Who are you truly in a relationship? What are both the positives and negatives about you?

[HawkPerception]

[RandomGirl42]

Oh. Truly, huh? You would have to throw that word in there.

Positives: I am a very bright , optimistic person most of the time. (pms negates that a little bit) I am giving, I am loving, I find happiness in very simple life pleasures like butterflies and sunsets. A hand picked flower means more to me than a Lamborghini. Some people say I can be as annoying as a Disney film but I make them smile anyway and I really do love to dance barefoot in the rain. I believe in Santa Claus, unicorns and the good in people.

Negatives: Youngest child syndrome, I can be bratty and attention seeking. I can be dreamy and irresponsible with "adult things" like keeping track of bills and stuff. I can have unrealistic expectations of the world like maybe people will be decent to each other. I can talk too much. I can drink too much but we're not going to talk about that incident in the bar with tequila and chocolate covered strawberries. I believe in Santa Claus, unicorns and the good in people.

[HawkPerception]

Giving some Anna from Frozen vibes lol

[RandomGirl42]

Lol, yes and TY for the MHO 😊

[KBird]

A positive in relationships, is that I am a very romantic, giving person, and I love to care for the person Im with. I also feel more creative, and more "inspired" in general, of course depending on the person Im with. I feel like my partners bring the energetic and adventurous side of me out.

Cons: Im honestly not the jealous type, if he has a friend thats a girl, couldnt care less. But what I find difficult is balancing alone time with time together. I grew up as an only child, and highly value my alone time. Im an ambivert and get quite anxious if I have plans scheduled all the time. My current boyfriend (and most of my exes) are extroverts, because I love the energy they bring. I've noticed though that they sometimes make me feel quite anxious, and trying to explain that I need some alone time is not a rejection, but to self-preserve, is difficult. Im working on this atm.

[HawkPerception]

I always hated that new gen term... ambivert. Everyone can either be classified as introverted or extroverted. You always lean slightly more to one side and I feel like people nowadays (especially younger women) tend to not like being fit into a single category and call themselves ambiverts.

You sound more introverted by nature. I'm the same. I have no issues socializing, but I recharge being alone and really value my alone time, even when in a relationship. I like the presence of my partner, but only when I feel like I want them to be at my side, which I know can be selfish, so I try to enjoy their presence which takes away from my alone time even during times when I just want my own space.

I'm right there with you. I'm not an only child though. I'm the older child.

Anyways, sorry for the rant. Appreciate you sharing!

[KBird]

Of course! I've always struggled with the term/label. Because I feel energized when Im with people but I become exhausted easily, and then will want a few days at least completely alone to reenergize. And if Im away from people for too long, I get anxious. I've always considered myself to be an introvert, because I love to stay in, however all my friends say Im an extrovert and am always going out. So... I dont know. I like your explanation of being more introverted even when in a relationship. Does that then mean then that I am an introvert? :)

[HawkPerception]

Yeah, I'd say so. Because it's the same for me. When I'm out and socializing with others, I'm full of energy and feel pumped. People always assume I'm an extrovert. But then right after the party or socializing, I feel exhausted and just want to do my own thing. I also don't need to socialize for a while.
Here's a YouTube short explaining it:

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/1lDYuB-7C3c

Also you should do an MBTI test, because if you're introspective and know yourself well, it's usually pretty accurate. I always get INTP as my result... doesn't matter which platform I use. It's always the same.

Try using think link to take the test:

https://www.humanmetrics.com/personality

[KBird]

Thank you! :) For the link to the MBTI test, and the great conversation.

[HawkPerception]

No problema 😊

[KBird]

I took it and I am an INFP-T, and between Extrovert (0%) and Introvert (100%), I got 53% :P

[Bolt1104]

In a relationship, I’m someone who loves deeply, gives my all, and truly cares about building something real. I’m loyal, supportive, patient, and I try hard to communicate and understand the person I’m with even though I sometimes slip up. I value honesty, effort, and emotional connection, and I always want my partner to feel safe, loved, and appreciated. Those are definitely my positives.

But I’m also human, so I have negatives too. I can overthink, I care a lot so sometimes I get hurt easily, and I can be overly loyal even when someone doesn’t deserve it. I sometimes expect the same level of effort I give, and when I don’t get it, I feel disappointed. I’m still learning boundaries and how to set them for myself and I’m still growing as a person I’m pretty young and got lots to learn but have grown so much since I started dating.

Each relationship is a lesson to learn and everyone is different so it takes time to understand who they are and how they handle things. It’s for you to decide if that’s right for you or not and if it is healthy for your mental and physical state.

At the end of the day, I’m someone who shows up with a real heart flaws and all and I want the same energy back.

[RxR0954]

I’d say the negative about me is my chronic sense of unlovability, and will get sad af when my girlfriend leave the house. On the other hand, the positive is that i can be fun, i’d get her flowers, gifts, bake sweets for her, bring her breakfast in bed, make her dinner when she gets back from work, learn family recipes i specifically told my Asian mom i would never learn for anyone as going that far would indicate submissiveness. And, i would just agree to do anything with her as long as it’s legal and safe.

[MJVillarama]

I’m caring and loyal, but I can be overthinking and stubborn at times. I try to bring out the best in my partner while working on myself too.

[ABC1x1x]

The positives are i am a hyper intelligent sociopath. I make the best investments and have zero fear. The negatives are I hate women completely and wish they didn't exist.

[aquamarine321]

I haven’t been in a relationship in a long time or being in a relationship over a period of time to know

[queenofcardio]

I'm fun but I can also be annoying