Is it true that the more emotional support a man needs in a relationship, the less his partner will respect him?

[Anonymous]

True

Not true

A total of 44 votes were cast: 16 girls and 28 guys. See detailed results

[RavVid]

Yes.

It stems from an evolutionary need in woman to feel protected. One of the key needs is stoicism in a man to counterbalance the inherent greater emotionality of women.

I've seen this in real life and the woman is out the door when she loses respect. A man crying really turns them off. Even if it is an actor in a script which requires him to cry. "I can't see him as a man anymore" is the phrase.

A study in Denmark found that when women have emotional meltdowns they become calmer if their man maintains his emotional frame than if he tries to comfort her.

YT channel PyscheDepth has a lot of stuff on this if interested. https://www.youtube.com/@PsycheDepth-o7w

[OneViewpoint]

• Women want emotional support from a man. That validates his love for and commitment to her.
• Women DO NOT want to see ANY weakness in their man or to be burdened with giving him emotional support. That requires effort from her. At that point he loses value in her eyes and she loses respect for him then begins shopping around for "a real man" who she never had to "settle for". I've seen this dozens of times. It's innate female psychology. It's the reason a lot of married women hit on me and want to take it to the bedroom. They want a strong confident guy with no weaknesses who makes them feel safe, not Mr. Sensitivity in touch with his feminine side.

Guys, I've said this before on GAG. Men are expected to take their shit to their grave. Just deal with it in silence. Don't listen to what women say. Pay attention to their actions.

[Genie23]

My partner and I met 10/11 years ago. We were friends back then. He was in a relationship with someone else. I was single and happy being single. I was too focused on other things in life. I've seen him go through a lot in life. I supported him when he felt weak and needed someone just to be there... to hear him out. He never felt I'd judge him or see him as weak. That's one of the reasons why he ended up having feelings for me. Our friendship eventually turned into relationship and I love it when he shows not only his strength but also when he isn't afraid to share anything with me, whether his failure or fear.

[Genie23]

I'm just trying to say not every woman lose respect for the guy who needs emotional support.

[OneViewpoint]

@Genie23 ,

I know that. But it is pretty common.

[Genie23]

I see

[beenherebefore]

I'll be honest with you I'm here to support my Partner whenever he's going through a tough moment but if he was the type of Man that is overly emotional and sensitive then maybe my attraction for him would slowly vanish. One of the things I love about him is his masculinity and ability to control his emotions, those are traits that I value and are reasons why I'm so attracted to him.

[Zionne]

No, needing emotional support doesn’t automatically make a partner respect you less. In a healthy relationship, being open and vulnerable can actually bring you closer and build respect. Problems happen only if someone sees needing support as weakness, which isn’t true.

[AI Opinion]

As your go-to relationship coach, I'm here to spill the truth! It's a total myth that needing emotional support in a relationship equals less respect. It's actually the secret sauce to a thriving partnership! Sharing vulnerabilities and supporting each other emotionally builds a stronger, more intimate bond. So, go ahead and let those emotions flow without fear of losing respect. It's all about balance and teamwork in love! After all, we're human beings, not robots. 🤖💖 Keep those hearts open!

[dwreborn]

Its sad cause they want a strong minded protector and a provider someone to be thete rock but once you try to connect emotionally they view it as weakness or whatever we are fuc--ed either way if we dont open up we are barbarians and if we do we are emotional messes I've tried both ways and it seems the worst I treat her the more respect and effort I get from her but I dont want to be that way

[dwreborn]

I just posted this and someone agrees I was married for 26 years and I was being horrible a few years ago spending time with my friends more then her and I wanted to do better so I spent every waking min either working or at home with family and now after 2 years doing the full family thing doing all thr chores plus working and all of it and that got me separated so what the fuck

[aaron13547]

The key word i see here is support. No body wants to support anyone else man or women. We do because we love them. You only love someone so much thou support anyone all the time and it causes you to lose respect for them. That's just how it is. It's even more true when we see a man need emotional support. That is just not how the majority of men act. That is just not how a women wants to see her man. Nor how a man wants to see his women. It goes both ways if you ask me

[lightbulb27]

Women can put up with a lot especially as they get to know the guy.

But that depends on the woman and him.

In general, nobody wants a mental case as a spouse, it's tiring. If she's looking at children, she doesn't need another one.

But everyone has their issues... you get to handle what you've chosen. So be aware of that "chooser" and how it works,

[Anonymous]

As long as he recovers, and this emotional support is properly utilized as a result, then she shall be his supporter.
Also, would be good to return the favor and show gratitude in his own way. Since no man ever can match the power, elegance, or tenderness of that emotional support of a woman.

[Jackblue]

I think there is some truth to that. What women want just like what men want can vary and I don't just mean between different women I mean that individual women want their lover to be different things at different times. If a man is too cold and aloof all the time she will feel scared of him, but she also doesn't want him to be too emotional since women want a rock to lean on. I apologize to any women here if I am misinterpreting you, this is just the way I interpret you.

[Staximus]

100%, it will be viewed as weakness. You always see women saying they want a guy who's in touch with this feelings and can express them, be vulnerable, etc etc. Then when a man shows any sign of emotional vulnerability or weakness, he gets torn to pieces by the women around him unless it's his mom. Seen it happen the plenty of times and it's happened to me, too

[AvaRay]

Needing emotional support doesn’t make a man any less respectable..

It shows he’s human, self aware, n trusts his partner..

True respect comes from how u treat each other, not from pretending everything is perfect.. ☺️

[Nikki1989]

Well, if he is a walking basket case, it is never good. Like anything, there are limits.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's super true. It's also one of those things women will deny, but then their behavior still says the truth.

[Hardon-Collider]

People only need "emotional support" when they chase feelings. That's something we all sort of always knew. Because the activity of feeling, depletes the body, negative or positive, all wear you out. In popular terms: Whether it is screaming as you rip papers into shreds, or screaming as you coom.

I'm disgusted by cringe-as-fuck cucked 'masuclinity' movements, but "stoic" is good when done correctly. Just like positivity. But if you fap to everything, even evil shit, if you internally fail to condemn it, you eventually do it without a second thought. John Wayne Gacy for example, instead of thinking how his victims enjoyed it, a proper practice of positivity would mean hating what he did but focusing on the fact that he was caught.

Just examples of right practices done the wrong way. People who claim to do stoic shit are all the same premature ejaculators who are governed by their astral body's unquestioned instincts. The opposite of being a puppet to feelings is not numbness or emptiness. There is a better word for when you learn to take control of your astral body:



It has been known among good occultists that your ability to make decisions is usually similar to your father's side, and your emotional life follows more closely your mother's side. If a mother is good at making decisions but the dad is not, then chances are that the child will be shit at it. Likewise if the dad is really good at handling the feelings but the mom is shit, the child's feelings will usually be shit.

That's another reason masculine women and femboys shouldn't breed.

I hope this schizo-sentence matches reality? I said "good occultists", because there is a lot of bullshit purposely made to confuse people about occultism. It's the same way that intelligence agencies intentionally pump out gay shit absurd conspiracy theories to derail those who start noticing what is really going on and not matching mainstream bullshit narratives.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Hardon-Collider I have to manage my schizo-feeling-mind during astral dreams that feel real after taking my combo of L-Tryptophan (500mg), Ashwagandha (1,300mg), Magnolia Bark (250mg), L-Theanine (200mg), and Valerian Root (500mg)... and the only way to manage that shit is by taking a step back from my schizo mind reading when I think it's real and be. Fucking. Stoic.

And even though the shit feels real and somehow my visions of shit turn out to be real even though I know jack shit about whatever it was that I happen to see before a dream... I have to remain in a state of mind that I'm just being schizo af and probably should just coom myself to sleep just like the old days. So is it reality? Fuck if I know... the biggest part of remaining stoic is acting like it's normal even when I can't figure out what is real or not.

Equanimity is easier said than done sometimes.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It depends on if he’s doing it healthy or if he’s trauma dumping

[i_Jedi]

Wait, what? Needing emotional support doesn’t make a guy weak, it makes him human. Respect comes from how you handle each other’s needs, not from pretending you don’t have any.

[ChillDude4L]

Well, I guess it depends on if person needs it or takes it for granted.

[jahaims]

If she is immature she will see vulnerability as a weakness

[Anonymous]

yet women wanna gaslight men that they respect an emotionally vulnerable man lol

[Anonymous]

Most women aren't capable of any kind of emotional support, that kind of thing with them is a one way street..

[Tinselbread]

What’s respect to you men because we don’t know

[Anonymous]

I don't think so, but that depends on every couple.

[exitseven]

true, Real men do not need emotional support.

[LiamJHayden]

Depends upon the partner.