Why can't we be in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

We do everything that a relationship requires. We talk to each other nearly everyday. We make out and make love when in person. I'm the first person he thinks of to call when he's going through something.

I just don't understand why he doesn't want a relationship with me.

We have this deep telepathic bond that I can't quite explain. But I just know when he's going to call me about something that is bothering him and he knows me so well it's scary.

We briefly tried the relationship thing twice before but it didn't work out both times but we still act like we're in a relationship. So I just don't understand his psyche. Why treat me still like a girlfriend if you don't want me to be that anymore?

I'm honestly at a loss.

And before you say it, I've tried dating other guys but I always end up going back to him. He's like my person and I feel like I'm his but he doesn't want to admit it to me.

The first time we broke up was totally my fault. I fucked up majorly. But he forgave me and then we got back together but he then broke up with me again and this time it wasn't really my fault. I just don't understand why he keeps running from us.

Should I just give up or keep hoping he will change his mind and be with me again?

[sawno]

I can't speak for him, but the telepathic part is real. Just know he won't be the only one you can experience it with, I have been telepathic with multiple people. Some people are more aware of it, some have no clue. So if you think he's special because you have that its not necessarily the case because to me true deep telepathic love was a more intense experience than merely knowing when someone is going to call.

I do feel like that you leaving is the better move, because if he's serious and wants to prevent it he should come after you and show you he actually means it. So leave but don't lock him out of your life. If he's meant for you and serious about you he will try to prevent you from leaving, if he doesn't its a big sign.

[Asker]

That's true. You're so right. Thanks.

[Finchie40]

The fact the the both of you broke up 2 times , is your answer to move on from him , he only likes the convenience of you , he doesn’t hate you per say , but he doesn’t want to be committed to you , , he is keeping his options open for another girl to come in , so you are best to stop having sex with him , and find yourself a guy that wants to be with just you. Because the second he finds another girl , he will probably can you or put you back on the back burner

[Asker]

You're right. Thanks.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, this rollercoaster you're on! 🎢 My mission on Girls Ask Guys is to help unravel these relationship mysteries. It sounds like you two have an intense connection filled with lovebombing moments and a hint of ghosting in the mix. It's like both of you have mastered the art of playing with the heartstrings! 💘

You've got this deep bond going, but remember, one-sided feelings can give you red flags. It looks like he's keeping things ambiguous, despite all the girlfriend treatment. With a breakup history, it's clear he has commitment hiccups. Trust your gut—sometimes letting go is necessary to find someone who won't just treat you like a spare tire.

A little tough love maybe, but think about what will bring you happiness in the long run—whether it's him or someone else who matches your vibe. Sending you a virtual hug! 🤗

[jazzy34]

“We briefly tried the relationship thing twice before but it didn't work out both times.”



There’s your answer, my dear. Stop breaking your own heart and cut all ties with this guy. It’s obvious that he doesn’t see you as girlfriend or wife material. Stop trying to force something that isn’t going to happen.

[Asker]

Thanks. You're right. I just need to let it go.

[glennos89]

You can glue a broken mirror back into it's original shape but no matter how perfectly you glue it back together...

The mirror will never be a normal mirror again. It will always look broken🙉

[Bklynbadboy12]

Why should he when your giving him all of the relationship stuff with out him giving you a relationship or a commitment. Wow buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? Your his friend with benefits and thats where he's gonna keep you

[Anonymous]

They are pulling away because u fucked up dude

[Anonymous]

I guess you need a better boyfriend.

[exitseven]

fear of committment?