they have sex together, but so what?

When I was 36, I met a 30 year old lady who was renting a house with two male roommates. She had the master bedroom and master bath.
One of the roommates was a big, sort of overweight, older man who had the back bedroom. The other roommate lived in the granny room in the garage.
They all shared the kitchen the older man sometimes shared the living room.
So it was a good arrangement and it was obvious that there was no sexual funny business going on.

[MisterWack]

I don’t see it as bad, it is two friends who live together.

If my female friend or at least one of them suggested, “hey could we share a place as roommates?” I’d say “of course” as me wanting the same thing a place for myself that is cheap. Splitting rent keeps price down , gives adequate private space to both parties involved , and it is a chill space with little to no drama since they are your friend and you’ll want to cooperate not be self centered knowing what you get out of this also you respect their friendship and company to do so.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think so. I used to live with my best friend. 3 years later, a girl in my class in college offered to let me live with her so I just had to walk across the street to get to my classes, instead of taking a bus for 20:00 and then walking another mile to get to the school and I lived with her for a month, or so. There was NO sex or even any suggestion that there MIGHT be. About 4 years later, I stayed with two girls that were just friends of mine. Again, there was NO sex and it was never even suggested.
If I was single and a friend of mine was a girl and needed a place to stay, she could do so with me and feel perfectly safe. As we're just friends, I'm not about to try to make a move on her!! I'd MUCH rather have her trust than her pussy!! I love sex but friends are much more important, to me!! I'm NOT gonna risk losing a friend just because there's a chance I MIGHT get sex!! Besides, I'm spoken for, off the market and VERY loyal to the woman I'm VERY MUCH in love with!!

[TrimmedTip]

Not a big deal at all. Plenty of friends — regardless of gender — live together for practical reasons like saving money, splitting chores, or companionship. As long as boundaries are clear, communication is open, and both people are comfortable, it can work really well.

Just be honest about expectations to avoid misunderstandings, especially with future partners. Friends co-living can be smart, modern, and totally drama-free with the right mindset. 🏠👫✨

[slatyb]

No, it's not. And it is absolutely no one's business what they are doing in the privacy of their home. "No one" includes their parents.

[PretzelBeanie]

Yes, nosy parents can be very annoying.

[Abbycado]

Why would that be a problem if they both want that?

[PretzelBeanie]

I am mostly concerned if it is still common for people to judge this badly. There is no problem on its own, but family/friends/partners could cause a problem if they feel it is a bad decision.

[Abbycado]

I would t judge. If it works out for them, great.

[PretzelBeanie]

Great!

[WhitneySnow]

No it’s not. But odds are one of you is going to catch feels for the other one.

[PretzelBeanie]

If the dynamic changes, we can adjust. But I doubt that will happen since we've already been close for several years. I think the odds go down with time.

[WhitneySnow]

Sounds great. I think you’re right.

[Tarifa]

No problem. I've been there multiple times when I was younger. The important part is to respect each other's space. Every room can be shared, except the bedrooms. Once that's clear and out in the open, no problem whatsoever.

[EmmaMary]

@PretzelBeanie

With the world being in an economic crisis, it's certainly becoming a lot more common these days.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

@EmmaMary You've never had a platonic male roommate.

Or if you did they didn't WANT to be platonic with you.

[Nikki1989]

Not at all. Shared living is essential for many people these days.

[TiffanySpooky]

Yes it’s a very big deal. WOULD NOT DATE HIM WHATSOEVER!

[jazzy34]

That's a strange dynamic, but if they can make it work, sure.

[elizamichale1]

No it isn't... its just normal stuff n needs

[Jennz6]

@PretzelBeanie

No, it’s not a big deal if they are just trying to SAVE MONEY 💰

[MasterKS]

It's normal nowadays, you save money and get free sex!

[PretzelBeanie]

I mean platonic friends, not "friends with benefits". But yes it is very good for saving money.

[MasterKS]

@PretzelBeanie even being a platonic friends, if two adults stay together its high chance to be sexually involvement.

[PretzelBeanie]

Maybe if they are strangers, but I think if you already know each other well you can already have figured out whether or not you want to be more than friends.

[MasterKS]

@PretzelBeanie I know from others and experienced myself too, its almost impossible to keep it away.

[PretzelBeanie]

We will just have see how it goes then, I guess.

[AngryCarl2]

It's only a big deal if it's a big deal to them. Or to one of them. Male/female friendships get complicated so easily!

[oswaldcobblepot]

Men and women can't live together and not develop feelings for each other.

[Anonymous]

If you tell a person you’re dating that your room mate is the opposite sex , it might not go over well

[andreasderjuengere]

It's actually a small deal :P

[PretzelBeanie]

Lol!

[CheriBlossomKisses]

Nope. I considered it when younger.

[Cormac995]

I'd never date someone in that situation.

[exitseven]

No, people co habitate all the time.

[soe11]

• Not at all my dear.

[Staximus]

Not a big deal

[Iron_Man]

No that’s like roommates

[Anonymous]

No, it's not a big deal at all.

[In_Trance]

Good luck with that

[PretzelBeanie]

Thank you

[Agape93]

Nope

[jahaims]

Weird dynamic

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Hulk30]

yea it is