Have you ever actually been in love? What does love feel like from a man’s perspective?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been a hopeless romantic but lately I just feel like, it doesn’t really exist. That romantic love is a myth, something that only exists in books and fairy tales or just some made up capitalist bullshit that makes women look forward to marriage and dream of a happily ever after which doesn’t look like we think it does. I just can’t find a reason to believe in its existence anymore.
If as a man, you look forward to marriage or love…. why? What is your reason?

[Anonymous]

Her name is Danielle i truly love her with all my heart and soul. She claimed i loved her unconditionally then claimed i lied about my love for her. I never once claimed to love unconditionally no one can only God can but what i repeatedly said was i love her with all my heart and soul truly deeply love her i never said unconditionally because that's impossible for me or anyone else to do to love someone unconditionally only God can do that

[DJB72]

Trying to describe how being in love feels is like trying to describe what colour the number 7 tastes like.

I can tell you I loved my wife from the first day we met until she took her last breath a year ago for 23 years, married 21 of them. But that kind of love isn't primarily a feeling. It's hard work. It can be simultaneously uplifting and soul crushing.

And it's worth every millisecond.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the spellbinding dance of love! From a guy's point of view, falling in love feels like finally finding that missing piece of the puzzle. 💕 You know, heart's doing the cha-cha, everything else fading into the background. The magic isn’t just in the weddings, but in those quirky, real-life moments you share. Yes, love doesn’t always come wrapped in a shiny romance novel, but boy, when it hits, it hits! Imagining a lifetime of Netflix cuddles and breakfast bonds gives me hope every day. 😄 Keep the faith, my friend!

[Finchie40]

Because true love does exist , it’just comes down to whether you are with the right person or not , which sadly a lot of people end up with the wrong person and wonder why they keep failing in relationships but if you find the right person , you will experience true love. Relationships are pretty much a game of chance , it’s a 50/50 chance on whether you are a great match or not. Relationships that last the long haul are a great match because the both of you stood by each others’ side through the good times and bad , A short term relationship isn’t a good match at all because that means you both really don’t see eye to eye with each other and you both were just infatuated with each other , which happens a lot , why I no longer race into relationships with girls’ until we both really see the big picture together. Why I prefer FWB’s with some strings attached with a girl I am interested in , to give her and I time to really get to know each other and to see if love will keep continuing to grow between us once the infatuation period runs it’s course. It also helps eliminate having your heart completely broken if one of you decides you want to see other people. The both of you can remain friends’ This only works if the both of you are honest with each other , if there isn’t honesty from the both of you , then it’s just a waste of time and just a convenience for the most part because one of you is just using the other. I will only be FWB’s with some strings attached with a girl that is a good friend that is honest with me and has a lot in common with me. The purpose of it is to give the both of us breathing room before making the big decision of being 100 percent fully committed to each other. It seems to be working best for me , especially after all the shit i experienced with jumping into relationships fast with girls’ prior that all turned to shit

[Asker]

I think that’s a practical and good approach to really check compatibility and truly get to know each other before commitment. However, I hope you make it clear that you intend to marry or commit someday eventually, so she knows you’re building towards something and not just wasting time.

[Finchie40]

Yes, I am an honest guy and I pretty much lay everything out on the table to her , I don’t like blind siding anyone , I consider myself mature and respectful and I treat people the same way I like to be treated in return , so when I meet a beautiful girl that I am interested in and I sense she is interested in me , I will tell her exactly what I am looking for to give her a choice on whether she wants the same things or not. If she doesn’t , then her and I can just remain friends and leave it at that. Again I treat her the same way I hope she is treating me , with honesty , without honesty in a relationship or FWB’s , it’s not going to last long whatsoever, people that lie are digging their own grave because those lies will eventually smack them in the face. When I was younger in my wild days , I use to fib to some girls’ because I wanted them to be interested in me , not realizing they would be interested in in me without fibbing period , so I no longer fibbed from there on out and realized by me being honest has increased my options because I was honest. Honesty also brings trust and respect which are very important for true love and long lasting relationships, period , without that you don’t really have anything with someone Why I can’t stand selfish people and liars , selfish people and liars will never experience true love because all they care about is themselves and what they can receive for themselves , they don’t know how to give the same way they want to receive. Why you will see selfish people constantly failing in relationships, because they can’t admit they were wrong and can’t take accountability for their own selfish actions and behaviors. No one on this planet is perfect , we are all imperfect people that come from different paths in life , So if you want to experience true love you are best to put your selfishness aside for your partner because they will more than likely do the same for you because they feel valued and respected and wanted

[Finchie40]

As well, unfortunately a lot of people just like the thought of being in a relationship but don’t know how to be in a relationship because they only care about themselves , relationships take 2 people choosing each other through the good times and bad , Love only grows with 2 people prioritizing each other to become one , a team working together , not the other way around. People with selfish mindsets will never experience true love. Unfortunately I learned this the long hard way , I can admit I am not perfect but I’ll try to be perfect for my partner hoping she is doing the same for me.

[Asker]

Absolutely agree with this. Having been on the other end of the stick dealing with liars and selfish people, despite having really good chemistry, I think it’s safe to say I know what it feels like when you get blindsided and you never look at the person you trusted the same way again. I also prefer to be honest about everything from the start, including my expectations of reciprocity of honesty, integrity and matching my energy.

[Finchie40]

Yea being blindsided sucks big time but unfortunately it can happen to the best of us , some people are very good at lying and can easily make you believe that they are telling you the truth , So when I date a girl , the key thing I look for is if she is actually being honest with me and trustworthy, if her actions and words do not line up , then I lose all respect for her and will not waste anymore of my time with her. When someone really likes you and wants to be with you , you will become their top priority , they will climb mountains to be by your side , if they can’t even jump over a little puddle for you , then kick them to the curb where they belong. A loving partner won’t go days without talking to you or seeing you period , a person that is using you will because they only like the convenience of you , and that’s where you should draw the line and not fall for any of their shit. When you wear your partners’ shoes the same way you want them wearing yours , and they do the same for you , that’s someone you should keep by your side as much as possible , again selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers , so by wearing your partners’ shoes before wearing your own , eliminates selfishness , never assume you truly know how your partner is going to act because we aren’t mind readers , something that may seem innocent to you might not seem innocent to them. So never assume shit , if your partner is upset over something you did or said , be honest with them , don’t sugarcoat it or lie , just be honest and your partner will more than likely respect you more for doing so. People that lie are only hurting themselves , because it will be a matter of time before those lies shine and smack them in the face. I had a friend that was a compulsive liar , he lied so much to the point he started believing his own lies , he was married with kids’ and he constantly lied to his wife because he hiding the fact that he was a druggie , money would go missing and

[Finchie40]

That’s how she knew something was off, her deceased mom’s jewelry disappeared as well , so she hired an investigator and found out he was the one stealing and pawning her stuff , So she called him up and told him to pack his bags and leave the house and that she wants a divorce , She was at work when she called him , by the time she got home , she found him dead in their daughters’ room with a bag over his head , He also left letters underneath all their pillows saying that he is sorry for the things he has done and he no longer wanted to be a burden to any of them. His lying caught up to him to the point he couldn’t lie anymore , so he took his own life over it. Why lying is stupid period

[Asker]

Wow that took a really dark turn. Sucks for both of them that it had to reach that point. If he had gotten help earlier or come clean to his wife at some point, she might have even helped him and he wouldn’t have the guilt that drove him to compulsive lying and his death. I’m sorry for your friend.

[Finchie40]

Thank you , even though he was a liar , he was still a good friend to me because he never did anything for me to not like him , I have told him numerous times to stop lying but unfortunately he suffered his own demons. I talked to him the night before he killed himself , and I had no clue he was going to kill himself , I got a phone call from another friend the next day that he did. I was in complete shock and immediately called his wife because she was a friend of mine as well. She told me what happened and I was shocked big time. She knew he was doing drugs and she tried getting him help but unfortunately the drugs won. She said she was over his lying and stealing , which I didn’t blame her one bit. I even tried helping him as well. He was like a brother to me and unfortunately the drugs took him down a dark path which drugs tend to do. Before the drugs he was a great guy with a big heart. I still to this day wish he opened up to me when he called me , but unfortunately he didn’t , he sounded like he always did , so there was no way I could tell he was crying for help , because if he did , I would of immediately helped him. At the end of our phone call he did say I love ya bro which he has said to me before , so I didn’t think anything of it , but I wish I did

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Love is more cerebral for women, emotional, but men experience the same emotional connection, but through physical sex. The industry, unable to do little more than show sexy women in the media, took a different approach and started marketing all this capitalist bullshit about romance, valentines day, wedding rings (which weren't a thing before the 1920's), romantic this, romantic that.. NONE of which is actually romantic, leaving the female feeling unsatisfied with "love" and the man resentful because modern feminism filled in the blanks and demonized men who don't (or won't) follow the program.

Men experience love physically, both through admiring beauty to the act of sex. At no other time in our lives does the feeling of "I love you" wash over us as when we are inside of the woman, having passionate sex.

I mock modern feminism because it teaches women that men are dogs and somehow pigs too, just for being wired for physical love, and mocks men into pretending not to be horny all the time. It's absurd and half the reason dating is so fucked up anymore.

[Stefan04]

I look forward to it. I don’t think it’s capitalist BS. I think that both men and women are regularly deceived by the other party, I think it’s due to who we allow within our lives and intimate relationships. How he begins the relationship dictates the tone for the rest of the relationship, if it’s founded on sex then it’s going to revolve around sex.

[Asker]

I guess that makes sense. So as a man, what would be your primary reason to get married? Since it has become more of a choice, rather than a rite of passage as it was for women earlier due to society and so many women are choosing to stay single due to lack of compatible partnerships and vice versa.

[Stefan04]

Well this new generational age of dating feels rotten and spoiled. It’s unfulfilling to me to inevitably bounce from one person to the next and I’m not the only one who feels this way. I would rather save myself and raise a family with one partner than to raise a family with a hundred. It’s not about compatibility, it’s primarily about commitment.

[Asker]

That’s a really mature perspective. I’m doing the same as well.

[Joshydavid25]

"or just some made up capitalist bullshit that makes women look forward to marriage and dream of a happily ever after which doesn’t look like we think it does."

Well first, capitalism is driven by the people's desire for said product, not the other way around. So if anything it would be people's BS fairytale belief that would be driving capitalism.. That said.. It's definitely exist but its not as common as people think.. I don't think most people grow to genuinely love each other.. They have strong romantic feelings which fizzled out in a few years, and then they either just live together or call it quits months or even years down the line..

Its the selfish fickle nature of human beings unfortunately... But you do have on those less common occasions where people do actually grow to love and pursue a duty towards each other.. I've never been in love, but I hope to reach that point one day..

[Anonymous]

I'm... not sure my answer will make you feel any better.

Love does, indeed, exist, and I have been in love. Truly, deeply, and foolishly in love. It is something that men do experience.

Unfortunately, just because you're in love with someone doesn't necessarily mean the other person won't do something to hurt you, and the more you love them, the more their actions can hurt. I have been hurt, and I am profoundly damaged, as a result.

So, yes, love does exist, but I no longer feel as if it's worth it, given the potential risk involved. I don't want to go through that pain again, and so I doubt I will ever let myself love anyone, ever again. I hate that I feel this way, but as I said; I have been damaged.

[Anonymous]

Exaggerating anything makes it silly and unbearable. Even facts around you have to be taken realistically and with balance. That's first.

Then, a girl or woman who understands herself well and is studying nature of man.. where I as the man do as well.. and we each have some public-benefit goals and so can utilize that understanding mindsets is what shall naturally keep the bond and strengthen it natirally without extra push or need for this glittery or so fancy parts portrayed.

Simply truly bond with that human female in the proper way it is supposed to be. It takes you some effort and clarity of mind to study yourself enough as well as the other gender.. but the result is genuine bonding I would say.

[dwreborn]

They are the world to you its all you think about your anxious waiting to see them its a beautiful thing but never take it for granted or it will rip your heart out after 25 years together its gonna be tough to go our separate ways but it needs to happen but it was worth every min

[DonaldDarko]

I don't look forward to it any more. I know it's just the gears and wheels of an evolved reproductive mechanism. You are right in what you think. We should find another way to reproduce and leave this crap behind us. These relationships half the time end up ruining the people's lives.

[MannMitAntworten]

I wouldn’t remotely associate it with capitalism beyond ‘maybe’ Valentine’s Day and wedding planning. Granted the wedding aspect is capitalized upon in even in the most Marxist cultures.


…yes, I have been in love. Been engaged even. They cheated. That was that.

[Allmenrsick]

Let me tell you the real story of sleeping beauty. Sleeping beauty woke up one day and she looked in the mirror and she saw her face is wriklish and old. and there was no one comming to rescue her. And she went outside to see what the fuck is going on. And she found out that all the princes were playing with each other in front of the gate and not coming in. She got so angry and she lock the door and went into her castle and she married to the dragon. lol

[Sugar100]

I feel love don’t exist I never had guy in love with me and us both in love it don’t exist. It’s just me in love fantasizing at 27 what its like to have a boyfriend daydreaming and don’t come true 😞

[mysteriousNicholas]

No, I don't ever want that weird cringey sickly love.

Only some cultures or others view that love in that fashion, to me it's too cringey 👀😙

[Anonymous]

I might have been. My brain acts differently with her. I've tried to recreate it, but I can't with other girls. I want to find a girl to love and marry.

[Mikeyyy999]

I wouldn't know. And honestly I don't believe in it anymore🤷‍♂️

[insatiable_curiosity]

Briefly... It's incredible. It's fantastic. All people are able to experience rich emotions.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but all of my loves were unrequited :(

It's like this:

Girls I like usually don't like me back.

Girls who like me are usually not my type.

[WhitneySnow]

I have been in love but I’m not a man

[Jmmmfi4]

I never have sadly