Is it true that men need time and space alone to process their emotions and troubles?

[MissSunshine2]

[Anonymous]

Why is it women always ask questions like these on here like men are some alien species incapable of normal reaction to stimuli of their feelings.

Let me spell it out for you. MEN HAVE FEELINGS SAME AS YOU. We get sad, we get depressed, we cry. Now we know a lot of times we get judged six ways to Sunday for displaying these emotions so we become conditioned to burying them and licking our wounds in silence.

Some guys are more resilient then others some guys are dealt more blows then others. I'll share my own personal struggle I got so used to burying my feelings and pretending nothing was wrong, that I dammed them up till one final emotional blow broke the dam when I was 40 and they all came pouring out. I don't bury my feelings anymore. I don't cry like a little 2 yr. old either. But I ALLOW myself to feel and hurt, as well as all the positive emotions love and find joy in all things.

I kinda let this question get away from me. Point is, Men are not monoliths (as women are not). Some guys need time and space, some guys will bury their feelings and not deal with them. All you can do as a woman is try to be a safe space for him. And sadly, know what you're willing to tolerate. Because at the end of the day this is HIS fight with himself. He has to make the choice to deal with his emotions. That is not your burden or responsibility. He's a big boy.

[MissSunshine2]

It’s to gain a better understanding of men, when they act like an alien species. Men and women aren’t that different, it’s true, however, there are some differences in how we think and behave.

[Opinion Owner]

Well hopefully my response helped somewhat? If you have any follow up question I can TRY to answer them.

[MissSunshine2]

Okay great. Yes it was very helpful. Thanks 💕

[Opinion Owner]

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[Finchie40]

Not necessarily alone , but in some cases yes , can’t speak for every guy. Just myself , for me it depends on what I am going through at the time , but when I am in a relationship with a girl , I don’t necessarily need space from her whatsoever, unless she is the reason I need space lol I consider myself a respectful guy and I like respectful girls’ that wear my shoes the same way I will wear hers. The whole space thing in relationships doesn’t sit well with me to a certain extent , I feel people that need space from their partner are selfish people that only think of themselves , your partner should be your go to person if you are feeling down and depressed , not the other way around. I feel communication is what makes a relationship closer to each other for love to continue to grow between you both , needing space from your partner isn’t a good thing , it leaves questions and it might raise some questions of concern if your partner all of a sudden needs space from you when they never did before. When my ex needed space from me when she never did before , that’s when I knew something was off in our relationship, to finds out she was up to no good. So a partner should not need space from a loving partner whatsoever without reassurance, A partner that doesn’t give reassurance is a partner that is selfish that only cares about themselves

[VioletHaze]

Some people prefer voicing things aloud first, processing that way, others need a moment to process before expressing. I am the latter. It is less of a gendered phenomena and more of an individual one, where we all operate differently.

But in the case of men, they are also taught to keep their troubles to themselves. So I think for some men it is a need and for others it is taught behavior.

[DishLady]

Yes, ofc.

Technically we all need time and space to process. But some folks need "time and a half" to process, esp the guys who aren't too chatty or don't pick up on standard social cues.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship behavior so you don’t lose your mind trying to guess it. 😉

Yes, it’s true for many men. A lot of guys process emotions internally, so they pull back, get quiet, want space, and think before talking. It’s not always rejection or ghosting, it’s just their coping style. The green flag: he comes back and opens up. The red flag: he distances and never returns emotionally.

[ohsheeT]

No I work to process my emotions.\nThat's the best part about going to work. Doing a job , you can do it then

I like my time alone because I'm always trying to learn something, build something invent something, and it just gives me that peace of mind. I quit watching TV 5 almost 6 years ago. So I either have the stereo on or is just quiet, but yeah, I mean everybody needs time alone I think Just.\n Their own space to think about anything. Everything our rule is changing pretty quickly and it's not headed in a good direction, and we all need to really figure it out, because I believe it's going to get very ugly and\nWe're all going to need to come together 2 figure it out

[MontBlanc]

Often, yes many men process emotions internally and need space before talking.

But it’s not just about gender; it’s about coping style.

Healthy: they take space, then communicate.
Unhealthy: they withdraw and avoid.

[Berethor]

The nothing box, men and women brains are very different, here a video about that. :)

https://www.youtube.com/embed/3XjUFYxSxDk

[WhitneySnow]

Yes, but so do women. Though I will grant you that women usually process their emotions better by talking through them with their friends. Most men don’t have that support system.

[Cute_User513]

I think for both genders talking it out helps a lot but men are less likely to have a support system where they can do that and have to learn to process them on their own

[WhitneySnow]

@Cute_User513 true. Guy friendships with a few exceptions are less focused on each other’s feelings.

[palewhale]

Not just men, everyone needs space and to not feel suffocated, the busier someones life is the more space they need.

[Shy-boy53]

Not necessarily, sometimes space gives us time to think but equally support and trust is a massive help to us too

[Nikki1989]

I think that is beneficial for everyone.

[exitseven]

In some cases that it true. Life gets pretty messed up and sometimes people need time to think.

[ABitShattered]

Yes. I'm not very good at hottest conversations either. I try to be prepared.

[ABitShattered]

Hotseat holy crap I hate auto correct

[DryGermanGuy]

That’s often correct.

[jahaims]

Depends on the individual not gender

[msc545]

Yes, it's true.

[CuriousMufuxka]

It sure helps!

[dudeinohio]

True.

[Gexuoo]

Yes always

[beefcakebradybatson]

As do women.

[Ironco]

100% yes

[CubaPirate]

Yes we do

[Anonymous]

Sometimes yes