How much detail do you want to know about your partner's past relationships? Where do you draw the line on what is "too much information"?

[HawkPerception]

[MicahRaine]

It depends how deep we are in our own relationship.

If we’re on the first date, I’m happy to for her to leave it at “we dated for a year and broke up three months ago.”

If it’s our sixth date and things are getting serious, some details as to why the relationship didn’t work out would be helpful. It’s a red flag if she thinks one party was perfect or she’s completely unwilling to discuss any issues from the previous relationship. We have to be capable of recognizing mistakes 🤷‍♂️ Also, if you know you did something that matters a lot to the other person, that’s when I would bring it up. For example I am not a virgin, and I know that’s often important to those I date. I wouldn’t go into detail yet, but I would tell her so that I don’t waste anyone’s time if it’s a dealbreaker.

If we’re really deep in the relationship, getting close to engagement, I think that’s the time to really talk through all the little details IF one party cares even a little bit (if neither party has any thoughts on the back of their mind about it, leave it lay lol). Why? Because in marriage it WILL come up, sooner or later, in some way. Do I want to tell the woman of my dreams about me and my ex in bed? No. But also it isn’t healthy for her to wonder if I did certain things with my ex or if I’m thinking about my ex or if she’s “adventurous/good enough.” In my opinion, the best way to prevent that is for me to tell her what actually happened. That way she can know that actually I do regret everything that happened with my ex, I don’t really think about it, and my ex will never ever be any kind of competition.

Disclaimer: I typed this out on my phone and didn’t proofread it

[Purpleronnie]

Generally speaking , in a nutshell I want to know everything they are comfortable telling me.
Would only ever expect to get their version of events anyway or how they choose to remember it

[Finchie40]

Not much at all the be honest , they are an ex for a reason , keep them that way

[MannMitAntworten]

I never ask about past relationships. Besides, people t volunteer their stuff anyway. The only time that has been problematic has been when cross into the territory of them clearly being still emotionally invested. Only once this has been the case.

[dudeinohio]

I don't ask and I don't tell unless it comes up. in conversation. I prefer to know as little as possible.

[Kelly6]

@HawkPerception its different for everyone. All depends how good the date is going

[Unycorn]

None

Past is past

[CubaPirate]

None at all tbh

[DreamCrescent]

same here

[Raydergman26]

In the middle