Would you end things with your partner if they did this to you? Read Below?

[Finchie40]

Your partner invited you to an event with friends’ and you were excited to go , but come last minute your partner changes their mind and tells you they just want to go with their friends’ instead without you , so you say ok , being a little bummed out , but you tell them to have fun, to come to find out the truth , that your partners’ ex was going to be at that event as well? Would you dump your partner or would you stay with them?

[ShellyB]

Well based on what you said, it sounds like what is happening is that the partner wants to spend time with the ex and possibly hook up or get back together, but I would give a chance to explain, it is possible there is some other reason. For example they may just want a conversation for closure, Or maybe it isn’t even about the ex maybe that is a coincidence.

Basically I would ask him the same questions in different ways to see if he keeps his story straight and if I am not satisfied I would prob end it but I would remember it is possible this is a misunderstanding. JMO!

[Noredcarpet]

God I would be so upset if that happened. Yes, dumped. Shows I can not trust the partner. I have had situations were an ex or what ever status, name they went under, of my partner has somehow gotten the News he was going and showed up (I was not there) . That did not end well. He was afraid to tell me for a very long time but finally I learned the truth. It would have been way easier if he just said it straight away, shit, this happened, she showed up, etc. I think some people lie or do not say something they know they should for different reasons, fear can be one of them. But in the scenario you describe it was with intent to go, well aware the ex was going to be there.

Out of respect I would tell my partner about if before and come up with a plan together what our next step would be. It is us now with or without the ex attitude is how I see it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Everything would've ended with the mind change about me going. The only way I would accept me not going is because she is not going. Now lets say circumstances led to somehow me finding out the same thing... just assume she cheated already bro. You don't need proof at this point. Even if she didn't she planned to and wanted to. She did everything to make it happen which shows her true intentions, and you can take solace in the fact that she failed at best... but no matter what you can't ignore she took every step in that direction and would've if it worked out for her.

[OneViewpoint]

That's a hard fast dump. The reason? She could have had the discussion about her ex, said it made her uncomfortable, said she was worried about making a scene, skipped the event to be with you. But she did none of that. You had to find out through the grapevine. It opens the question of why she didn't want you there. You don't measure up to Chad? Her pussy still drips for Tyrone? She's managing her options, LOL.

Nope. She gone! Vaya con Dios muchacha. That was a shitty way to handle the situation. Next...

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tricky world of relationship roller coasters! 🎢 My aim here is to help you untangle this twisty situation. If your partner pulls a last-minute switcheroo because of an ex, that's a red flag waving in the air. It's all about trust and transparency. Although having an ex around is inevitable sometimes, hiding it isn't fair play. Communication is key! If your partner's motives feel suspicious, it might be time for a heart-to-heart chat. Remember, everyone deserves honesty and respect in love. 😊

[OlderAndWiser]

That is a bona fide dumpable offense!

[MrJuicyBred]

I would definitely stay with them. its an event, and when people date other people in your community at some point or another yopu are going to run into them again unless they move away.
Most everyone is going to read into that scenario that she was only wanting him to stay so that she could meet her ex, but thats just not so.
She went with her friends, and there is nothing wrong with that. either they trust each other or they dont. its like when people cheat on each other, the one who was cheated always wants to go after the person their partner had sex with but i got news for you folks. it was the person your dating married to etc that cheated on you not the outside third person.
So give her the benefit of the doubt, because if you heard that your partners ex was there at the same event and you immediately start questioning them in your mind, then you have already deecided that they are guilty and now you have planted a seed of destruction into your thoughts abnd feelings for your partner, and not because of what she did but because he was weak minded and insecure.

[ManOnFire]

So they're canceling on me and saying they want to hang with friends instead, but are really hiding the fact that they're trying to mingle with an ex. Pure dishonesty. And highly likely some kind of unfaithfulness involved.

I'll leave their things outside.

[MrJuicyBred]

But thats not what the scenario says. read it carefully. it only says that she just wanted to hang out with friends then later he heard that her ex was at the event. So What, that doesn't mean she didn't want him, to go becauase her ex was there. everyone is saying oh ya later ditch that b**** but the truth is actually that the boyfriend that didn't go has a problem, he does not trust her, he "heard" her ex was there and with that info only what does it mean, only that he heard he was there, his girlfriend may have not known he was there. everyone here is anbswering like oh ya busted see ya, but there is no indication thats what the situation was. Would you think the same if you found out that your partner and her ex were shopping at a grocery store st the same time? lol everyone has to eat, come on people dont be so weak minded be grown up not using pullups

[ManOnFire]

@MrJuicyBred "so you say ok , being a little bummed out , but you tell them to have fun, to come to find out the truth , that your partners’ ex was going to be at that event as well"
- This doesn't exactly imply that their partner had any prior knowledge that their ex would be there.

The biggest bad indicator of their bad intentions is:
"but come last minute your partner changes their mind and tells you they just want to go with their friends’ instead without you"

Why would they do this? Because they knew their ex was going to be there and very likely wanted to talk to them/mess around without their partner knowing.

[MrJuicyBred]

Sometimes when girls get together they just want to be girls doing girl things, and maybe just maybe there is something that is telling her it won't be fun for you and that you would not enjoy doing anyways. Either you trust someone or you dont, if you dont there are other underlying issues not being addressed. My experience is that jealousy and lack of trust usually start from within. Lets face it, sometimes there are things that both guys and girls want to do without their partners in tow, and that is perfectly ok, its normal. People need to have their life together, and their life apart meaning, you have to have time to do things that you want to do by yourself or with friends. People should be complimented by a relationship not defined by it.

[ManOnFire]

@MrJuicyBred Which is all fine, but when they do this to meet up with an ex, they're already showing where their intentions are.

[Screenwriter]

So your partner's ex is at this event. Is she leaving you at home so she can talk to the ex? There are too many unanswered questions here. So what if she talks to him? Ex is ex for a reason.

Why she's saying you can't come is what's weird. Does she feel guilty about being at an event where her ex sees her current? Again, too many unanswered questions.

[Crimsyjo]

Depends on a lot of things. Is the ex there because of things outside your partners control and unavoidable? If no, that's bad. If yes, answer next question. Have they not long been broken up? If yes it was recent (and unavoidable) then it's understandable she may not want to risk conflict or "rub it in" to his face that she's moved on already with you. If no, they've been broken up a while, thats bad. And suss.

[Benjiman19]

Depends on if I know for sure that my partner is loyal or would they still be willing to be with their ex even if it's just for a night. If she was to hookup with him, I'd tell her to get out of my house with her things. However, if it's just a hangout and nothing happens, what would be my reasoning to dump her?

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Immediate breakup. Notice some of the women in the comments making excuses and giving way too much "benefit of the doubt". Hilarious.

[sage2021]

I think 🤔 by now you know how I feel about liars!!
She's a conniving, twisted, little sneak and as my best friend would say - she doesn't even deserve to be spit on my shoe!
This one gets tossed in the garbage truck! 🚚

[Twodogs0525]

If we were in a relationship where trust has been established, I could deal with it but I would be on guard. If it was a newer relationship, I would dump her. I wouldn't trust her or the "friends" she chooses to hang out with.

[StraightFaceAce]

If it was an isolated incident it could just be coincidence. I wouldn't necessarily break up with someone over that one thing, but I would if it's a pattern, and it would definitely raise a flag.

[Kaylea21]

It might be a misunderstanding, but to be fair I would never personally be okay with it at all, an ex should never still be in the same social circle no matter what, it just calls for trouble

[DryGermanGuy]

Who the fuck would do that? That’s downright twisted. 😵

[DrPepper12]

Automatic JUST on that? No. BUT there will be in depth depositions & investigations starting with her phone. Then her friends.

[Alex-Snow]

Yikes that would be tough. I probably would rethink our relationship and have a long talk with her about it

[FunkyMonkee]

If she was cheating on me with him, she's in dump city!!

[MannMitAntworten]

Having been cheated on a few times … this is shady. Cut sling load. Done.

[Nikki1989]

Nah, that is fine. Even when married, you can't and shouldn't control your partner to that extent.

[Finchie40]

You wouldn’t consider that shady?

[Jennz6]

If he wants to be with her and not me then he can have her

[x666xjazzmyn_]

Yeah that's not cool to begin with to have done. And then the fact that that's why definitely isn't because, well yeah. Fuck that and him and his ex.

[Anonymous]

Meh, I'm single, so I don't have to worry about that.

[Anonymous]

Wow dude that's messed up. That bitch is cheating on you with her ex behind your back

[Ironco]

You're 47, I'd hope you'd have some trust in her by now.

[Finchie40]

This isn’t about me , I’m asking for my daughter

[spartan55]

It's been nice knowin you, skank.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I would..

[DonaldDarko]

I'd dump that stupid thot.

[chrissykerdock]

sounds over to me let go

[RavVid]

Dump there isn't any coming back from this.

[AgentG111]

Yup! I'd be done with a lying POS human!

[Staximus]

That sounds pretty shady

[Godihateyou]

Absolutely. Total disrespect.

[DMurff]

DUMP LIARS ALWAYS LIE

[Wuai201]

Bye bye

[exitseven]

She would be dead to me.

[bddddd]

Frankie Say Relax

[blackeagle007]

Not cool at all. What the actual bleep?

[LadyBecks]

We 11aagory g44t

[robocop666]

Yup bye bye

[noohair]

Dump away...