Can a guy in a serious relationship go to a bar at night and stay loyal?

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What are bars like? Is it okay for a guy in a serious relationship to go to a bar especially at night? can a guy go to a bar and be loyal.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Regardless of the setting, I always had the impression that it is more tempting to cheat when in a relationship than single and celibate.

And if i think it through logically, this conclusion makes a lot of sense. First of all, from a biological standpoint, the more you have sex the more your body and mind spends preparing for sex to happen. Constant blood flow and the mental expectation to ejaculate every day can easily put you into a state of an animal in heat.

I guess that could be enough to summarize it all. But will add a rarer angle just to bitch about how everything in the world is more than just its own final result. Basic action=reaction stuff... coupled with bitching about pros and cons for men who want to destroy lust while keeping testosterone high, using pelvic floor clearing techniques: when you are regularly stimulated sexually, your pelvic floor muscles and sphincters strive to work in a way that maximizes ejaculation efficiency. But if you totally abstain from sexual stimulation, you can teach yourself to wash out seminal fluids without ejaculating. No sperm and no orgasm, just something that feels similar to shitting and pissing, but neither. Use it to relieve pressure that would otherwise force you to do what you choose not to. Including overnight, you can prevent wet dreams by willingly emptying the prostate and seminal glands, whose fullness triggers an avalnache at night. No nervous system expenditure / neurochemical desensitization. No increased perception of effort and difficulty due to prolactin. No need for long sleep in order to feel physically prepared. I definitely think it helps during unavoidable sleep deprivation. Though the brain still suffers. ㅤ

Cyfris · Accepted Answer

Yes absolutely a loyal man can. An unloyal man can take out the garbage and cheat. It is about the man not the temptation.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Yes. My ex has gone many times without me and never did anything with another woman. He was very loyal and trustworthy. Plus his friends that frequented the bar with him would have put him in his place if he tried. He had good friends like that. But he wasn't the type to ever do anything like that when we were together.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Well, there's a lot of single women who frequent bars just to meet guys. And if he's married or already has a girlfriend, well, that only makes some of them try hard to get with them and do you know what with them.
It happens!!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

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Yes, a guy in a serious relationship can absolutely go to a bar and stay loyal. A bar is just a place: music, drinks, people flirting, people chilling. The real issue is his boundaries.

If he respects you, no lovebombing strangers, no secretive behavior, no deleting messages, no “just a friend” lies.

Green flag: he tells you where he’s going, who with, and doesn’t act defensive.
Red flag: he hides it, goes with flirty friends, or has a history of cheating or heavy flirting when drunk.

ohsheeT · Answer

I have to say yes. Because to be honest I'm not going to go to the bar not unless she's coming with me.
we are a team. I dont need a boys out. Night

A boy's out day would be great just to go dirt bike riding or building something whatever but no not going to a bar she would have to come with me

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, but. . . the best way to deal with temptation is to avoid it. The best way to show respect for a partner is to never doing anything that would make her question your loyalty.

AviatorTom · Answer

I've done that many times. Loyalty is an easy choice

WhitneySnow · Answer

Sure. A guy can go out to a bar and not try to cheat. He could go by himself and just have a drink or go with his friends and hang out with them without trying to pick up girls. Unless he’s super hot or obviously rich, girls won’t bother him if he and his friends don’t bother them.

KimmySchmit · Answer

Absolutely. Clubs maybe not. Just kidding. But a cheater will always cheat no matter where they go. As a rule try to avoid suck low value men.

Screenwriter · Answer

There's nothing wrong with going to a bar at night if one feels like having a drink. But going to a bar to pick someone up means the person is NOT in a serious relationshp.

Sometimes a person wants to go out, try a fancy drink, chat with the bartender or someone at the bar, then go home. Nothing wrong with that. It's not disloyal.

MontBlanc · Answer

Yes, a guy can go to a bar and stay loyal.

Loyalty isn’t about avoiding certain places, it’s about boundaries, respect, and commitment to the relationship.

Trust and communication are what really keep a relationship strong, not just physical location.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Depends on the guy and the incentive he has to stay loyal.  Some guys are faithful. Some guys are manwhores. Some women make it easy to stay loyal. Some women give a man every reason to replace her.

Nik1hil · Answer

Yes he can, Guys don't actually get attention or Approched by women..

If he doesn't have energy to approch women or is going to just hang out with friends..

Then he will easily stay loyal..

You should spend a week as a Men and see, that there is literally no attention or approaching from women on men!

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Oh come on, a bar is just a social place. What's the link with cheating? There's zero link. Maybe you're talking about clubs and then things are a little different, but bars are not clubs at all.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Well sure a guy can but does it mean he will? That's the hard part to know because there is good reasons to go to a bar like seeing your other guy friends for a drink.
So then it could be just that. But then it could also not.

HighValue · Answer

I think people in relationships shouldn't go to bars or clubs without their partner present.

Bricealan · Answer

@coxoabean He should/can if he has any integrity

FreyaRed · Answer

Maybe. It's like cleaning land mines, some demining specialists will survive to retirement age but a lot will not do. It's same with women who allow their men alone to night clubs and bars.

exitseven · Answer

I have gone to bars by myself many times. I never strayed.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes he can. Remember this. It's not the place that makes a guy cheat. It's the guy. If he wants to cheat, he will and he doesn't need a bar to do that.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Go with him. If he doesn't want to bring you that's really the test... Assuming you know how to keep your cool

nolabels · Answer

Sure, no problem. I've never been one to frequent bars, but when I have visited them, I've remained loyal.

Ironco · Answer

I do it all the time, it's not too hard..  Don't always assume a guy is cheating on you, he's just letting off steam with his buddies.

Staximus · Answer

If you're in a relationship with somebody and they go to a bar with their friends then you probably don't have much to worry about. If they are going to a bar alone then you might have a problem.

jazzy34 · Answer

Sounds like you're jealous or you have trust issues. Sounds like a personal problem, my dear.

Caughtulookin · Answer

A guy that isn't loyal can't go to grocery store and stay loyal.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

What seems to be the problem? It’s just a regular bar, not a covert bordello?

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Of course... my fiance goes for a couple drinks with his work mates or friends without me

Shiprex · Answer

Yes, bars are just places to watch sport and meet friends then head home to the missus

Cubus · Answer

Yes. Go drinking, go with friends. You dont need to go find a mistress.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I've dont it before. Its really not hard. But why do people still go to bars its a sleazy place to go

blackeagle007 · Answer

I don’t go to bars at all. Gotten a dui, never again

Anonymous · Answer

i agree with the ai love doctor brad on this one. it depends on the guy. those places don't HAVE to be for hookups

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some can.

Zionne · Answer

nope, i wouldn't allow that

MissSunshine2 · Answer

Of course he can.

RavVid · Answer

It is regrettably easy to stay loyal.

jahaims · Answer

Lmfao ignorant af question

Loki97 · Answer

Yes, but women can’t.

Mike_Hum · Answer

you've never been in a bar?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, if he is decent, he can.

MereAnarchy · Answer

Guys go to bars. It's called 'real life'.

slatyb · Answer

Yes, we can.

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