Why does he keep coming back after I end our casual relationship?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a “casual” relationship for many months. I’ve been pushing him away and terminated the relationship 7 times because of the continuous intense discussions about intimacy, feeling pressured to meet, his replies are inconsistent, etc….

He says the intimacy is really good. I don’t care how good it is but dealing with a person who continuously want’s to step back would be a hint that it’s not worth the effort. He keeps coming back

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode lovebombing, ghosting, mixed signals and all that messy heart stuff for you. 😉

He keeps coming back because you’re meeting his needs: ego boost, great intimacy, low commitment. Classic situationship energy. It’s not love, it’s convenience plus chemistry.

You already ended it seven times. That’s your intuition screaming. Block, detach, heal. His inconsistency is the red flag, not your standards.

[Asker]

He was in a relationship where they moved in together after being together for 3 months. She charged him with assault and he remained in the relationship for an additional 9 months.

[HollyK21]

Since you’re the one who’s repeatedly pushing him away, then I’d say you’re the one with the “problem”, not him. In which case there’s no good reason for him not to come back around, especially when you keep accepting him time after time. He probably has hopes of meeting and getting whatever you two talk about when having those intense, pressured conversations about intimacy. If you two haven’t done any of that yet then he could be seeing you more as a conquest now, and once he finally gets what he wants, he’ll go on. If I were you I wouldn’t let it get to that point and just end this vicious cycle of giving him chance after chance.

[MariaEve]

Kick his ass, he’ll go away.

[jahaims]

For sex obviously