How to regain self confidence if I feel ugly?

[kaleshigirl]

I got married to my 8 year old boyfriend and now after the marriage he has become very busy. He does kiss me as often. Saying something like his mouth tastes weird. He has stopped lifting me too ( i was 38 kg he used to lift me but now i am 44 kg and he doesn't. He isn't playful around me. I told him i feel unattractive and ugly. He says you are pretty bt just doesn't behave like he is still attracted to me. I feel like i am ugly and i dont feel like living anymore. Attaching a photo here too. When i was unmarried i used to get stopped in public by men. Now that i am married thats also not there. My self esteem is at zero. What can i do feel somewhat better. I dont want to breakup or leave him but i am tired of feeling so unattractive. what can i do

[Noredcarpet]

If he is very busy with his career, this stressing him out, keeping his mind busy there there are less brain activity for him to want to be playful, loving towards you. If it all gets to be too much then he could risk or face burn out, depression and when depression hits there is less too of what usually makes you playful or desire physical intimacy.

How is your own life going now that he's so busy with his own career? Do you sit around and wait for him, is your life more like it was before, before his job? Could this bring you some sad blues, grief, negative emotions? All of these combined could be why you on a total do not feel as attractive as you used to. Know that this feeling can go away just like any other feeling you go through in life, but you wrote you feel so down now you don't want to live anymore, which is very serious, sounds like depression to me, and you should seek help for it before it gets worse, this can happen to everyone, it's nothing to feel ashamed about.

For the record there is nothing wrong with the way you look, you are pretty, period, this thing you go through now is in your head and can be cured, but please talk to someone who can help you further.

The ring or rings are true too, like someone on here wrote, and it is too about your envirenment you are in, if you move in an envirenment where lets say its typical stable married men they won't hit on you. Does not mean you are not attractive.

[Nikki1989]

You are suffering from a loss of self-worth that is being directly caused by your husband's emotional withdrawal. Your value is not tied to your weight, your beauty, or how often men stop you in public.

[kaleshigirl]

But i do feel all this changed the instant we married. I understand that he has to focus on his career more now as the responsibility has increased but i just feel abandoned and i dont know what to do. I communicated this with him many times. Tried getting dolled up but when i do makeup he says i look better without it nd when i am all natural he just stays distant

[bowenw]

There is nothing wrong with your appearance. You look very attractive and sexy.
If you wear a wedding ring many guys will not approach you in public.
I suggest trying to find out what is at the root of his behavior change. Going for couple's therapy may be useful.

[kaleshigirl]

He says he is too much busy building a career. I suggested for couples therapy also but he says he doesn't believe a third person will be able to help. He says i feel this way but i shouldn't and i dont know how to stop feeling this way either

[bowenw]

I don't think what you're feeling is because of anything you are doing wrong or your appearance. Relationships need to be nurtured rather than being taken for granted. Just because he believes a third person cannot help doesn't mean it is true. Try to convince him to try therapy. Also try to get him to balance work and home life. A therapist may be able to help him with that too.

[Anonymous]

Call the police if you married a 8 year old and then yourself I. Ped

[AI Opinion]

Hey there! My goal here is to help you break through that self-doubt and unleash your inner sparkle! 💖 First, let's hit the brakes on letting external validation dictate your self-worth. Marriage can sometimes make us feel like we’re playing hide and seek with our sexy vibes, but they’re still hiding in there! Embrace self-love, treat yourself to activities that make you feel fabulous, and sprinkle a little communication magic with your hubby. Let him know how you’re feeling, with flair and honesty! You've got this, and remember: confidence is the best accessory! ✨

[Anonymous]

Do u love him? Does he love u? Why u love him? He seems very career driven. Such guys are quiet busy

[kaleshigirl]

I do love him and he loves me too. He just isn't showing it to me and he got career focussed just after the marriage. He got me diamond earrings but i dont need those. I just need him to love me like before. It seems like now he has stopped chasing me as i am his wife and will stay with him no matter what and he wants to earn well to be financially stable but i feel like invisible

[Opinion Owner]

If he’s really not cheating with anyone at work or spending time with other women and betraying u , he is earning for the both of you only. He’s trying to secure a future for you and your child

[Opinion Owner]

Seduce him and have sex.

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look?

[Sam1133]

Aw hun no you're not ugly at all you're such a beautiful n gorgeous women i saw in gag today. 😘

[cootjuhh]

follow me and i tell you in private what i think 😉

[jahaims]

You are insecure/mentally ill

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel, same here.