Never mix Buisness with Pleasure. Agree or Disagree?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As a guy, I don’t feel comfortable shooting my shot at a girl at work and pursuing her. It can go very south very quickly. Women and girls will make things awkward to. Let’s just give a hypothetical. A girl in the office has a small crush on me, I pursue her, we go out but she’s not really feeling anything so she ends it and tries to be considerate and kind.

Now for me, yes, it would hurt but I’m not an idiot and I wouldn’t make her life difficult because at work you have to be professional. Problem is, even if I’m being civil, in the back of her mind she’s probably thinking “oh god, there’s the guy I rejected”. Some women and girls are immature and she may even go to a boss and say, he’s harassing me without proof and he’s minding his own business keeping it civil and professional and keeping his distance just by saying hi, bye and how’s it going at most.

9 times out of 10, a company will be on the side of a woman and fire the guy. But if that does happen, and the guy knows his legal rights to apply for unemployment insurance but also sue the that company or organization of wrongful termination that the woman who made those allegations doesn’t have proof he can get lost income and severance in those situations. I know this is a very dark/negative turn answering this post.

But from my experiences of guys I’ve known and stories I’ve heard it’s not the best to pursue women at work. But that’s just my opinion. Of course there are cases where it does work. I think the only time I would pursue a female colleague at work is if I know im leaving the company eventually and it doesn’t matter what the outcome is.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I completely disagree with this honestly. If you find your ideal person at work and they check off on all the traits you want in a partner, the real question is WHY would you let that opportunity pass just because they work with you? I never understood people that have that belief. They're way too uptight in my opinion.

Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

In India, most shopkeepers and small business establish personal relationship with their customers and both the parties enjoy fruits of trust and better service. I many case my family shopkeeper have advised me not to purchase something I asked for giving valid reason and offer other brand or delay for some time. Guiding their customers is their pleasure and getting better service is we – customers pleasure. It fosters stronger relationships. Businessmen are customer of some other institution or industry. In this condition, mixing business with pleasure is for boosting motivation, creativity, and overall well-being by reframing business trips as opportunities for exploration, if done with open communication and mutual support.

It is essential to strike a balance and know your boundaries. Overstepping can lead to problems, so it's important to be tactful when combining personal and professional relationships. Clear communication plays a key role, especially in business partnerships with friends or family, to ensure boundaries are respected. It is equally important to be honest about your own and your team's goals. If a business is built on pleasure but lacks a genuine business foundation, it may not succeed in the long run.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

I’d say mostly agree, but with a realistic lens.

Mixing business and pleasure can feel exciting in the moment, but it blurs lines that are hard to clean up later.

When emotions get involved, decisions get less clear, boundaries slip, and one small conflict can spill into every area of your life.

But… there are exceptions.

Two mature people who communicate well, know what they’re risking, and can keep their roles separate can make it work, it’s just rare.

So my take..

It’s possible, but the stakes are high.

If you’re not both equally grounded, disciplined, and self-aware, the “pleasure” part usually ends up costing the “business” part.

Ferngully2000 · Answer

Yes I think if two consenting adults who are attracted to each other then why pass up that opportunity to potentially meet a great love especially as people spend so much time there. As long as they are aware of the risks and they have weighed that up then I think they should be allowed to follow through with it.

I have met two past boyfriends through work and one lasted 4 months and the other 2 years, it wasn’t awkward afterwards, we all moved on eventually.

I met a guy recently who I’ve also had a mutual attraction with at work but I can tell he is quite risk averse and therefore unlikely to follow through, unless one of us left. His loss..

Zack-Bann · Answer

I used to agree.
But I’m rethinking that recently.

Many of the happiest couples met at work and made it work

I think true adults can have a healthy mix of both without having one compromise the other

That being said: I’ve never dated a coworker and most likely won’t be doing it any time soon
So it’s all just theoretical

Lalalove11 · Answer

I don't know my current crush is thinking about working where I work. I think he might kind of like me too and I'd hate to think I'll never get to date him cos we work in the same place.

Think of the iconic fictional couple Jim and Pam. I know it's an ideal and maybe not real life. I'm too inexperienced to say for sure but my boss works with his wife and they have been doing that for 30+ years. It can work for some

OneViewpoint · Answer

No I think you can mix business with pleasure.

I have an example but it’s probably not socially acceptable to state my position.

On second thought here are some acceptable answers.

Pro sports athletes.
Prostitutes
Professional gamblers

Purpleronnie · Answer

Personally I don’t have an issue with anyone doing this each to their own as long as they are both single and available and understand the pitfall’s if it goes sour but personally I would not want to ever work with a woman I’m in a relationship with , I just need that separation.

Should I ever develop feelings for a woman I’m working with assuming I’m ever single and looking again then , I would seek another employer and then explore the relationship

aaron13547 · Answer

I ain't doing business with you if we can't do it in a pleasing way. When work is fun its your pleasure not your business.  I agree you though we can't bang co workers and not expect problems

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

I agree 100%. Work should stay work and pleasure should stay pleasure. Keep them separate and you'll be much happier in the long run.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I mean talking a colleague out when they visit from another country, playing catch while discussing a problem, totally except able.
Dating or fooling around with a colleague or direct report, just don’t.

RavVid · Answer

Unfortunately you can't now. It was one of the places the you met a life partner but Tinder funded the METOO movement to eliminate competition.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Never had a business, but I think most businesspeople and executives would disagree. Those guys mix business and pleasure all the time.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's receipt for trouble and in terms of professionalism it's a total disaster

sage2021 · Answer

Agree. I've done this and it's just not a good idea.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You should have some degree of pleasure with the work you do.

slatyb · Answer

It's not universally true. I do know happy couples that met on the job. But one has to be careful.

MJVillarama · Answer

Agree. mixing business and pleasure can get messy unless both sides are super clear and professional.

zagor · Answer

You just need to keep your wits about you if you do. Banging the boss's teenage daughter probably isn't a good idea.

Shiprex · Answer

Not always as most folk tend to work in places with similar minded folk therefore chance of being social together are high. This may lead to more romantic things in the long term

genericname85 · Answer

i mean what if you love your job tho? should you not love your job? xD

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Disagree because some of us are in the pleasure business.

noohair · Answer

When I was young, my Father told me that the women where you work are off limits. It was a very valuable piece of information.

Darkest-Knight · Answer

I don't agree with this at all. I dated someone I worked with for a few years very successfully.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Not especially, you always need to find purpose to stay motivated, business should be trying to cultivate more pleasure

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No. That’s bullshit. Only the weak minded need rules like this in place to keep their lives in order. There is only one rule in life: there are no rules

Surely · Answer

Usually, business before pleasure. Don’t need to have your feelings get in the way.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Keep work and pleasure separate. Go meet, do whatever outside of work

Joanna3 · Answer

Agreed I don't date or sleep with those I work with.

DishLady · Answer

Agree.

loveslongnails · Answer

Disagree. Pleasure IS my business !!!

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I mostly agree.

soe11 · Answer

100% agree

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

Depends on how hot she is. Lol.

AgentG111 · Answer

Depends on the context.

Anonymous · Answer

100% agreed. Had to learn it the hard way

JesseP1nk · Answer

Have done it. Bad idea.

msc545 · Answer

Agree - it is a good way to lose a job.

Awomaninamansbody · Answer

Yes definitely but shit happens

beenherebefore · Answer

100% agree.

Anonymous · Answer

What if you're in the business of pleasure?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

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Cidknee · Answer

Agree

dudeinohio · Answer

Agree

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