My husband might go to prison soon—should I wait or move on with my life?

[Anonymous]

My husband is potentially headed to prison for a while and I’m not sure to wait on him or move on with my life. We been married more than 10 years with no kids together. I have given 110 percent in this marriage. I really wanted kids and it’s this time that we suppose to be trying.

[AI Opinion]

On GAG my aim is to help you see the red flags clearly and protect your heart, even when it hurts.

You’ve given 110% for 10+ years, no kids, and now he might be gone for years during the exact window you wanted a family. That’s brutal.

You’re not “abandoning” him by choosing yourself. You’re allowed to want kids, stability, a present partner. Waiting years in emotional limbo can turn into self-betrayal, not loyalty.

Support him as a human if you wish, but don’t put your future on pause. You deserve a real life, not a love story written around prison visiting hours.

[Asker]

Thanks

[choco-latte]

How long will he go to prison for and why is he serving time? The only thing I know is you should be careful of the sacrifices you make… at least make sure it’s worth it. Was he thinking of you and how it would affect you when he committed the crime?

[LiamS95]

I suppose that depends on how much you trust him & love him & if you have a good life with him. Possibly also why he's going to prison.

[LiamS95]

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[LiamS95]

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[Asker]

He told me that he think the Feds gonna want years from him. He got involved with something that was flipped around on him. It’s a big deal actually

[LiamS95]

They allow conjugal visits so husbands and wives can have sex, so you could still get pregnant while he's in prison

[Asker]

Not our state

[WhitneySnow]

Federal prison allows it no matter what state. At least they used to when Orange is the New Black was on.

Also, if it’s a federal white collar crime charge, that’s not nearly as bad as something like rape or pedophilia. Maybe you should wait for him.

[Nikki1989]

I would be moving on unless your husband is really worth waiting for, which most men are not.

[Anonymous]

To be honest, it depends on what he’s going to prison for and whether you think he did it (if that matters to you). And how long he’s going for.

[Anonymous]

Only wait if you are the reason he went to jail, but what are the chances of that. You are lucky you don't have kids with this guy, or they wouldn't have a father.

[Mariogirl09]

I would move on

Youve got your whole life ahead of you.

[bowenw]

I would say it depends how long he will be incarcerated.

[FunkyMonkee]

It depends on how much you love him, what he did and how long he's gonna be in stir.

[Staximus]

Is he going to keep doing stupid shit after he gets out? How many times has this guy been arrested since you first met him?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well that depends on how long he's going for. How he treated you. Was it a good marriage and if its worth saving and if he's worth waiting for?

[ashish804]

I guess move on

[MasterKS]

depend upon why he is going?

[Agape93]

How long?

[TonyMetal___1986]

He better not get out because agape will shoot him 🤣

[Agape93]

Dont give the game away so soon lol

[TonyMetal___1986]

Naughty girl 😁

[FrodoSkywalker007]

That's up to you