Which do you agree with, Love should always feel comfortable, or love should always feel new and exciting?
Love should be both--unfortunately it is really hard to have both but not impossible!
At first, love is always new and exciting:
There is novelty, risk, a sense of danger in a way as you discover new things about the person, you don't really know what's going to happen, etc. It's passionate and fun!
But eventually as you get to know the person better, "passionate love" turns into "familial love"-- you get used to them, comfortable with them, the love morphs into a similar love that you have for your family (not in a weird incestuous way ofc) but in a safe "you are my home, my family" kind of way. Which is also beautiful, just in a different way.
Some ways to maintain that fire, passion, and spark even in a relationship you are comfortable in is by creating your own novelty.
1. Perhaps get away from each other for a bit, take a trip on your own, allow yourselves to miss each other. When you are back, you will both value each other's presence even more and there will definitely be passion when you come back.
2. Show them you in your realm, for instance, if you play an instrument or sing, do that, if you are really good at I don't know, whatever you are good at, let them see you in your element--if they see you in a different light, it'll be like falling in love with you all over again.3. Create novelty together--go on crazy adventures together, travel to a foreign place if you are able to, go skydiving or on rollercoasters together, try new positions/new locations wink wink, change your element together! Neither form of love is better than the other--they are both beautiful in their own ways, but when combined, you can create an eternal, everlasting love that is more divine than anything else in this world.<3
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For me, personally, comfort is key, and far more important than being new and exciting. That said, in what I view as a healthy relationship, “new and exciting” also takes a different form. For my husband and I, our version of “new and exciting,” manifests in two ways. The first is having a date night one night a week—we choose to either go to a comedy club, hike, watch a movie, cook something new together, or something along those lines. The other is a little harder to explain, but he and I are both pretty quirky. So something new and different always seems to be happening with us every day. Mostly because of how corny we are with our humor. We’re always trying to one-up each other on who can make the other laugh harder about something. Or we just act like total two-year-olds out of nowhere. Like the other day, he thought it was funny to suddenly start a towel thwack fight... we chased each other around the house with hand towels, trying to thwack each other’s tushes and trying to be the “last thwacker” for like a good 15mins or so...😂😂😂
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Neither. Excitement is attached to the new, a sense of discovery something you have never tasted before.
Stability and comfort is connected to the familiar.
You can't have both simultaneously. They exist at different times. -
Love should feel new and exciting always!!! But every relationship has its ups and downs but once the issues are resolved it should go back to loving ❤ your partner even more
Maybe a bit of both?
I probably say that because I don't feel neither comfortable or excited, lol.- 21.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I can't stand comfortable. It is not for me.
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Yes and NO!! Sometimes, YES, love should be AMAZING, and WONDERFUL, and curling her toes and squealing orgasms!!
Other times, you love her so much, but you somehow get into some FCKED UP ARGUMENT, and you don't know why!! You LOVE HER, with all your heart, but suddenly, the 'DEMON' in you says 'BITCH' but YOU DON'T THINK THAT! But then she is talking about having to get rid of some of your most PRIZED THINGS!! THEN "BITCH" comes back?
What HORRIBLE PERSON, saying they love you, would want to take away your most precious things? -
Exciting is temporary. You want to look at long term things and know yourself and think certain way if your goal is to be with one person. If you latch to excitement then that will be how long the relationship lasts. Ways men can keep excitement going is by sleeping with many women so the one your with gets that.. excitement. Not knowing why things change. Another way to keep woman excited is keep moving up in the world. Which case it's time to call back replace get new woman. Excitement isn't the best thing to attach to. It's nice while it lasts though. Attach to hobbies or friends maybe that's a solution
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It ebbs and flows. Sometimes we’ll do something exciting and feel that same sense of exhilaration that used to be the regular when we first started dating. Other times, there’ll be feelings of comfort and security to look forward to having someone to come home to after a rough day at work.
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Both... love starts out feeling new and exciting. It goes through an evolution. After a time, the "excitement" will turn into comfort. Both are real love. But not all loves last long enough to become the second kind.
Love is an evolutionary emotional experience. It's a journey, not a moment in time. -
You should feel comfortable because you have to be able to be yourself completely in a relationship. Also exciting because you should keep the flame running for both. However you can try out new things every once in a while. To keep things interesting. But being able to be yourself with someone is a gift that you won't have with everyone. So being comfortable is for me the most important one.
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It depends on the type of love. But assuming you're talking about romantic love, there should be more of an emphasis on comfort. This video talk about it more:
https://www.youtube.com/embed/mzzMpicgO0E - 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
New and exciting is just in the beginning of every relationship, and i like that but i hate suprises and have to feel some level of stability.
I like to feel comfortable. Im a super loyal person and i need fo feel that back for my own sanity. - 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.
No. that's the sort of shit, teens on Tumblr say, as it sounds "edgy".
Love isn't about finding happiness, or comfort.
It's about finding your level of contentedness, and being able to build mutual trust that allows you both to reach for life goals. -
Lust is new and exciting, the true definition of love is so forgotten at this point that people don't really understand it. By nature, love cannot be new and exciting because when you are still intrigued by someone because they are new and exciting there is no way that you have known them long enough to truly love them.
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Both. There are some days when it's just me and her watching cartoons. Not necessarily exciting, but we're both at peace being in each other presence. There are other days when we look at each other and want to rip each other's clothes off. It can and should vary from day to day
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Love is not the same for every couple. Love often is imperfect just like me or you love is imperfections loving them you if you're loving the perfect for you things you're not loving but setting yourself up for heartbreak everytime
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Love should always feel new and exciting. When people are "comfortable " there is no progress. True love is a progression. It should get stronger with time. To be successful we should strive for something new and exciting, giving more reasons to fall in love all over again.
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I think both scenario should be part of Love New and exciting is what love is all about but you should always feel Safe Cared for Happy Comforted and Relaxed also
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Excitement always fades and if you go chasing it too much you'll end up disappointed. There of course should be some excitement but predominantly you should be looking to feel contented.
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I think love should always feel new and exciting.
The couple might try new things, go new places, try new food, in short, make love seem new every time you are with the person
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