What do you do when your boyfriend/girlfriend becomes complacent?

[obligations]

There's always a stage in every kind of relationship (friendship, work, bf/gf, marriage) where both or one of the individuals becomes complacent. It always happens after you've known each other for years and get "bored" of the same stuff every day.

How do you get your other half to not become complacent? How do you get things back to the way they used to be when you first knew each other?

[briven]

cont..Getting Complacent

Taking the relationship and the other person for granted is so easy to do. Sometimes we treat our most important love relationship like an item on a to-do list - "OK, got that done, cross it off."

A story about not taking someone for granted. A high school senior was taking his girlfriend of three years to the senior prom.

Since they had been dating for three years, you would think it would be a given that they were going to the prom together. Not this guy. He arranged the following with her parents: One night when she came in the front door, there was a trail of Hershey kisses leading back to the bathroom. In the bathroom, there were rose petals spread all over the shower, and then another trail of Hershey kisses leading to her bedroom.

On her dresser was this note: "Now that I have kissed the ground you walk on and showered you with roses, will you go to the prom with me?"

Think she said yes?

[obligations]

she would have said yes anyway ;)

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

Keep the spark going by keeping them guessing, trying new, exciting things, and not being predictable. People usually become complacent in a relationship when they feel there's nothing new to be discovered in it(the same old routine, the same results). Just keep your mate on his/her toes (guessing what's new and next to come) to avoid complacency.

[obligations]

part of that is personality. You don't quite know the person, so a lot of what they say or/do is new that you haven't seen before so it's endearing to you. But when you get used to their personality and habits...they don't excite you anymore.

You can't exactly "change" yourself...shouldn't have to be someone you are not.

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

You don't have to change who you are as an individual, just occasionally change or switch up the normal routine in the relationship.

[briven]

Stay true to yourself so that you avoid ending up in a complacent rut

[obligations]

but how do you avoid them becoming complacent. it happens to every type of relationship

[briven]

Mistakes: Bashing the one you are supposed to love seems to have become a national pastime. You know the saying: "Can't live with `em, can't shoot `em."

Relationship Tip: Rebel against the culture and praise your boy in public. When someone tries to pull you into the game, go the opposite way. You will shock a few people, and if it gets back to your partner, it's great foreplay.It's hard to believe, but many people fall into the trap of holding their partner back from using their greatet gifts