Confessing your feelings for someone. Success stories?

[csk28]

For all you men and women, please share your stories when it came to you telling a friend that you like/love them. What happened? How did you talk to them about it? Is confessing a good idea? Thanks

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Well I'm currently dating my best friend, and have been for almost four and a half years. For a while there I was kinda trying to fight my feelings about her. I didn't know if it was gonna work out, or even if they were real. Still I couldn't get over it, so eventually, I decided to make a move.

At first I was really nervous because I wasn't sure if she would feel the same way, or what. I was a little worried that it would freak her out, or things would get awkward, because I think we all know that girls tend to go respond to these things by saying they don't feel the same way and then avoiding the guy like the plague, if she doesn't feel the same way. Not always, but sometimes.

So I decided to drop hints. Small at first, but increasingly bold as things went on. I guess some idiot part of me figured she'd catch on and maybe get used to the idea. Thing is, she didn't even notice. She didn't even notice when I took her out on Valentine's day, and bought her a cake. So instead after all the stuff I tried with no reaction, I decided to just tell her how I felt.

I just told her that I had something I had to tell her, and that it was important. I said that I liked her and have felt this way for a couple months. I kinda went on about my feelings in a big speech and went into detail about all the things I tried to drop hints, and that by now I was only telling her how I felt so that there was no misunderstanding. I told her that I wasn't trying to pressure her, or say that I wanted a relationship, necessarily, but that this was to be honest with her, as that was important to me.

She shot me down.

OK so she wasn't mean about it, but she shot me down. She apologized profusely and gave me a hug and told me how she didn't feel the same way. She also told me how she somehow totally missed all the hints I gave her. But it was alright. So we agreed to be friends, and we went on with our day just hanging out. I didn't tell her how I felt again after that. I didn't need to. Besides, way I figure if I did, I'd just annoy her or something. I mean who wants to deal with more of that. So yeah we just stayed friends, and it was like nothing happened.

About a month or two later, she and I were hanging out, and I was having a particularly good day. So we both went out to the beer vendors and bought a case of beers. We hung out and watched some movies and stuff, and eventually we ran out of stuff to talk about, and the movies were long done, so I threw up my hands and said "Well I'm out of ideas, what about you?" and she responded by saying "How about I tell you what I've been trying to find the nerve to say all week?".

So she told me that she's had feelings for me for a while, and she's been trying to figure out how to tell me, and that she wants to date me. All that good stuff. So we hugged, kissed, yadda yadda, and yeah, she asked me to be her boyfriend, and seeing as I'm not an idiot, I obviously said yes.

It's been amazing this entire time.

[csk28]

Wow, I'm kinda in the same position as you. I've liked this girl for a year now, ever since the day we met. I felt like the feelings were mutual till workplace gossip scared her off after the first date, saying she didn't want to be more than friends after on month of knowing each other. We flirted and teased each other for a while after but I've never told her how I felt. She has given me signals too. I never talked about her to other coworkers but they seem to be dropping hints about it.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

I say you should try going for it again at some point. I won't say when, as that's not my place, but you should try, and definitely tell her your feelings. Good luck.

[zombiefood]

Well I never told a friend I liked them (though it's happened to me twice that a friend told me. both times the relationship lasted about 6 months) but I've told a guy I barely know.

We met at orientation and I was already in a relationship, when my boyfriend broke up I told the kid I liked him (we kinda kept in touch) and we've been dating ever since, almost a year and a half now. It's the best relationship I've ever had and we love each other more than anything.

Don't be afraid! Be brave and strong! Also, if you want help admitting you like someone check out my article that talks about how to do so!

[toulouse]

you just said "i like you" or was it something else?

thanks, just curious:)

[3336PS]

I told him I like him...a lot. He didn't reply. Don't you. He said not that way. (nither one of us are availabe). We sorta stay in touch(text). Till we ran into ea. other last week. Him with a girl. Now I don't hear from him.

U should tell if you feel that you can still be friends after the rejection. I didn't feel award with him. I can be friends with him and his girl. But seems like he cant...oh well .