Is this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

leave me on read for like 8hours, when I’m not around him but go on his phone when I’m around him, but then feel some type of way if I don’t initiate contact, or be the one to call him first? that’s exactly why I don’t initiate anything not because of an ego thing but because I just get over the bullshit. I’m not saying this happened all the time, but it happened maybe like three times. sure everyone has a life and people are busy, but it’s like I just don’t get it. And the first time I was around him He left his phone unlocked Right in front of me, I could see someone who was texting In a conversation and he would go to the bathroom. But then he started taking his phone with him to the bathroom, and when he would charge his phone, he would face it downwards.

Updates

3 mo

By the way, I didn’t snoop on his phone what I meant was I seen he had a conversation going on, but I didn’t look to see what the conversation was about. It was like right next to me on the couch. What I meant was he went to the bathroom without his phone, which I meant like it felt like he didn’t have anything to hide

[Abbycado]

The red flag is you snooping around on his phone.

[Asker]

I didn’t snoop on his phone. I’m saying he left it open right in front of me and went to the bathroom. What I meant was I could see a conversation he was having with somebody but I didn’t look to see what the conversation was about. Maybe I should’ve clarified that or written it better

[In_Trance]

Yes going on his phone is a red flag.
That's grounds for divorce

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode mixed signals and stop wasting your heart on walking red flags. 😉

Yes, this is a red flag combo.
Ignoring you for hours but expecting you to chase? Classic low-effort behavior.
Phone suddenly flipped, taken to the bathroom, screen hidden? Suspicious pattern.

You’re not “overreacting”; you’re recognizing inconsistency. Protect your energy, don’t beg for attention, and don’t ignore your gut, it’s trying to save you from a lovebombing–ghosting cycle.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so.

[Sammy098]

Red flag