Am I wrong for locking up my prescription painkillers from my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have a few health conditions that can be quite painful. They require me to keep a fairly strict diet and exercise regime to give my body the best chances, but also, I have access to strong painkillers for bad days when I still need to function, and REALLY strong painkillers for REALLY bad days when I can afford to just relax.

I try to avoid taking them as much as I can because a) I don't want a tolerance and b) I don't want to get addicted.

I've noticed lately the last few times that it seems like there's less there than there should be. I thought maybe I'd taken them and not remembered, so I started just noting when I took them and how many, and sure enough, there's more missing.

I asked my girlfriend about it and she admitted to taking them when she had "REALLY bad period pain". I told her she is NOT to take my prescription pain killers, plus if I go through them too quickly they won't renew my script and I may not be able to get them when I need them, I told her I was really annoyed she didn't even ask, and basically it's illegal to take someone else's prescription medication.

She got a bit annoyed and making up excuses "you don't know as a man how bad this pain is" and "if you cared about me you'd care about my pain".

I told her to stop taking my medication, and she got fired up and said "don't tell me what I can and can't do".

So, I packed them in my briefcase, and that day bought a locking safe and put it in my closet.

It took about two weeks before she started making comments about me "hiding" my meds, like I "don't trust her". I said they aren't hidden, they're locked in my safe. She demanded the PIN, saying I shouldn't hide things from her, and I said that I don't trust her not to touch my meds, and she's not getting the PIN.

She brought some of her friends in on the argument, they're on her side, but I'm not budging. I said if she needs meds, see her GP. She said doctors don't understand and won't give her any. Am I really in the wrong here?

[SueShe]

Yes, you should lock your prescription meds away, not just painkillers but any medication that requires a prescription. You may be the one that will be sorry if doubt starts building with the pharmacist or your GP that gives you your prescription meds if you start asking for a new pack when it should still be half full.

That may raise questions and possibly even an investigation to see whether you are trafficking those meds and selling them to unauthorized users.

A prescription pain killer may be good for one ailment but not for another one and if your girlfriend uses yours for her ailment, she may do more damage to her own body.

[ChicoFromThe305]

No you aren't wrong, they are your prescriptions, prescriptions are controlled for a reason and if it's bad enough that she's taking your medication think of it this way if it helps, some prescriptions are prescribed because they can be harmful to those that don't require them, she should be taking normal pain killers for her periods if she must take pain killers, the dosage you take for your medical condition might be harmful to her body considering period pains is a normal cycle for a woman's body, hitting it with strong prescriptions can be more harmful to her organs just cause she wants simpler periods, keep locking away your prescriptions, it's the best decision.

[Anonymous]

If she keeps pushing let her have them then report she took them to the police, prescription meds in unprescribed hands is a fair charge

[Anonymous]

It's a felony to take someone else's schedule II medicine and a felony to allow it.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you see the red flags without gaslighting yourself, and maybe flirt with your brain a little while we’re at it 😏

You’re absolutely NOT wrong. She stole your meds, ignored you, tried guilt-tripping you, then rallied friends to pressure you. That’s not love; that’s manipulation.

Locking them up is smart and necessary. Your prescription is for your body, your pain, your legal responsibility. Her “if you cared about me…” line is pure emotional manipulation.

If she’s in that much pain, she needs a doctor, not your controlled substances. Huge boundary issue here, and honestly, if she keeps minimizing it, that’s a blazing red flag for the relationship too.

[jahaims]

Have some balls and dump her