What do you think is the most important thing in a relationship?

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jolyjumper · Accepted Answer

Through the years i came to a formulation of aspects that i find to be required to consider a relationship as a strong, unspoken pact between 2 people.
To me, it comes to 3 things, each one reflects its health on the other 2, thus, making the relation stronger and true or weaker and falling into an illusion of a working relationship.

- Honesty/Trust

I put them on the same level, as one. It's not about how you feel about the other's level of honesty, is also on your level of honesty towards the other. If for some reason you need to hide something, be honest about it, tell, say, speak, explain. The level of trust between you will influence the impact of such a situation. I'm not counting here betrayals, those, aside from not being supposed to happen, if they do, be honest, face your actions and take the consequences.

- Tolerance

People will hardly even think about this being a success factor in a relationship... but it is a major one.
No one is perfect; as much as you may find everything cute and funny at start, most likely, some aspects of behaviour, personality, habits, etc., as small and insignificant as they might appear, if for some reason start feeling annoying, that feeling will just grow. Pick one, and another, and one more... you really don't say a thing, they look harmless, but one day, in some more tense situation or argument, all of it will come up, and worst, will be a reason to be impossible to talk, as anything becomes a reason for conflict. You need to accept the other, and vice-versa, everyone has faults, and you need to figure out if you can be tolerant of them.

- Complicity

I consider this the most important. It is the main ingredient in the recipe to create and develop a real bond. The level of complicity relates to anything you share. Doesn't matter what. Can be based on a travel, a conversation, a random situation, an event you shared, etc. Complicity towards a shared moment implies you own it together as a relevant memory. Each one is part of your story and gives meaning to the relationship. As soon as anyone fails to honor those memories, the complicity between the 2 dies a little bit more to the point it just gets deprived of meaning, and your bond fades away.

These 3 things either strengthen or weaken each other. They are co-dependent.
Nased on how strong the 2 of you assume each one of them, everything else falls into place.
If you are not being honest/trustworthy, for sure you are not being tolerant, much less an accomplice of your partner.
If you can't be tolerant before the other, you are forcing someone else's nature; thus, trust and honesty fade, and you certainly won't be an accomplice to the other part.
If you don't assume the complicity with the other, you won't be tolerant. Much less trust or honesty will be in place.

PS: perhaps this text is too long, but to make it consistent, i really felt the need to explain.

dwreborn · Accepted Answer

For me communication because without having it that's where all the other issues come from or can't be fixed quick enough then a little prob becomes a serious one for instance not enough attention to your partner could lead to cheating but if you told your partner you need more attention it may solve the problem but not if they don't know

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would say aside from basic perimeters like loyalty, mutual support, and respect, the most important quality for me is mutual investment at the emotional levels, that might not be what the marriage therapists tell you, but for me, it is what makes me commit to somebody as opposed to viewing them as another stranger on the street.

Zionne · Accepted Answer

The most important thing in a relationship is trust. If you can’t trust each other, everything else becomes hard. Honest communication and respect help keep that trust strong.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the secret sauce of romance! 😉 From my adventures as a relationship coach, I'd say communication takes the cake. Without it, you're like a ship lost at sea. It's all about sharing, understanding, and vibing on the same wavelength. Don't keep things bottled up; spill the tea together. Whether it's about emotions, plans, or even who's doing the dishes, being on the same page makes love smoother. Now, go out there and let that love ride those waves like a pro surfer!🏄‍♂️❤️

AviatorTom · Answer

Communication is key. A relationship thrives with good communication between the partners. It struggles when communication is weak.

Billlewis · Answer

What do I think the most important aspect of a relationship is? That's an easy one -- the woman's pleasure, comfort, happiness and satisfaction, always.

aisha22 · Answer

The most important thing in a relationship is trust. Without it, love, communication, or even time together can feel shaky. Trust creates safety, honesty, and space for both people to grow. Along with trust comes respect — because when you truly respect your partner, you listen, value their needs, and handle conflicts in a healthier way. Love starts the relationship, but trust and respect are what keep it strong.

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BadApple69 · Answer

Most in portent thing in my relationship? Hmmm I guess that my wife doesn’t find out lol

Miristheiss · Answer

Shared values and goals. Good communication. Putting the other person first.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Open communication, trust and honesty. Sexual intimacy is also important to many. But I think trust and honesty are my choices first

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Loyalty, trust, and understanding, as well as good communication.

i_Jedi · Answer

Mutual respect. If you have that, love, trust, and everything else can actually grow and last.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Mutual trust and mutual respect. Add mutual connection as well.

Meatballs · Answer

To not being in a relationship at any point in time in my life again

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Commitment. If you're not both committed to it, it won't last.

Fashionista7 · Answer

Trust and communication without it you have nothing.

BanBan105 · Answer

Honesty, clarity (definition) and true fidelity amongst the couple.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Communication.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Communication

beenherebefore · Answer

Commitment, support, loyalty, consistency.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Communication everything stems from it.

Coden7 · Answer

Respect/trust Communication

MysticDevice · Answer

I'd have to say chemistry

Staximus · Answer

Honesty, trust, and loyalty

Likes2drive · Answer

Sex? Trust, loyalty and communication

LiamS95 · Answer

Honesty, trust and good communication

jahaims · Answer

There isn't a singular most important thing.

Allmenrsick · Answer

Money, sex, respect

blackeagle007 · Answer

what everyone said here sums it up

katiesmuff · Answer

Real LOVE!

itsannalee · Answer

Trust and loyalty

Abbycado · Answer

Trust

khyalove1 · Answer

Trust because you should trust your partner

Celticwolf78 · Answer

Communication is very important

glennos89 · Answer

Communication

dudeinohio · Answer

Communication

MasterKS · Answer

A good sex.

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Fucking

In_Trance · Answer

Trust

wkhan_87 · Answer

Loyalty and love

mat678 · Answer

Communication

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