How would you handle it if your partner drastically changed their life goal mid-relationship?

[HawkPerception]

Examples: Deciding they never want kids after all, quitting a stable career to pursue art, etc

[Crimsyjo]

It really depends because in the example you give - changing mond about having kids - is a huge drastic decision that effects BOTH of you so it's selfish and cruel to just do that to someone who has put their heart and soul into a relationship. But changing a career goal, even if giving up stable career to pursue art type thing, is not as bad. I think as long as the person has thought it through, has talent, and has a contingency plan of how to still pay their way and support the relationship, then so be it. As a partner I'd support them to try be successful.

So it really depends. We don't own another person. Not even in marriage. But we have a duty of care for eachother too.

[On_cloud_wine]

I’ll be supportive. I’m not marrying for money but if his life goal means sitting on a couch eating a bag of potato chips, um. No

[HawkPerception]

Well said. I support that

[MicahRaine]

Deciding she never wants kids? Deal breaker.

Quitting her career to pursue art? Awesome, I absolutely want my wife to pursue her dreams rather than worry about how much she made that month.

”I want us to move to Europe and never come back!” Yeah okay hold your horses 😂

”Let’s move to Europe for a year while we’re working long distance!” That’s more reasonable lol

So it kinda depends. If it really affects our family’s long term trajectory/life, not “just” our schedule and work life for the next few years, I’d want to talk about it first.

[HawkPerception]

I agree on all points

[MicahRaine]

🫡🤙

[ABC1x1x]

Id separate and divorce

[queenofcardio]

It would be challenging to navigate depending on the situation and whether or not this change would also drastically effect my life. Some goals are personal.

[Ariesman81]

Like cashing out your 401k early, buying $100k of synthetic ice, and signing a 1 year lease so kids can skate in the mall rather than go 2 miles away to an actual ice arena? How unsupportive of you to leave.

[Smegskull]

I would tell them tough luck. We gave up on personal goals when we became a family and we both have to make choices and sacrifices to serve that now.