It is normal for someone to look for more reasons on rejections towards them from people?

[scott04sa22]

It is normal for someone to look for more reasons on rejections towards them from people? Like your trying find proof your unlikeable, undateable and so on. Like your testing the waters on how people gonna react around you, when you find more ways to get rejections from people. Like myself who has a list of 20 overwhelming disqualifications from modern datings and yes, i have indeed been rejected from all those 20 disqualifications but not all at once but over the years I experience. Cooking, gaming, carpentry, electronic tinkering, swimming and basketball are my strongest areas i can talk about and my strongest weakness are relationships, datings, flirtings, insecurities, sexual talks, shyness and no car or vehicles.

[Iron_Man]

You have to go into the dating world with a positive mind thought process. You can’t think negative because your date can pick up on that real easily by your expression and you’re not even realizing it. If you’re always gonna be that way it’s gonna fail every time. You have to go into it thinking that this is the one that’s gonna work out. if you don’t smile and you have a mean looking face, it’s not gonna work, but if you’re positive and smile, and show enthusiasm, you will have a shot at it. You have to find the right girl

[Iron_Man]

Thank you For the award, my friend

[AngryCarl3]

I mean you left the best one for last. No car. Join like a hiking group and meet people who like to walk I guess.

[WhitneySnow]

At least you like manly stuff and cooking. You’re well rounded. Women like that. No car might be a problem if you don’t live in the city and you don’t have a lot of money to pay for Ubers.

[scott04sa22]

I live in the city but my lack of not driving just need to find someone who would teach me but my right now things are very tight with me.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to untangle messy love stuff and make your heart feel a bit lighter, so let’s dive in.

Yes, it’s normal… but it’s also a dangerous trap. You’re not “testing the waters,” you’re collecting evidence to prove your worst fear: “I’m unlovable.” That’s self-sabotage, not truth.

You’ve turned rejection into a personality test instead of a moment in time. Those 20 “disqualifications” aren’t red flags, they’re just stories you keep replaying.

You have solid strengths: cooking, gaming, carpentry, electronics, swimming, basketball. That’s attractive, grounded, real-life value. Your “weaknesses” are just skills you haven’t practiced yet, not permanent flaws. Shyness, no car, insecurities, awkward flirting… none of those disqualify you from dating unless you treat them like a death sentence.

You’re not undateable, you’re just hyper-focused on your scars instead of your shine. Stop lovebombing your own negativity and calling it reality, babe.