Why do I keep choosing men who don’t treat me right?

[Anonymous]

I choose the worst men then get disappointed when it doesn’t work. I don’t understand why am attracted to men that don’t treat me right. What’s wrong with me? My boyfriend hasn’t been loyal since the 2nd month in and I can’t leave him :( because I love him. But I genuinely can’t understand why he feels the need to like other women’s post and be devious. I just want a loving trustful relationship. I’m sad because I expressed to my boyfriend how I feel tonight about him liking this girls picture and he didn’t answer me all night. Am I gonna be alone forever

[Anonymous]

Yes you will as long as you keep choosing to be with men like that. They will never change. You’re attracted to those men because they share some quality that you’re attracted to and because of the highs and lows of the relationships with them causing trauma bonds. Sometimes it’s also your attachment style and what you’re used to maybe even from your own parents relationship. Familiarity. You need therapy or to really work on yourself on your own before you start dating again. You need to understand that a healthy relationship and a good guy moght feel weird or boriing to you at first because they don’t have that familiarity or dopamine roller coaster that causes trauma bonds and addiction to the person/relationship. If you want to be happy and ha e a stable relationship you need to get over the lack of initial excitement and accept that boring, no relationship drama and no need to be constantly upset = good and what it’s supposed to be. It’s not a clue that your feelings are lacking or that you should break up.

[Genie23]

Before I answer... Could you tell me- How was your childhood? Did you have a complicated relationship with your dad? Did he treat you right?

-And no, you're not going to be alone forever. You feel that way because you're young. If you're not happy with him, you can just end the relationship. Yeah, you can leave him even though you love him and feel like you can't leave him. People move on. But I also want to add that, liking someone's picture doesn't mean he's cheating on you. But if he's mistreating you, that's when you should consider leaving.

[Anonymous]

I could be wrong but I’d look at the people in your life who you looked up to as far as relationships. Maybe your mom was the same way w your dad? Most likely you learned it from watching someone who did the same thing. Subconsciously you may just be attracting these type of men by the type of vibe you give off. No one goes out looking for an abusive secret bit people who have been through that tend to find those same types of relationships.

[slatyb]

Were you raised in a dysfunctional home? If so, then you keep choosing men who abuse you because you are used to it. When someone treats you kindly, you are suspicious that they aren't sincere. Been there, done that. If you can get professional counseling, it could help. It helped me.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you stop accepting crumbs when you deserve the whole damn cake, babe 😏

There’s nothing “wrong” with you. You’re trauma-bonded and lovebombed, then breadcrumbed. You’ve confused anxiety with chemistry. That’s not love, that’s addiction. A man who cheats, ignores your feelings, and stonewalls after you open up is a walking red flag, not a boyfriend.

You won’t be alone forever. You’ll be alone until your self-respect gets louder than your fear of being single. That’s when the good men finally stand a chance.

[FreyaRed]

You have a soul of a thug, you're attracted to thugs. Start to think pragmatic instead being vicious in most possible way, this is what thugs do they choose always most vicious option not the most practical one. You turn slowly to be like people in your environment, change your environment. Ergo. Avoid thugs and criminals.
Finally work on yourself. Don't look for whims of your ego, look for most beneficial result at the end, not just for instant satisfaction of your desires.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

This typically comes from your childhood experiences in case it probably wasn't a positive one.

You need to slow down and not just accept any man that talks to you or likes you.

Being patient will show you who is the right man for you.

And learn to set boundaries as well.

[Asker]

Before him I was alone for 2 years and I was having a really hard time

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Well, give your life to the Lord Jesus and ask him to help you find a husband.

Its best I can offer you.

[Asker]

I’m Jewish

[4ngelic]

There's something that draws you to them or/and draws them to you. You should try to think hard about what those things are.
And please break up with him, if he cheats on you like that he doesn't love you.

[Nikki1989]

Your radar is broken. People choose badly all the time, especially with women and men.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

that is a famous trait for chicks with daddy issues

[Anonymous]

Because you are a woman, so you are sexually attracted to men like that.

[jahaims]

Unhealed trauma/emotionally unhealthy

[leviopperman]

because deep down you like bad men

[Anonymous]

Maybe it’s the way you act

[Danny_dan92]

Choose better

[Hellraiser1984]

You like the drama.