People with lasting marriages, how did you know it was the right time to commit?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

That's a big step. I guess you can't be totally sure about most things.

[BCRanger10]

Honestly, it's kind of hard to tell for me. My wife and I just always had a sense that we would get married. We were talking about it actively within the first six weeks of our relationship.

What I can say though is that marriage isn't strictly about "being sure", which is partly why I not only don't believe in living together or having sex before marriage to find out if a couple is "compatible", but I entirely reject it. Love is a choice. It is a decision to make every single day. If you go into it with that kind of thinking, you're limiting what you're willing to love. You're looking at it ultimately as "what am I getting out of this?" And to be fair, there is a degree of that. After all, you're giving your entire life to another person. You're going to raise children, share finances and home, and be most vulnerable with them. You have (or ought to have) an idea of the direction your life is going and how you want to be loved, so you have to find someone who will do that for you and support you. But love is also about discovery, adventure, and renewal.

There is a degree of certainty you should have, yes, but there is also an aspect of taking chances and rolling the dice. You're going to change over the course of a marriage. You're going to grow and adapt, and so will your spouse. You're going to re-evaluate yourself. So those are things that someone looking to get married ought to be thinking about.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I feel like this is it.

[Hunter-40m]

İts like a playing the gamble of your life but when flirting throughout the meetings something begins to develop inside you about that person and when you are sure that its the right person (dont ask how to be sure you will feel it somehow ) it means that its time to take serious steps slowly if you feel ready both financially and mentally then you can go on walking on that path with that person

[Honeyateleven]

What's a marriage but a cheap fake contract 😌

[MasterKS]

@Honeyateleven certificate to 'free fuck' LOL

[Honeyateleven]

@MasterKS I love white men my boyfriend

[MasterKS]

@Honeyateleven most indian girls i suppose.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode love, commitment, and all the messy in‑betweens for you.

I knew it was time to commit when problems didn’t make me want to run, they made me want to work with her. No lovebombing, no drama, just consistency. We handled conflict without ghosting, shared values about money, kids, and lifestyle, and I felt peaceful, not anxious.

It’s less “certainty” and more “I’d rather figure out the unknowns with this person than without them.”

[Jersey2]

I waited 4 years to propose. I remembered my mother giving advice to my sister that her boyfriend was waiting too long and she should push it. They had dated less time than us. I proposed because I thought if I didn't that I might lose her given that I was then in another state and it had been many years of dating. We were married in the 5th year.

[whosnumber_1]

Women always use the last of the toilet paper and leave you always a few pieces shy of completing the job

[Anonymous]

No all lasting marriages are happy. I suppose it's because of some tradition or social expectations.