It’s ok to go to a bar with friends on occasion but it shouldn’t be a continuous thing or a priority , And he shouldn’t be staying there for long periods of time out of respect for his relationship with you. It’s a red flag if he isn’t inviting you to the bars as well and immediately excluding you from going , if he is doing that to you , then that means he is more than likely being up to no good and not telling you the truth about some things. You should always be his top priority , the same way you make him yours , if he isn’t making you a top priority then you are probably best to reconsider that relationship with him and don’t waste anymore of your time with him. A guy that truly loves his partner doesn’t make his friends and bars a priority over her , he includes her in all his decisions the same way he wants her to do for him.
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Personally, I don't think it's right for either party. Because those are places specifically designed to meet people of the opposite gender, AND with alcohol involved. That's not appropriate for someone who is in a long term relationship. Now I will say this, a man can get away with going to there and having nothing happen IF he is determined to be faithful, because some guys aren't faithful when they go to bars and clubs. But a man who is faithful can get away with it some more because many girls will not approach him. A woman on the other hand is much tougher because guys WILL approach them, regardless of if they are determined to be faithful or not. But regardless, it's bad to go to bars while in a relationship unless you're going together. That's my perspective.
No its actually fine if his friends aren't pieces of shit that egg your boyfriend on to do not so relationship friendly things like flirt with other women or actually cheat on you with other women which some friend groups do. It's best to meet the friends to feel them out and make sure they are decent guys that won't do this.
If he is not hitting on other women, or "going home with him," then I don't think there should be a problem with him going to the bar with his friends... especially if he is a man that you know you can trust. And if you cannot trust him, then why are you in a relationship with him?
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Ah, the age-old question of enjoying nightlife while navigating the waters of a relationship. Picture this: you're in a relationship, is it a crime to hit a bar with your pals? Not at all! It's all about trust, communication, and understanding boundaries. If your partner's informing you and staying connected, it's a sign of respect and trust.
Now, about the mystery of the post-hangout illness - it could be anything, really. Stressing over it might just add unnecessary tension. The real cocktail to focus on here is transparent communication and trust.
As long as you both feel comfortable and the outings don't hurt the relationship, there's no harm in a little fun. Just mix it with a dash of honesty about what's going down. 🍹
What do you think? Is a bit of freedom in a relationship the secret ingredient to happiness, or are there more recipes to explore? Let's chat and spill the tea! 🎉
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There is nothing wrong with him going to a bar, especially with his guy friends. Why would you want to control him to the point of not letting him spend time with his friends? Are you that insecure in your relationship? Ease up on him... you'll both feel better about it.
Nah but grown adult men shouldn't have any interest in going to bars past about the age of 24. It's childish in my opinion
I don't view bars as a place to meet women (or people in general), or even as a place to socialize with people I already know.
It's just a place to go eat if nothing better is around, or if they are known for great food.
I also don't drink alcohol, and I'm not interested in talking up strangers at all, let alone while eating. I'm also not interested in sports, and thats all those TVs ever play in bars. Pool is also boring, so unless they have arcade cabinets and it doesn't smell bad, I'm not staying long.
its like you're asking if its ok to go to pizza hut by yourself when you're in a relationship, and yes, it is.It's a bar. You go there to drink and have a good time. You CAN pick girls up there because it's a place you can socialize with others, but if you're in a relationship, obviously you shouldn't be doing that and any decent person would not. If I'm in a relationship, anytime I go to the bar, my partner is invited as well, my best friend just wants it to be me and him and catch up on life or have a pick-me-up.
not terrible, but I think it's asking for trouble when it's not needed. should be prioritizing girlfriend's, but of course, spending time with guys doing guy stuff. stay away from chicks.
focus is create security and trust...
then again I'm not into that crap...
That shouldn’t be a question and you should never put pressure on him to choose you over his friends either. It doesn’t seem right that he has to cover up the drinking though if that’s what it was , it’s dishonest and why cover up a few beers with friends?
It’s fine for him to go out with his friends. It’s healthy even. So long as he’s not making bad decisions or doing it every weekend, let him keep his Bro time. If you cut it off too hard you’ll make enemies of all his buddies and they will be campaigning against you on the sidelines.
Hanging out with your guy friends is normal. Best way to destroy your relationship is to try and stop him from being friends with his guy friends.
That doesn't mean he should be hanging out with them and ignoring you all the time, but as long as he is spending time with you then no reason to worry about him spending time his the boys
No its not wrong for a guy to go for a drink with his mates/bros - you try controlling him and you will loose him,
Everyone needs time away from their SO's - If they don't have it they'll start banging heads. fact of life!
Fucking hell kiddo, he's your boyfriend, not your husband or child under curfew!
Get help for your insecurities and control issues. That poor bastard needs to run, as you're clearly the "psycho ex" type.
If he's just there with his friends and isn't cheating with other women, then I don't see any issue. It's just like how women have a Girl's Night out, except it's bros instead.
Nothing wrong with going to the bar as long as he isn't flirting with other girls or hooking up with them. He is communicating with you count yourself lucky not many guys would communicate that stuff
I think its normal for guys to go out for guys nite at bars as long as they don't pick up girls and cheat. It's tough to trust people not to cheat but you have to try.
going to pub with his mates is normal. What's not normal is if he never wants you there with him. Tell him you'd like to join him for some darts or pool one night
You are annoying and insecure. He does my owe you shit and he's most likely looking to meet hot, confident, mentally stable women because you're just aggravating and insecure.
Nah, a strip club is one thing, but drinking with the blokes is a masculine tenant
In your early twenties, a bar is just a hang out spot. Yes, girls will be there, but have a little trust. It'd be different if you've caught him cheating in the past or perhaps if you had kids
have a talk with him. If he’s doing nothing wrong then he would be happy to have a discussion about it
No, not at all. It is fine for anyone to go to a bar, it is called socializing.
no of course not many are like restaurants as long as you don’t talk to other women no problem look at Buffalo Wild Wings
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