Which do you agree with? Love should always feel comfortable, or love should always feel new and exciting?

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Which do you agree with? Love should always feel comfortable, or love should always feel new and exciting?

dancing_in_nebulas · Accepted Answer

Exciting and new has nothing to do with love. Thats really selfish Sex in the City, porn industry, cheater bull SHIT that we are conditioned to believe.

Excitement means entertaining, which means you are expecting your partner to keep you constantly stimulated like a movie or thrill ride.

We do not demand excitement to maintain friendships or family relationships - though we honestlt love those people and they love us back.
Excitement is just a bi-product that happens at times, having a basic relationship with anyone.

But thats it, just a bi-product.

When you love eachother, its comfortable and casual, with no stress of some high strung expectation to be the dancing monkey for your partner.

Thats really annoying, because how crappy that makes you feel that you are already facing the hardships of life, only to be even more burdened by keeping your partner excited?

How about being able to come home and be appreciated for existing?

Fuck this entitled ass generation.

"I left because there was no more excitement,"

Is the most self centered reasoning - like this person sacrificed time, resources, and LIFE on you...

Bullshit - and people seriously wonder why romance is so difficult? Bunch a selfish asses constantly draining each other.

Toxic brats.

BeHappyCloud · Accepted Answer

Let me rephrase that if you dont mind.

A relationship should feel new and exciting because you are both growing as people.

A relationship should also feel relaxing and comfortable becahdr you both accept each other for who you both are.

And a relationship should be have all of these things plus a bunch of other qualities like loyalty... healthy sex etc.

But really, why should you care about what a relationship SHOULD be like? Sure, if you need a few tips on what a good relationship consisits of, it's valid to ask this question. But the only criterion that matter are whether you and your SO are happy in this relationship. In my humble opinion, that is.

mrs-turner97 · Accepted Answer

You mean a relationship cause love is love it’s the relationship with love in it is what you take on exciting or comfortable after so long loving that person eventually the excitement wears off the love is still there it just sometimes slows can be exciting still sometimes but for the most part it slows down

markscott · Accepted Answer

Love should always feel comfortable. Actually, it shouldn't. Love engenders growth with both partners, and growth is not always comfortable. Love is not always exciting. Love has great feelings, but feeling are not love. The exciting part of love doesn't always feel new or exciting. Love is patient, loving, caring, and doing the best for the other. Those acts are not always exciting.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

It's a preference and that depends on the person. I would say one group is going to be more likely to maintain a long term relationship while the other is more likely not to.

Desconhecida · Answer

Exciting first but comfortable always

Evkaxy · Answer

I think different things go for different people... there are couples who enjoy the drama, all the fights and making up... and there are couples who love to just quietly chill on the sofa... I think both options are love and I think it mostly depends on what kind of people you and your partner are

Anonymous · Answer

Neither. Love is neither comfortable or always feeling new and exciting.
Love is a discovery of principles that work out for the best for both of you. Like don't lie, don't cheat, don't steal, don't be abusive and unkind... be patient, be forgiving etc. Those things are love. Those things are painful to forgive some times. It's not new and exciting to learn that your husband/spouse lies and you just caught them and you need to empathize with why they did it...

Annie_Mosity · Answer

Neither. Long term love can't feel new and established love can be taken for granted if too comfortable... And get dull as hell.

There are pros and cons to new and established love. I can't agree with either statement made.

Meia28 · Answer

Both... you should feel comfortable with the person, but be able to grow and do new and exciting things and have new experiences with them

littlebutswole · Answer

both. sometimes i get excited to be w the guy because i am so comfortable around him, and that is the best feeling

wondluv27 · Answer

comfortable, because if all a couple does it extreme things without feeling comfortable doing it, it won't last long

Honglitha · Answer

Love should always feel new and exciting because when you're with someone that you love, of course there are a lot of things that would be happened, I mean like new experiences or something like that

Jesslin412 · Answer

Exciting at first. Then comfortable! It should feel right

jonnyboii · Answer

New and exciting is a hooker, love is someone you know has you at anytime no matter what someone you're comfortable with, and you can be comfortable with someone and spicy too.

Shad0wGard · Answer

New and exciting feels like relationship hopping, which isn't good. Comfortable could mean a whole bunch of things. For me, I want comfort and trust to be key points if I'm in a relationship

bubble_tea · Answer

Comfortable. I want to be able to let down my guards when I love.

GingerGuy · Answer

Completely comfortable! New and exciting doesn't equal love.

spunkbuddy · Answer

Both. Exciting is mostly fun. But feeling comfortable is also nice because exciting stuff takes energy. It's like the two sides of a coin.

Anon_af · Answer

It's kind of a combination of the two... comfortable can work, but there should be efforts made to make things new and exciting, to share experiences together

AM-205 · Answer

Love is unconditional, and is not easily offended, so it isn't always comfortable, so I'll go with the latter.

Demised · Answer

Both. Both are necessary. Its like chip & dale. If one is absent then its not pure 😊

TypsyGypsy · Answer

With comfortability, comes new and exciting openings in your guy's love!

tonesavage4 · Answer

Niether. It is what you make it. The grass is greenest where it's watered

Anonymous · Answer

New and exciting, but usually it ends up comfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

That depends on both partners personality and everyone is different, but you need a little of everything I think.

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Pamina · Answer

First exciting, then comfortable.

omgjassy · Answer

Love should always feel comfortable

LegateLanius · Answer

Exciting, then comfortable.

doug1o1 · Answer

Love should be comftable to be new and exciting

Italian_stallions · Answer

Depends on the people and what they want out of it

peedy · Answer

Both at the same time

jesse1997 · Answer

Both are both true as false

facialhair27 · Answer

Should always be comfortable

mmar58 · Answer

Love always feel new and exciting

the_sinner · Answer

I'd go with both A balance should be maintained.

aminezah · Answer

Comfortable for suuure

RohitDr · Answer

Both but comfortability is must

sharayu · Answer

Love should always be comfortable...

DontTouchMe · Answer

Comfy!

AbdKilani · Answer

It should be Unreal

Volvagia · Answer

love can kiss my ass

Yakasmashi · Answer

Both

Sha84 · Answer

comfortable

Gedaria · Answer

New and exciting...

Kandy-Kane · Answer

Absolutely both

mrslonely10 · Answer

Comfortable

Marklibni · Answer

First one

BryanTheLion · Answer

Both

GoraKB · Answer

Comfortable

Tabib · Answer

Always comfortable

liluzivert666 · Answer

Comfortable

rakesss · Answer

comfortable

Devilskittykatt · Answer

New and exciting

johnkbrown1400 · Answer

New and exciting

Mind534 · Answer

Comfortable

Anonymous · Answer

Comfortable

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