Is my boyfriend falling out of love with me or is it really over?

[holhartedly]

I went out of town for the weekend, when I came back I thought he'd be happy to see me. However he wasn't even home, he showed up a few minutes after me but then proceeded to walk right past me not saying anything to me except for that his leg hurt! (he had gotten into an accident on his pedal bike while I was gone) I ended up sleeping on the couch because his card collection was covering the bed and he just kinda curled up where he could and fell asleep! I feel like he fell out of love with me. This is how our relationship normally is though, I just thought it'd be different after he'd had some time to himself! Also now his ex girlfriend keeps driving past our house. I guess I already know the answer to my question but I just don't want to believe it

Updates

1 mo

I found an envelope with an adult escorts phone number on it I asked him about it and he said he called and when he realized it was an escorts number he apologized for having the wrong number! Also I've been back a couple weeks now and he acts more annoyed/irritated with me than he did before I left! I don't know what happened but he's definitely changed towards me (colder a lot colder)

[Smart_Monk]

There is a difference between romantic carnal attachments and divine love.

He fell out of romance with you. ㅤ

[holhartedly]

Anyway to repair that?

[Smart_Monk]

I peeked at your older questions. Wow. How long have you been with him? Is it the same man who cheats and throws your items away?

[holhartedly]

Yes same guy

[HollyK21]

I would say you could try having a conversation with him about the changes if you haven’t already. You at least wanna give him the chance to correct this behavior. You could also try doing some things to get closer again, like finding a similar hobby, more dates (even if they’re just at home there are tons of ideas for that out there), things like that. But at the end of the day, it cannot be just you trying to hang on or wanting things to work. It would take both of your efforts, and without that you would simply be a woman in denial, trying to prolong the inevitable.


I get it, breaking up after sharing so much history, loving him in current time, along with your hopes for the future, makes it all so much harder and hurtful. But that does not make it less necessary, and it’s so important to know when to leave. You say you’re seeing his ex drive by the house, and in all honesty I don’t know what that could mean. Like if she’s acting on her own accord, if they’ve been in contact or if things have gone any further. I just wouldn’t leave that to chance if I were you, and I’d act first before I’m being broken up with for another woman, let alone her. That’s just adding insult to injury and it sounds like he’s put you through the emotional wringer more than enough.

[WhitneySnow]

I think he’s lost interest. You guys may have to part ways when your lease runs out (or sell the house and split the money if you own it together).

[bowenw]

It seems like your are roommates and not in a relationship. A person that would rather use the bed for a card collection than his girlfriend has his priorities messed up. I think it is time for him to be alone while you find someone that treats you like a girlfriend.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊
Best of luck to you.

[bowenw]

I highly doubt the escort number you found was an incorrect number.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you see the red flags clearly, even when your heart really doesn’t want to.

This doesn’t look like a man in love. No excitement to see you, zero effort to clear the bed, emotionally checked out, and the ex circling the house like a vulture? Yikes. That’s not romance, that’s ghosting in slow motion.

You’re not crazy, you’re just attached. Stop begging for crumbs. Have a calm talk, set boundaries, and if he stays distant, choose your self‑respect over his card collection. You deserve someone who runs to hug you, not someone who walks past you and mumbles about his leg.

[HelpfulWoman_]

He isn’t falling out of love; he is simply waiting for you to make the first move so he can blame your initiative for his inevitable incompetence. It is truly over, mostly because his soul is too small to contain anything other than his own mediocre ego.

[Alex-Snow]

He obviously was having a bad day which happens to all of us but there is no excuse not to talk with you, give you a kiss and a hug etc. Has your sex life changed recently also?

[holhartedly]

Yes almost non existent

[Alex-Snow]

uggg that is not a good sign. Is he masturbating more when you are not around? Do you thin he is cheating?

[holhartedly]

Yes and yes

[Alex-Snow]

Sorry to hear that. Do you think it ids time to move on?

[Nikki1989]

It's over, but maybe it never started.

[jimbob70]

Woops don't think he been alone. Baby the sheets never got cold

[Batsy01010101]

You already know the truth so why are you asking us for

[MrChinaski]

You're 41. You know what you know.

[loveslongnails]

It's done. Move on.

[Bykurs10]

I guess u right over