How important is instant physical attraction in a serious relationship to most men?

[MissSunshine2]

[Finchie40]

I will say very important , because most of us men show our love to a girl that we are physically attracted to , by touch and intimacy and affection and words of affirmation, that’s how most men show their emotions to a girl , where girls’ on the other hand are more drawn to the emotional connection with a man and attraction as well , but more emotional. That’s one of the differences between Men and women. Which unfortunately most women don’t understand about men , she will assume he just wants sex with her to get off on her and sadly that can be true as well but if he is investing a lot of his time and attention to her , after they had sex already , that pretty much means he wants to be closer to her , if he disappears after having sex with her , then he just wanted sex and nothing else.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

But how to legitimately know what most men think of anything, there's just too many of them...

[7Phoenix7]

You didn’t answer the question lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@7Phoenix7 How dare you, I did answer the question that was asked, I just didn't answer any collateral implications, can't blame me for that, it would be unfair 😝

[MissSunshine2]

Not unfair, but I thank you for trying to be polite. I know it was done with good intentions.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Good intentions and facetious in that case...
Yet, I believe in what I stood for, humorous or not, when the question is about most men and not about me then my only reasonable option is to look at how impossible it is to answer the question lol

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode how hearts, minds, and a bit of lust actually work together 😉

For most men, instant physical attraction matters, but it’s not everything. It’s usually the spark, not the whole fire. Many guys need some level of “I’d kiss her” chemistry, but emotional connection, comfort, loyalty, and vibe often make them truly fall in love.

No attraction at all = friend zone. Slow-burn attraction = very real, very serious potential 💋

[Summeroflove]

Being instantly attracted isn’t a bad thing but you have to be careful. Relationships that are built over time are the strongest while feeling strongly for someone too fast can get someone too carried away. Just like many women create fantasies in their head of someone that isn’t the real them. Men do it too all the time and manipulate people know how to trigger this as well.

You don’t have to just be someone’s friend for a long time because many times when someone just waits the other person moves on. But that is why friends to lovers can build really strong relationships. You observe someone over time and get to know them as a person then decide if you’re compatible.

[HawkPerception]

I definitely want to feel physically attracted to someone before I date them. I'd say it's pretty important for most men, regardless of if they say so or not.

A lot of physical attraction comes from effort though. Effort to maintain your body and appearance (not to be confused with implants and surgeries). It's something that a lot of girls seem to have trouble understanding these days. Many don't want to put any effort into their physical fitness, and assume a man is shallow if they appreciate their beauty.

[ohsheeT]

This is a good question just because it's deeper than that when you see somebody that you like it's physical but there's also an energy that our body puts out 15 ft all around us and if you understand energy you can feel it thousands of miles away so for me that instant connection that instant physical look is one thing but when you feel the energy with it at the same time it's a whole different story it's a whole different meaning a whole different world and that's when I like what I like in that moment and it grows from there that I have to feel both I don't have to see them but if I can feel them it's on

[MrOracle]

You made a critical distinction - you specified a series committed relationship. That tells me that you understand that there is a big difference between "woman I would bang" and "woman I would be in a committed relationship with".

Everyone wants to be physically attracted to their mate, and that's true of men, but most women over-estimate the level of beauty that most men need to be attracted. Part of that is because most women, especially women in their 20s when they have the highest relationship value they'll ever have, only want guys in the top 10% or less of men, and such men have a ton of options and are able to demand the most, and are very comfortable doing so. And these guys often demand high levels of beauty because they prioritize beauty over everything else - BECAUSE they don't expect the relationship to last very long anyway so they don't worry about long-term compatibility.

The men who actually want a real, long term committed relationship are largely not in the top 10% group. The vast majority don't have especially high beauty standards, and for many, if a woman has one nice feature that is their thing, that's enough for him to overlook other things that maybe aren't so great. For example, maybe a woman has overall looks that are a 3 out of 10. That seems to be a difficult position to be in, right? But let's say that she has really nice boobs, or a great butt, or really nice legs, or even nice feet. While that doesn't change her overall score, to the right guy who likes her best feature, she might be a 7 or 8 to that guy.

The other thing most women absolutely refuse to accept is that, especially for men looking for serious relationships, looks aren't everything and usually not even half of the equation. Morals, values, and life goals - which includes attitude - are HUGE and are the main reasons why men will pass on a woman or walk away.

Most women don't realize how many of them pass the physical looks test, but are almost immediately (and permanently) demoted because of their morals, values, and attitudes. Men will find her physically attractive, but it takes just a few words to demote her from the "potential relationship" category to the "for recreational use only" category or even the "I don't want anything to do with her" category. That's the main reason woman lose the interest of men they want, not her looks.

Of course, there are always a few exceptions - and if you look at the group of exceptions, you will find a lot of them have a poor track record of making good choices.

[CherryLove007]

Ewww "for recreational use only" ... I'm going to flip this to MEN being for recreational use from now on... wth... haven't women been dragged though enough on this planet already than to be degraded with that phrase?

[MrOracle]

I could have used a more pleasant sounding description, and I could have used something that sounded far worse, but I used that phrase to try to get though many women's delusions and get them to understand.

The facts are that men (with occasional exceptions, as always) tend to put every woman he meets that has any relationship potential into one of three groups:

- girlfriend potential
- for recreational use only
- no interest whatsoever

That first category is the smallest, and most women that a given man meets will (permanently) talk her way out of the first category within 5 minutes of meeting her. If he finds her physically attractive, she will go to the second category in most cases, and if he doesn't find her physically attractive or if she is mentally unstable or otherwise problematic, she goes into the third.

The issue is that most girls go around assuming they are in the top category for most guys, when most of them are in the second category, and they are there because of their own behaviors and attitudes

Guys rarely tell them they have been downgraded - some guys don't even realize they've done so - but that's the reality.

And you might say "I don't care what most guys think" and that's fine, but not only will this apply to the men you really like, but those same men have the smallest first category and are the fastest to downgrade a woman.

The fact that most women don't understand this is crazy to me, but I think women need to know this because it's the reason most women aren't getting what they claim to want.

[indissoluble]

You're not going to get approached if you are not seen as physically attractive by that guy and you are not going to give him a chance if you do not think he is physically attractive. It's a two way street. It's pretty basic stuff. If you are attractive, people will want to "mate" with you on first glance, but based on many other factors they will decide if you are worth dealing with and staying with.

[Bricealan]

@MissSunshine2 I don't think it has to be instant physical attraction, a combination of things, yes phyiscal attraction, sbut their voice, how they dress, how they 'present' themselves.

Having my income tax done by work associates, and they invited a girl, (I was 36) and I never did know her age, but we hit it off immediately, and kissed over the table where we were sitting. It went from there

[LiamJHayden]

Probably quite a bit. Unfortunately most guys are blinded by their hormones and ignore the great girls who are not quite beauty queens but who would treat them spectacularly and instead opt for the toxic hotties who end up dumping them after bleeding them dry in those "serious" relationships.

[Spencer10]

Hey a attractive woman will always get my attention... so there is instant attraction but for it to get serious i will need a lot more than that.

[Starlux]

Very important to have physical attraction. Tells you instantly that they take care of themselves. When average weight of course. Then building up a bond. Saving when you are both ready for physical bonding and are on the same page.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If they’re heterosexual? It’s most likely their first priority.

[Phoenix98]

No man walks up to a woman they don't find attractive to ask them out.

[Iron_Man]

It’s important do you see anybody for example dating the elephant man? They have to have attraction that's what gets your foot in the door

[dudeinohio]

Moderate. There has to be some attraction at first, then later, a great personality takes over the attraction.

[AngryCarl3]

It's not that important to me. It's important that we connect emotionally.

[888theGreat]

Good looks gets the door opened. Personality /Traits seal the deal

[RedInnocent69]

It’s what prompts most relationships that become serious

[krin_m]

It is important to me, but not the only thing.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Its very important to me cause I'll never try to make you mine if im not attracted to you

[exitseven]

it is a big plus.

[NathanDavis]

very... it's definitely in the top six

[Caurav1997]

Very very very very important

[Anonymous]

I think it's very important.

[Anonymous]

It's very important for me.

[beefcakebradybatson]

EXTREMELY !!!

[Anonymous]

Not important at all